Most of you will not be able to understand nor handle the raw and pure honesty of my profile... That is OK. For those that do and can Say Hi I will take it from there!
Hello all my friends and lookee-loo's As of June 10th, I join the ranks of the employed... Also attending night classes in an attempt to get a degree or two... (Actually attempting to get an associates in 1yr and a Bachelors in 2 - 2.5yrs) so I have little time for time wasters... LOL!!! Also I have been unemployed for almost a year, so I have No Money..... HA HA HA HA WOW look how many of you ran away from that line... All the better I want to be around those that aren't money driven.
Saw this on another profile and liked it. So, I hope "You are inter-racially inclined"
If you see that I added you to my favorites or starred you, it means I would like you to say hi.
I am semi-new to OC, Lets start off with saying right up front most of you when you read this will say no that's not what I am looking for, some of you will be repulsed (which I think is funny, I will explain that farther down), some of you will call me a freak (Yea!!! I like that label and am very proud if it!!!) and some of you will be curious but too chicken to ask or talk about it.
I am on here for a myriad of reasons... some typical some not so typical... but just because I walk to the beat of a different drum doesn't mean I want you to... yes I want to date... well no not really I would prefer to find a relationship that will last, but until she / they come along. Going out and having fun is in my cards too! No I am not going to try and convert you... I just prefer the company of the opposite sex to go out with...
If something happens... great, if nothing happens... great, I have no expectations. So if you think I look good or I would/could be fun to hang out and talk with say Hi... I am far from old fashion and can be rather shy so you saying hi first or after noticing I glanced/read your profile id the ideal way for me to reply back... take a chance. I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised, not to mention have someone who won't judge you on anything you say or do.
But I digress, lets get the normal/vanilla (as I call it) stuff out of the way!
Am I funny? I think so because, I have made many laugh to tears (Hmmm, Tears are sexy... Oops! that doesn't belong in this section!)
I am not typical by most standards but then again if I was how boring would that be. I like the beach just not during the day, If you haven't noticed ( My apologies to the visually impaired and handicapped) I'm black and the last thing I need is a tan! And no sunblock does not help... trust me on this one! I love dive bars, pubs and pool halls. While I like to Dance I am not a fan of clubs. The reason for that is in the past I have done many things for work and Bouncing and Cooling was one of them, and every time I seem to go to a club I end up in Bouncer/Cooler mode and spend more time watching who to watch out for than I do having fun, since that is what I am supposed to do when I am with you right? I am supposed to be the man and your safety while with me is something I take seriously... even when we are having fun. I am the Chivalrous Gentleman (most of the time (it does slip my mind from time to time) ie. if you smoke I will light your cigarette ( Oh Ladies so you know... if a guy lights you smoke never cover the flame because it is his responsibility to see and know when it is lit he should take it away once it is lit. If you cover it then he can't see it.), when we are walking across the street you should always be on the side of me that is opposite traffic, I will get your car and most doors (Once again ladies... when a guy opens your car door, Be the lady and hit the unlock or reach over and unlock his door while he is walking around... if the door are unlocked by remote reach over and pull the handle for him to get it... This chivalry thing has rules that go both ways).
My other hobbies I like pool both swimming and table (billiards), darts, bowling, people watching, shopping yes I like to shop and I promise you I can shop rings around most of you and could dress most of you quite well... I have a few female friends that take me with them when they shop so they can get an honest point of view from a mans perspective and if they tell me what their goal is for the outfit or event I will make sure you turn heads.
I am a no nonsense logical kind of guy that is full of emotion. I am down to earth respectful (don't miss understand my kindness and me being a gentleman as a sign of weakness though. I speak my mind and will quickly put you in your place should you step out of it...) I only used to be the nice guy... Now I am the smart one. My favorite food is Italian, I like spicy food not hot food.
I Pride myself on my honesty... why would I need to lie to you or anyone else... if I screw up I will own up to it... I expect you to be the same way... if I am wrong I will admit I am/was wrong.
I am not your typical guy, I have done more and lived more than most my age but in my heart I am still a big kid.
I am spontaneous but don't like surprises, I am complex but my daily goal in life is simplicity, I have been know to be romantic but Nahhhh who wants a romantic man, I like most music but rap, country western (I love country not country western). I realized a few weeks ago I have never been to a museum, opera nor a zoo... I would like to change that.
Now see I am normal... well kinda, ask yourself these questions and be honest with the answers because these questions are for you not anyone else.
have you ever been blindfolded... did you like it?
Have you ever had a SO/BF/Lover pull your hair... did you like it?
Has a SO/BF/Lover smacked/spanked you... did you like it?
Have you ever gotten aggressive or rough during sex... did you like it?
Have you ever been restrained or tied up... did you like it?
have you ever used sex toys... did you like it?
... I could keep going because this list is long... and most of you have done it, do it, or want to, some of you even like it enough to keep doing it... Well guess what your Kinky! you have practiced some form of BDSM.
Now having brought those terms up here is the rest of me that blends in (seamlessly I might add) to the above!
I am on OKCupid to find a BDSM AND Poly friendly or compatible (A.K.A kinky submissive or slave mindset) woman (and just because you are submissive or slave minded DOES NOT mean you are weak or worthless or have low self esteem... Some of the strongest and most stable women I know are submissive!!! so for all you that think otherwise... Don't hate those that can do and be just what their heart, mind and body desire.) I am waiting and searching for the elusive woman or women (Notice I said woman/women not girl) who is active or wishing to be active in a Real life physical D/s type relationship (No cyber, no online, if I type to you more than I can touch you it/we will not happen)... if you have a low sex drive or you can take or leave sex I am not interested. If you are looking for a take charge kinda man... that is me. If you not kinky I am not for you. no men and I must be honest and frank up front, no women of color... Don't hate, it is my choice. I am looking for someone that wants to be with me in real life in a real relationship both in and out of the bedroom in both the D/s Lifestyle and the Vanilla world. There are plays I want to see, concerts I want to go to and many happy times just being happy in being with each other.. I would prefer you be a masochist if you are not then be Poly and be accepting of us finding one that is. I am looking for someone that wants to be active in the community and someone that wants to enjoy all that BDSM can offer.
I am also polyamorous and have been most of my life just never knew there was a name for it. I am not poly for sexual reasons but more because of the complex person that I am... Don't understand (Don't pre-judge) take a moment and talk to me and you might touch the tip of who I am... LOL I am veering off course... I would like you to be poly or poly friendly as well or we will not work.
I am a 46yr old Black Dominant male... LOL I would think the pic would make that obvious... I have a high sex drive and am happy being a Sadist for the right masochist or a sensual player for those who are not into pain. I have a Daddy Dom mentality and I am old and wise enough to know what I like and want when I see or read it... you be the same. I am not into sending a bunch of emails back and forth... I prefer the phone or face to face when communicating. I am looking for communication, honesty, common sense, truthfulness, and obedience... if you are not able to do all of the previous don't waste my time or yours.
There is so much more that I could write but I think you need to ask if you truly want to know.
(Google that if you you want to know more)
A Dom Named Mark