First, let me say I am only interested in guys my own age. I am also really only interested in chatting with local guys who are single. this means that if you are still legally married, i apologize but please wait to msg me until the divorce is final. I am not interested in casual sex. I am not interested in maintaining internet-based relationships.

my "body shot" is there to show that yes, i really am that pasty, and yep, i am also pudgy... i can't help it that i'm also busty, and no matter what i wear, that will be extremely evident.

I don't play games, and I'm blatantly honest. I seem to be running into a lot of guys who seem to assume that after a single date i'm expecting some sort of major commitment... This is NOT true... i do, however, expect if things go well a chance to see if things will continue to go well... and that we'd take things day by day.... If that's tooo much of a commitment for you, then we weren't meant to be I guess....


And now for the "self summary":

I like to read, play my xbox 360, and spend time with my friends... I'm actually a very quiet person, not big on the whole club/bar scene... really mostly a homebody... and I have 2 cats

I am a study in contrasts, I'm a feminist, yet a Lady; a geek and a gamer; passive at times, aggressive at others; I start off quiet and shy, yet extroverted when I'm comfortable in a situation; I have a warped sense of humor, and will crack a joke on myself as quickly as anyone else will; intelligent; strong and independent, yet like to have someone to rely on every once in a while, I'm kinky, I'm geeky, and love to chat with my friends on my xbox, the list goes on and on...

I am smart, snarky, and crafty

I'm working as a Clinical Call Center Nurse, and it's really nice. I work with great people, i get to work regular hours, and I don't have to work holidays. i'm also in the process of expanding my nursing licensure for work; they have been expanding the contracts at work, such that ultimately i'm speaking to people all over the US to provide health counseling. it's awesome, and cool that i will literally be legally allowed to practice nursing anywhere in the united states, but the process is such a PIA.

crafting and gaming- I quilt, sew, embroider, knit, crochet, make jewelry, cross-stitch, needlepoint, make dream catchers... I just can't sit still for very long....

Helped my best friend in 2010 make a complete garb wardrobe for her and her little ones... the kids have gotten big, and none of their garb fit anymore, and they needed stuff for Pennsic War this past summer. Didn't go myself, sticking around close to home to help out my parents because they aren't as mobile as they used to be.

I made myself a tee-skirt, from a thundercats tee that wouldn't fit right, and another black tee... quite happy with it. :) Also been working on mittens for my best friend and her littles, some shawls/ponchos for myself to wear at work, making a few skirts for myself (since it's hard to find simple solid color basics these days....) as well as many other projects :)

My snarkiness... I tend to have a problem keeping my big mouth shut.... and on top of that, i'm pretty bluntly honest... have a big problem with dishonest people and if i catch you at it, you WILL know i have, and i WILL be pissed. I'll be honest with you, always, so you better damn well be honest with me.

Books Some authors I like are Steven R. Green, Jim Butcher, Laurell K. Hamilton, Karen Chance.... really they too numerous to count... mostly sci-fi/fantasy/paranormal/lite horror...

Movies & TV I like sci-fi movies... and am a big big firefly nerd... comedies, action, and mystery movies are also cool, but if you're going to ask me to watch the new Star Trek vs. American Pie, Star Trek will win EVERY time....

Also, I do not do horror films... I do, however, like many zombie and vampire type movies... there are just certain ones i can't do, and if I do watch some of the truly scary ones, well, let's just say that I have to plan on being awake for a while.... with all the lights on.... for hours....

I'm also not really fond of TV.... would rather read a book than watch tv any day of the week.... the few shows i do like to watch, I usually catch online... however, if you want names: Firefly, Serenity, Eureka, Farscape, Warehouse 13, House, Fifth Element, Pirates of the Caribean series, Boondock Saints, Heroes, Dresden Files, Highlander (series and movie), Xmen, Castle, Lie to Me, Witchblade, Sanctuary, Fringe, Big Bang Theory... just to name a few....

Games
adding this category in, because it's such a huge part of my life... I play mostly board and xbox 360 games, though I have been known to play Diablo 2 on the PC and other PC games. Fave board/card/dice games include Catan, Risk, Killer Bunnies, Scrabble and Yatzee, just for starts... (If you do decide to msg me, please place at the beginning of your favorite color, that way I know that you've really read through my entire profile). Fave xbox games include the Elder scrolls (Morrowind, Oblivion, & now Skyrim) CoD MW2+Black Ops, the Halo Saga, Mass Effect 2, Bioshock 1 & 2, Risk Factions, Borderlands, Beautiful Katamari, Catan

Food I like chocolate, and pasta, and fried seafood.... but to be honest, I like to eat... though I must admit, I'm not a fan of sushi...

books, yarn, xbox/gaming, computer/internets, family (this includes my furbabies), friends

I get bored very easily, and all of the above keeps me from losing my mind.... sometimes you can find me engaged in multiple activities, just to keep from being bored.... ie, knitting while reading inbetween matches on my xbox..... yes, I can multitask :p and yes, if I'm in CoD:Black Ops or Halo: Reach I'm prolly crafting AND gaming while i chat with my friends.... and if you don't know what either of the above is, please get your head out of the sand... and buy an xbox and maybe some yarn :)

That being said, picking only 6 things is really cliche, but whatcha going to do...

Work

Family/Friends- lots going on with my family/friends health-wise and in general, so they are almost always on my mind... but, that's almost... :)

Once i'm done thinking about that.... i'm then wondering about what i want to make next.....

I am probably either with my friends, or family, or gaming, or crafting... or all of the above. Lately, at least once on each weekend I'm with family, as things have not been great on the family front, and I'm trying to be there as much as possible for my parents (for starts they have some significant problems with their knees, and I'm trying to make things easier on them... )

Not a big drinker as my life was significantly affected by my grandmother being an alcoholic for about 26 years of my life... I've seen what heaving drinking can do to families, and it's NOT pretty... so I just don't see the appeal.

you are single, and looking for something other than a one-night-stand. I am not into casual encounters, and no arguments from anyone is going to change that... also, my age range of what i'm "Looking for" is a pretty hard limit

If you are going to msg me, please be respectful, and talk to me like a real person, not a fuck-doll... smart/geekism/nerdism is sexy. i am not looking for a fwb situation; in my mind that is quite a casual situation.

What I would really like to find is a committed relationship, between equals, where there is equal give and take. I am tired of finding guys who only want a one-sided relationship where I am only a convenience. Being with someone, having a good relationship to me means give and take on both sides, and a mutual respect. It means being there when times are tough to provide moral support. I would really love to find someone who is in for the long haul, and will give as good as they get, good and bad....