I want interesting people around me. I want meaningful, unpretentious connection and activity, and somebody who can withstand the impact of my desire to contribute something great to the world.
Important: chemistry and interest in music and art.
She is a daring, beautiful-in-her-own-way, conscious, intelligent, grounded semi-hedonist in a little black dress...we enjoy high-grade intimacy, premium laughter, vintage honesty and acquired self-awareness. Extra points for scars or vision.
Although I was a competitive swimmer long ago, I don't follow any sports or own a jersey with a number on it, I clean up after myself and don't have any friends I'd call "the boys". I'm NBA-player height but have never watched a basketball game from start to finish in my entire life, and I don't play golf. I do, however, exercise and enjoy adventure and competition (the real variety).
A temporary relationship or open relationship is acceptable (until such time that it's not); she follows that path confidently without reckless promiscuity or deception.
I adore thorough verbal communication almost as much as physical intimacy (one depends upon the other). TRUST is the magic word.
I am open to a monogamous situation provided I'm not the only one being monogamous. Let's face it -- you are inundated daily with opportunity after opportunity, while men must cultivate opportunity. I can commit to a fair promise, and ready to work through healthy, ordinary problems, but individually we must each control our own demons. I control mine.
If you have special rules, an agenda, and take things personally, I'm not the right guy for you. I am a grossly accepting, highly selective free spirit, and so should you be.
I've abandoned whatever interest I once had in mean, cruel, judgmental, or selfish girls who merely offer a little temporary excitement and glamour (I enjoy my occasional flourishes of glamour and excitement). An apt quote comes to mind: "There is no more mistaken path to happiness than worldliness, revelry, high life." - Arthur Schopenhauer
If you lie down with dogs, stay there. I no longer do rescues and don't expect to be rescued. If you're OK with who you are and don't have an anti-male bias, racist viewpoint, or lingering anger from your past, we'll get along fine. Angry/repeat drunks are strictly forbidden.
Everybody, including myself, armors their profile with photos and statements that show their worldliness, power, accomplishments, fame, charm, beauty and attractiveness - even humility - or their best shot at it. Silly rabbits! All anybody really wants is to be loved and love, to be as playful and unburdened with their lover as they were when they were a child at play. The only question is whether two people are right for each other, but so often people make the quick, easy, wrong choice. Not everybody is ready to be happy.
Zero arrests - my record is clean. I appreciate the distinctions and arguments in favor of legalizing certain controlled substances, but drugs are not a part of my life. My preferred mind-benders are limited to deep coma-inducing kisses, occasional alcohol, persistent music and exercise.
I am on a journey and love my freedom and individuality; I will resist exchanging this journey for something of less value.
Live your life, woman, and get what you came here for! Although I respect the immediacy with which some women seek marriage and children, for this moment I'm offering neither unless you're the extremely, extremely rare combination of independent wealth without traditional gender-role expectations. That means: if you're in a hurry to have kids, I'm not the right guy. Someday...sure. My great-grandfather had a kid at 76, dirty old bugger he was. [ps: marriage can ruin a relationship but love is forever.]
With me you'll get a balanced understanding of the roles of food and glamour, world-traveled experience with strong future prospects, dizzying intellectual engagement that is restrained and humble, safety, simplicity, amusement, warmth, practiced caring, studied maturity, some crazy true-life stories, and a bunch more.
CONS: I suck at small math and have difficulty with names. I am an empathy junkie and may seem weepish. I'm vulnerable to criticism and need unconditional support (for some reason, not my best quality but them's the rules).
Your turn. Am I the right guy for you?