I am hella genderqueer, often flamboyant, and often mistaken for a gay male. I usually don't even bother to try flirting with heterosexual women because they typically just end up confused. If you're straight and interested in me, don't be shy about writing me first because odds are that I'm not going to try to write to you first, no matter how awesome I think you are.
Besides, my biggest crushes are typically on women who end up being lesbians and who thus have no desire to be sexual or romantic with me. [Insert sad trombone here.] If you are a straight girl though, please don't let that discourage you from striking up a conversation with me. I also tend to be attracted to effeminate men, and other genderqueer folk.
I'm very empathic and pragmatic, but not without a weird playful side. I'm a cuddler, a writer, a painter, an agnostic Unitarian Universalist, liberal on most political subjects, extroverted in the Summer, and introverted in the Winter.
I ride my bicycle everywhere, and I do all my own bike maintenance.
I'm a total sucker for selfless do-gooders.
When I want to be social, I often like to go out dancing or to karaoke at a bar, but nothing beats a house party. Then again, sometimes a quiet evening in with friends is exactly what I need.
When I don't want to be particularly social, you can find me either reading a book, playing on my computer, bingeing on a TV series, or submitting to my studies.
The struggle to determine my own gender identity was a long and arduous task, which has made it a large part of who I am. When I was in my mid-teens, I thought I surely must have been transgender because it was the closest thing I knew of to describe myself, even though it never quite fit. I was rarely the most feminine person in a room, but I was never as butch as the boys. In my early 20's, the idea of genderqueer was presented to me, it stuck instantly, and I've identified with it ever since. Today, I specifically call myself intergender because I generally feel about 50/50 masculine to feminine.
I once set my OkC account to "include me in searches for women," and left it that way overnight. When I woke up in the morning, I had over forty quickmatch alerts, all from straight men who very obviously just clicked the star-button without glancing at so much as my photos, let alone my profile. It baffles me that any women take this site seriously.
I'm mostly non-monogamous, but I'd consider monogamy for somebody who was really special; head over heels kind of special. Like I started off with: Let's be friends first, and see where that leads.