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45 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:30pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am enjoying life these days--in an open marriage to a wonderful, sexy man whom I adore. Newlyweds!

I am an open-minded, thoughtful aesthete. I love food and cooking. Art. Books. Music. Fancy shoes. Goofy humor.

I don't exercise as much as I should but I look alright anyway. I love to dance!

I don't know how to ride a bike.

For me life is about balance, about being comfortable in my skin and in a variety of different situations. I adore travel and learning about other cultures, especially through food.

A glass of red wine and a good book are heaven. A table loaded with great food, and surrounded by good friends and great conversation is probably where I am happiest.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working a lot--I love what I do, and I work for myself so I sometimes find it hard to limit my hours.

Fixing up an old house. Kitchen is almost done!

Learning about myself and my partner, questioning monogamy, finding my best path.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making long to-do lists and then ignoring them.
Matching colors.
Artfully arranging things on my mantle.
Throwing my clothes on the floor.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My glasses, my smile, my beeple.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love reading, I am a fiction gal. EG. His Dark Materials (Pullman), A Visit from the Goon Squad (Egan), Cavalier & Clay (Chabon) Anything by Jean Giono, especially Joy of Man's Desiring. Anais Nin, Henry Miller. The Lord of the Rings. For semi-mindless entertainment I adore the Simenon novels about Inspector Maigret.

Also I dig cooking memoirs, like Blood Bones & Butter by Gabrielle Hamilton. And books about sex and relationships, like Bonk by Mary Roach, or Sex at Dawn (amazing read!), or Opening Up by Tristan Taormino.

Not a big TV watcher, but I do love Game of Thrones, Mad Men and the occasional Niners game, and while on Jet Blue I can watch an endless amount of HGTV. Ouch.

I like movies in theory but never seem to carve out time to go. Some faves are Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Room with a View (the one with Helena Bonham Carter), Singing in the Rain. Oh, and old Eddie Murphy. I liked the last Jarmusch movie.

Music: Love love love music. no opera, no country (though bluegrass I like). Wide range in music...right now lots of Glenn Gould playing Bach (especially at work),The National, Andrew Bird, Wild Flad, Erlend Oye, Chris Joss, Ursula 1000, Local Natives. Chic. Parliament. Old REM, Kate Bush, David Sylvian of any era. I love jazz, too, from Sonny Clark to John Zorn. Add in a bit of Bossa Nova, a dose of Yacht Rock, and 3 days worth of funk, and you will have an idea of the 12000 songs in my itunes file.

And food? Papardelle bolognese. Fried artichokes. Pulled pork. Tea leaf salad. Carnitas. Fennel. Fennel pollen. Steak tartare. Tuna tartare. Peaches. English toffee. Collards. Lobster with drawn butter. Spicy green papaya salad. Vindaloo. Bacon (mmm bacon candy). Ramen, rice noodles, buccatini...did I mention I like food?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Prolly in reverse order:
Good sheets and down pillows
Noodles (Any genre will do)
A glass of something (like wine) or a cup of something (like coffee)
My loved ones
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I can get everything done that I am supposed to get done.
Love, sex & relationships
What I am going to eat next.
How I can get out on the dance floor once in a while.
What to pack for my next work trip, which is usually coming up pretty soon.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cutting holes in plywood with my Fein multi-tool.
Washing drywall dust out of my hair so I can go get a yummy dinner.
Or maybe working late.
Or maybe at a dinner party.
Or losing at pool at a dive bar.
Or seeing a live show in a small place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a little shy and a lot picky.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a dashing, handsome man...

Or a gorgeous, slightly butch woman...


You are respectful of my relationship and interested in a friends or friends with benefits situation...

You love food and wine and cocktails as much as I do.

You want to recommend a great book on relationships, especially open relationships or polyamory.)

You like to dance and would like a dance pal. I'm not so well versed in partners dancing, beyond a few swing lessons, but I'm up for trying any style.

Please remember that I am really particular and also too busy to be devoting much time to meeting new people. But you never know!