Smart enough to be attracted to me.
Good looking enough to be attractive to me.
'Seems simple, doesn't it?
I think nearly everyone has heard the old adage, "There's good, fast and cheap...you can have any two." When it comes to dating I've identified a similar triumvirate, "There's attractive, sane and single..." you know the rest. Fortunately, the first two categories are relative, (which gives us all a fighting chance) and even the third seems negotiable to some.
This online dating thing holds great promise yet is often derailed by the introduction of the human element to the equation. The Profile gives a bit of a back-story, (a peek behind the veil, as it were) but the veracity remains subjective. I've had more than one friend tell me that I'm too honest in my description of myself here; not suggesting that I lie about myself but that I should leave more unsaid. They may be right, (I may be doing just that right now.)
I look at potential romantic relationships in very much the same way that I always have. I'm attracted to a woman for the obvious reasons and while engaged in conversation with them, assess and reassess my level of attraction based on what kind of person they reveal themselves to be, their seeming level of interest in me, etc. I do not care about the amount of money they have or make; I care about who they are, what they think about, the amount of work they've done on themselves, their level of excitement about their life.
I live the life I envisioned and worked hard to manifest. I made it through the insecurities of my 20's, the uncertainties of my 30's, the realities of my 40's and find myself here in my 50's in touch with what is important and on a journey to distill those aspects into some sort of essence. I want to die with dreams, not regrets.
I knew a long time ago that I was not going to be happy in a 9-to-5 life so I pursued a career as an entrepreneur. It's been great, a bit hard at times but for the most part I got paid to do things I love and made a comfortable living doing it. I've managed to amass the requisite middle-class possessions, (house, car, savings) without compromising my values or imagination. I'm happy that I get to be happy!
All in all, my life is pretty darn fantastic, (everyone should have my problems!) Still, it could be made better in the company of the right woman. THAT, however, is a tall order because that person is going to have to attract me physically, hold me intellectually, excite me emotionally and inspire me spiritually.
I think we are subject to two conditions in this life: circumstance and choice. If circumstance has smiled upon you, what choices have you made?