Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are looking for prospective FRIENDS and ACTIVITY PARTNERS. for
serious. i have a wonderful sweetheart/comrade and we're not
swinging or polygamous or open (blessings upon those who are, but
we are not). and though i have many flaws, cheating is not one of
them. you may think it odd for me to be on okcupid given all that.
i was single and looking when i joined, not anymore. i remain on
here because i learn about stuff and meet people i would not
otherwise encounter. plus, i've just moved back to philadelphia,
and i'm hoping to be reintroduced to it in a different way.
if you are as scared and hungry for life as i am.
if ideas excite you as much as bodies, words as much as lips that
if this whole interweb friend-making thing makes you feel more than
a little uneasy, like maybe the prospect of success here is as
terrifying as the possibility of failure.
if you know there are shitloads of fascinating things to do in
philadelphia, but rarely do them because you always just go to the
same four places or watch AD all the way through on netflix again;
or because the prospect of going alone is just too fucking
depressing; or because they are too fucking expensive; or because
whatever. maybe possibly probably you'll know something about
philadelphia i dont, and vice-versa, so even just doing the same
old things could be new, if we do one another's same old things
so let's go to that free lecture on ethics in anthropology or that
documentary screening in the park, or let's play ping-pong or ride
bikes, or let's drank on the stoop, or let's sneak into a fancy
hotel to swim in the heated pool, or let's volunteer at FNB, or
let's walk across the BFB. or better yet, let's do that thing you
want to do that i would never even think of.
my miscellaneous jobs tend to be either manual labor, food-service,
or art-making, and i tend to get along best with progressive
(leaning toward radical) dorky atheist artist-intellectual females
with some class-consciousness and toughness.
but part of the point of this is to engage beyond my default
settings. so as long as you're willing to do the same, all are
welcome! corporate execs, bros, suburban parents, retail assistant
managers, law enforcement officers, beach-bums, scrap-metal
reclaimers, evangelicals, retirees, ivy-leaguers. you can take me
to a political fundraiser, and i can take you to
books-through-bars. you can take me to a fliers game, and i can
take you to some performance art. better yet, you can blow my mind
and prove that the cheeky stereotypes i'm invoking are precisely
why i need to hang out with more/different people, like you.
oh okay and also if you want to exchange words and nothing else.
internet or even snailmail penpals could be grand.
1. in case you haven't noticed, i'm a prolix motherfucker. sorry in
advance. i'm a good listener, though, which makes up for it a
2. check out the "income" box. i cannot pay my own way at the
capital grille, even if there is something on the menu i can eat (i
don't know, i've never been).
3. forealzyo i'm not looking to date or have sex with you. friends
and activity partners only. i hope that's okay. it may even be a