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46 M El Cerrito, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 33–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 20
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an artist/noisemaker/musician and art/film/succulent enthusiast who wears a lot of hats. I'm practically a Bay Area "lifer." I'm self-sufficient, independent, healthy, not in debt, obsessive about the stuff I like. The hair is red, though it was once more so.

Among the most important things in life, I reckon: witty banter, puns, challenging discourse, cinema, misspelled signs, noises, cacti, drones (the sound), good meals, good air, talking with cats, sunsets, brilliant hoaxes, the smell of freshly-damp pavement, Lucky Ju-Ju Pinball Museum and frog sounds. For starters.

I have never been to Burning Man - but it's my favorite time of year in the Bay Area, because it's so easy to park.

And my username is a number because I fucked up. And I'm too cheap to pony up the dollars to change, so instead, we shall pretend I am "Aloe-there".
What I’m doing with my life
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I make music, noise out of music, music out of art, suck the life out of art. I curate film screenings. I do archival/preservation work on analog sound, video and film material. And some years back, it dawned on me that I like birds. Does anyone want to go birding? I think tarantulas are nifty, too. I also enjoy growling and snarling like a vicious dog when Jehovah's Witnesses and fundamentalists knock on my front door. And I roast my own coffee. I'll make you some.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading only a few pages at bedtime before my eyes start closing
Dissecting good movies and listening to you do same
Making strange electronic sounds
Picking a good cheap restaurant
Listening to you identify birds
Separating my recyclables
Threading projectors
A nice walk
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Yes, it's one of those bloated lists which really irritates some people, but this shit matters to me and maybe even a trickle of it matters to you:

Thumbing through: FAIR's magazine (Extra), Pacific Film Archive calendar, Dan Savage, film director biographies, Harvey Pekar, Raymond Chandler, Sarah Vowell, Paul Auster, Philip K. Dick once upon a time and perhaps still, Judy Blume (especially page 75 of "Forever"), that rare well-written film criticism which doesn't give the whole thing away and allows you to think.

Watching: Sam Fuller, Nicholas Ray, Douglas Sirk, Joseph Losey, John Ford, Kurosawa, Claire Denis, Billy Wilder, Guy Maddin, Fassbinder, Werner Herzog, Agnes Varda, Claire Denis, Errol Morris's early films, Hitchcock (particularly the ones cineastes find "weak"), Martha Colburn, Orson, Bresson, Buñuel, Frederick Wiseman, Anne McGuire, Anthony Mann, Kubrick, Powell and Pressburger, Lubitsch, Busby Berkeley, Yasujiro Ozu, film noir, lurid (or not lurid) melodramas, actual documentaries, fake documentaries, bad bio-pics (a weak spot), weird educational films, and an 8-minute instructional film called "Sniffy Escapes Poisoning" which I would be happy to show you. And Bruce Conner. And Len Lye. Any Len Lye.

I like the other Anderson better than Wes.

Listening: DEVO, Gang of Four (Paralysed is a beautiful thing), CAN, Neil Young and Crazy Horse, Perrey and Kingsley, AMM, ABBA, Mission of Burma, Ramones, Crack W.A.R., the Wipers, the Beatles, Kraftwerk, Terry Riley, Mekons, Sally Timms, Cluster, Half Japanese, Crawling With Tarts, Caroliner, Ruins, Aavikko, Cheap Trick (up to a point), the Feelies, Wire, Mission of Burma, the Ex, X, Sun City Girls, MX-80, Erkin Koray, Thai-Cambodian-etc, old New Zealand pop, The Stranglers, the bass, any death metal you want to dub for me, Hank Williams (Sr.), Patsy Cline, Pere Ubu, Marty Robbins, Stockhausen, Varése, Coltrane, Dolphy, Magma, The Roofies, Joy Division, Wobbly, the Fall and on it goes. Almost anything which drones. And I just discovered that Aimee Mann is pretty great.

And if you know who Y. Bhekhirst is, and like him, you must drop whatever you are doing and contact me immediately.

NPR in specially-arranged doses, KALW (R.I.P. Alan Farley), KPFA, KFJC, Dave Emory, WTF podcast, This American Life (most of the time), Sound Opinions, Savage Lovecast, Smiley and West, Sarah Vowell, Joe Frank.

Chewing: Thai pumpkin curry (and I reckon I know who serves the best version in the universe), prik khing, ka nar, papaya salad, really good carne asada, pollo asado, pupusas, asparagus, broccoli, really amazing fresh bread, peanut butter (but no tree nuts, please... allergies), spinach salad, Cheese Board pizza, burritos (of course - I live in the Bay Area), Scotch of all kinds. Adapted air popcorn popper (for coffee roasting) and press pot. Fresh, wonderful Bay Area tap water. I love a home-cooked meal, too. And I wish I cooked as much as I used to.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Films, my signed Ramones records, my TV-B-Gone remote control and cell phone jammer, spicy food, Bay Area weather and good drinking water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Having surrendered so much, of everything, to digital storage. Meaning: the impending loss of generations of art, culture, personal documents and various other important things in the coming decades as digital bits are no longer readable by anything or anyone. This is a problem. I think most people don't realize how big of a problem this really is.

The 1975 video work called "The Eternal Frame" by Ant Farm/TR Uthco. I can show you that sometime, too.

Why on earth so many people surrender their personal lives to Facebook.

Why it is that when I ask people if they're going to "the big BM" this year they don't think it's funny. (I've been trying to insert that into the lexicon for years.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I performed the "Boy Meets Girl" sketch from "Free to Be You and Me" at a 4th grade talent show with a neighbor girl.

I'm more John than Paul.

Look, I don't know why this is, but I've discovered I'm kind of turned on by moles and/or freckles on the neck and upper chest. And black choker necklaces.

I find few women who know how to use power tools and can build things super sexy.

Amma told me I smell nice and have nice shoulders.
That's a joke.
You should message me if
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You're independent, artistic, (at least relatively) fit, tactile, generally uninhibited (in various areas), and consider yourself funny.

You do not lean to the right (unless due to physical handicap, which is fine).

You want to share and engage someone with art, film, good yet cheap food, music, a walk in Wildcat Canyon, cactus shopping, a trip to the museum and figure your ideal companion likes at least a couple of those things.

You don't believe there's such a thing as bad words, only bad ideas.

You DO, however, believe that certain phrases and usages should be stricken from the language (e.g. "at the end of the day", "it's all good", "yeah-no", "no worries", "drill down", "unpack").

Perhaps most importantly: I don't know if I'm willing to actually embrace this label/idea, but recent months have me thinking a lot about "polyamory", a word which has always made me gag when I've seen it on this site. Maybe I listen to too much Savage Lovecast, but if you've read this far, it seems only fair to say this has been on my mind lately. I might be one of "those people" inside. I'm trying to figure it out.