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31 M Saint Paul, MN

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Last Online
Aug 19
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
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Doesn’t have kids
Has cats

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My self-summary
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I grew up blue collar in the eastern suburbs, but somehow became a city weirdo who loves big words and earns a salary. I hope to wrangle alternative future into the world by invoking: music, science fiction, fringe political work, locavoracity, social theory, intimacy and argument.

My favorite kind of person is REALLY INTO some shit, whatever it is, and tries to bring new things into the world. Craft and complexity are two big credits to humanity. I don't often distinguish between silly and serious.

Strong opinions and sarcasm are delicious. I want someone who will mess with me, challenge me, enjoy weirdness with me. Drop challenging books/music/politics on me. Perhaps above all else I value a partner in hounding out ideas and creation.

I'm looking for a person woven with a certain fiber. It's kinda rare. I know when I see it. So I'm picky with regard to commitment and exclusivity.
What I’m doing with my life
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I realized as a teenager that live music is the closest I get to an authentic religious experience. Consequently I go to a lot of shows: indie rock, folk, hip-hop, a little electronic. The local music scene kept me in the Twin Cities and continues to amaze. I play guitar (inexpertly), and on-and-off try my hand at recording parts of songs.

Dancing and karaoke are two things I want more of in my life.

I pay the bills by writing web software for a great small business here in Saint Paul. I get to wear a lot of hats, pretend I know more than I do, learn a lot, help plan our strategy and collaborate. It's pretty rad. Have you read Valve corporation's handbook for new employees? Sounds boring but actually an artfully amusing and surprisingly hopeful bit of corporate propaganda:

Strangely for a happy midwesterner I have become a traveller. I have friends in DC, Colorado and Seattle who I visit a couple times every year. SF and Boston in the last year.

I believe in social justice and sustainability. Feminism and peace. Bottom-up democracy and autonomy. I've worked on a variety of political projects over the years.
I’m really good at
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Meeting people, being social. Skepticism. Biking instead of driving most of the year. Keeping up some personal practice of movement (yoga, running, climbing). Seeing the world as systems and ideas. Finding interesting happenings around town. Flowcharts. Broad and relentless curiosity.

In groups I'm great at one-liners and sarcasm. I love to tease and play up friendly rivalries. One-on-one I am a great listener and tend to be gentle, patient and silly. Cuddly and affectionate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Right now I am super excited about local bands Pony Bwoy, the Cloak Ox, Actual Wolf, Frankie Lee and Erik Koskinen. All-time local favorites: Lifter Puller, Mark Mallman, Paul Westerberg, Low and Sean Na Na.

Others, in a fragmentary attempt to plot borders: Dylan, Ryan Adams, Melvins, Tift Merrit, Sleater-Kinney, Death Grips, Neko Case, Wilco, Flipper, Nick Cave, Laura Marling, Brother Ali, Das Racist, Tom Waits, Kool Keith, Linda Thompson, MF Doom, Gram Parsons, Marianne Faithful, Pavement, Sonic Youth, Leonard Cohen. Music is my lifeline.

I love sci-fi and fantasy: China Mieville, Jo Walton, Justina Robson, Alan Moore, Ursula LeGuin, Octavia Butler are in the favorites list. Nick Harkaway's The Gone Away World is so good! Best novel of last year. Just finished John Crowley's Little, Big, which is absolutely the opposite of a page-turner but just brilliant. The most thoughtful kinds of heartbreak.

Films at the Trylon Microcinema. Just really, go there, let them make an evening for you. The spread of films there - from weird trash to period-aesthetic to serious documentary to experimental art - is a synecdoche for my interest in the world.

Have you seen the web series High Maintenance? Don't let the pot iconography throw you, this is the most impressive "TV" I've caught in a while: I am not a TV watcher in any regular fashion, but I love occasionally burrowing through a show that's already over (the Wire, the Office, the IT Crowd). Someday I will watch Breaking Bad. Historically: the X-Files, Star Trek TNG/DS9, Adventures of Briscoe County Jr. The Simpsons first 7 or 10 seasons is one of the greatest cultural productions of the 20th century.

Also enjoy performance art, weird dance, lectures, committee meetings, wolves/twins/laughing-at-the-vikings, and video games. Food? Really all of it, from fast food to small plates, but my main impulses are local and well-crafted. Tanpopo, On's Kitchen, Merlin's Rest, Homi, Muddy Waters, Caffe Biaggio, Namaste, cocktails at WA Frost or Icehouse.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
political economy
speculative fiction
the net
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a concert. I am so happy tucked into 7th Street Entry or riding the bar at the Turf Club.

Though I am kind of a culture-culture-culture guy, I do actually get outside. Some of my favorite weekends are up on the north shore.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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high. school. journal. keeper.

OK, also I'm a terrible sleeper. Insomnia etc. Don't take it personally if I don't sleep over.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 21–37
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You occasionally experience an itchy sense that you were meant to live in another world, but were somehow shunted into this one instead. You are collecting a string of artifacts that do not prove, but hint strongly toward, the existence of this other, much less boringly-authoritarian/conformist world. You want to share this evidence and shine it into glowing persuasion.

You want someone to go to that concert, weird film, gallery show, winter walk, ping pong tournament or karaoke night with you.

Or you just like to argue, not in that anal-retentive-pissing-match mode, but affectionately and with feeling.

Signs that you and I might NOT be a good fit: you're looking for the strong&silent type; you are queasy about queer folks; the only pitch you have for yourself is that you're "easy going" and "laid back"; or you're fully committed to nationalism+militarism.