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4u-i-seek

51 M Fair Lawn, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:13am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Cancer
Education
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
Chemistry is important on all levels...connecting in mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual ways. If we find someone that has the skills to “put themselves in your shoes”, to be open, honest, with no hidden agendas, compassionate, understanding, considerate, thoughtful, reasonable, forgiving, and have realistic expectations…than a relationship can be fun and very meaningful…that would be worth it.

The kind of relationship I am seeking?
Hmm…How about something like this:

With the right person, anything can be fun, because you like to be together, laughing and joking around with each other. Initial chemistry and compatibility has to be there from the start, otherwise you won’t have any passion, intimacy, or commitment down the road. Good communication skills are essential, if you can’t have the courage to be open and honest, without hidden agendas, and completely sharing thoughts, feelings and intentions, then you can’t really create a close relationship. How could someone understand, be supportive, and help you to get what you want or need, if they don’t even know the real you? Of course it takes risk, but the alternative is to never have a true or meaningful connection with someone.

This is me, and my photos are recent. What would be the point of showing up to a date with someone that you may want to spend the rest of your life with and start things off without integrity? What kind of relationship would ever work out that way, without honesty, trust and respect?

I may sound like I'm so serious, but those who know me can tell you that I'm always making them laugh. I think it’s a good balance between being straightforward, knowing what you want, being serious about your goals, and at the same time, being positive, lighthearted, having a sense of humor, and being able to laugh at yourself, and the silly things we all have to go through.

My life is about my close relationships, it comes down to the fact that I believe people are more important than things; their happiness is more important than ego, or having to be right. It’s about cooperation and making life work for all concerned, rather than competition, taking advantage, or selfishness.

When I was younger, I remember thinking, “If I just had ____ in my life, then I would be happy”, but I soon realized that there’s nothing missing, I'm complete as is. The longing in my heart wasn't there because I need to get something, it’s there because I need to give something, share something, and that’s why I’m here on this site. I'm seeking the one who wants to share this ride with me.

So, if you relate and appreciate what I’m saying, please don’t be shy, or feel limited by “the way things are supposed to be done”, feel free to send me a message. We’re both taking the time to be on this site, and I would hate to think we didn't find each other because I somehow didn't find your profile.

Best of luck!
What I’m doing with my life
Asking the questions and finding the answers.
I’m really good at
Writing songs, performing music, photography, cooking, sports, listening, being philosophical, and giving meaningful advice that is actually appreciated (or so I’m told).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite Books- I read spiritual, new age, self help subject matter.
Favorite Movies- Wonderful Life and Matrix (strangely related).
Favorite Music- All types.
Favorite Food- Italian, Japanese, Indian, Thai,
The six things I could never do without
Coffee
Guitars
Intimacy
Faith
Love
Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If the one I'm looking for is reading this right now.
On a typical Friday night I am
With family, friends, or out and about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It's so private that apparently I don't even know it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You can hit the send button (just kidding).
You have it in you to be the other half of a great relationship.