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Last online
Nov 20
6' 3" (1.91m)
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My self-summary
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I value and celebrate human connection, witty and intelligent or stirring conversation, my family and friends, and my connection to my body.

I wrote this book:

and this about my experience on tinder:

I identify as a sex and relationship therapist, track athlete, and author. I have a kind voice, a gentle presence, am fun, smile often, have a very masculine appearance, (I walk by mirrors and wonder who *that* guy is - from 2 to 20 I didn't identify or look like *that* dude, but here I am.) I'm fairly passionate and a bit dominant in bed, and defer decisions to my partner out of the bedroom. I strongly identify as a feminist surrounded by well-educated, powerful women in my circle of family and friends, and I wouldn't have it any other way. (There's a few undergrad and masters degrees in women's studies in the fam.)

I continue compete at a fairly high level in an obscure sport, the decathlon - 10 track events spread over 2 days, including the high hurdles and shot put (my best events) and the high jump (my worst.) It's my spiritual practice, my source of fitness and therapy in one bundle. It keeps me sane. And it's fun to have a community, as there are 8 of us in my little track club. We work out at Kezar stadium mondays and thursdays at 6.

While I am fairly cisgender in appearance, I'm extraordinarily queer positive/friendly, and have actually had more queer and gay girlfriends than I've dated straight women - probably because I am attracted to overt and transparent displays of choicefulness around sexuality, and gay and queer women have been able to step out of the paradigm and define what it is that they want for themselves - and when that (sometimes) loops back to a cis guy, well, I feel pretty chosen and special. That's not to say straight women are not desirable to me - quite the opposite - it's just I have a more difficult time getting to a great second date there.
What I’m doing with my life
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Sex and Relationship Therapy (as my profession), Track and field, , Screenwriting (I've optioned an few scripts and had a feature made - albeit under very independent means)and writing novels. Spending as much time as possible with Friends and Family, personal and professional development (usually simultaneously) , and enjoying a great , blessed life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Life of Pi
Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
Roadside Picnic
Hard Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World

Films: (really difficult to make a short list. But these are probably top-20-ish, not in any order)
The Royal Tenenbaums
Mad Max Fury Road.
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (bad casting, greatest screenplay maybe ever.)
Moonrise Kingdom
Raising Arizona
American Beauty
The Professional
The Empire Strikes Back
Once Upon a Time in the West
Big Lebowski
Raiders of the Lost Ark
Shawshank Redemption
North by Northwest
Pulp Fiction
Seven Samurai
The Matrix
Sixteen Candles
Honorable mention: apocalypse now and blues brothers