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30 Phoenix, AZ Woman


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  • Ages 18–99
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My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:09am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Not at all
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am married and I am not in an open or polyamorous relationship. I know that a lot of folks on here don't agree with / are vehemently against any member who is here without the intention of dating, and I get that. However, that doesn't change the fact that I am comfortable here ("here" being OkCupid) and don't have any desire to leave. It's important to me that I do not mislead anybody, so there it is. I am monogamous and I am uninterested in any sexual (of any variety) or romantic relationship outside of my marriage. Friends, however, are very, very welcome.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm getting used to saying that I'm 30. Thirty. No longer in my twenties. Thirty. Thir-tee. Still weird.

I spent the past six weeks reorganizing my life. Specifically, I spent the past six weeks reorganizing my home. I cleaned. I painted. I sorted. I threw stuff away. I donated what I could. I got my living room just right after two and a half years of wondering how the hell to set up and decorate such a bizarre space. I fixed things, and asked for help when I didn't know how. I procrastinated a lot, but not nearly as much as I'd been doing for a long time. I worked my ass off, and it shows.

It shows in the way the house looks. In the way it feels. There's a sense of movement and accomplishment each day, instead of this feeling of things being exactly the same as they've been for a while. As though things have come out of hibernation. As though I have come out of hibernation.

My goal was to have every single tiny detail of my list completed by my birthday. I got so very close, but fell just short. Though initially disappointed, I rallied almost immediately when I took a good long look at my list and saw just how much I'd accomplished. The biggest victory, though, is that I have broken the habit of stagnation. I am no longer content to sit around all day (unless it's following a day of high-powered productivity, but even then I still do something with my time). It feels good. Hell, it feels amazing.

Getting back into the swing of things around the house has had a huge impact on taking back control of the rest of my life. I've overcome some hurdles that I didn't even realize were holding me back as much as they were. Breaking through those barriers has been freeing and exciting.

My husband and I are just over halfway through with our MAPP classes for becoming licensed foster parents. After that, we have a home inspection (for safety) and the home study. Things are moving along much more quickly than I was expecting. I'm more than ready, I just thought that it would feel like time was dragging in my excitement and anticipation of becoming foster parents.

Things are changing, and in wonderful ways. Thirty looks like it might be a pretty great year. Thirty...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing in IPA.
Turning a pretty phrase.
Turning a grammatically correct pretty phrase.
(And then drawing its tree.)
Making homemade chicken soup.
Making homemade lentil chicken noodle soup.
Accumulating pets.
Customized shoes and boots and frames and other wonderful items.
Writing, so it turns out.
I just have have nobody to edit.
The first things people usually notice about me
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is that I am hardly the person to ask. This field should be one that is open for others to fill. So tell me, dear visitor, what was the first thing you noticed about me? Whether through my writing or my pictures, what struck you first?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A. Favorite Books: I've quite a few favorite books. In fact, it's one of my favorite things to have books. To get books. I have far more books than I have had the opportunity to read, and I like it that way. Instead of appliances like a coffee maker (I don't drink coffee) or a microwave (I don't use them), my kitchen counters used to be lined with books. Books like Jane Austen's works, a bit of the Brontë sisters, Middlesex (an absolute favorite), Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West (another in the top five), Dracula, East of Eden, A Confederacy of Dunces. An anthology of Romantic poetry. A very large Italian / English dictionary. I love flipping through the pages and learning words at random.

Travel Far, Pay No Fare by Anne Lindbergh. This was one of my favorites back in elementary school, but over the years I'd forgotten what it was called. With a little fancy footwork, I was eventually able to get Google to cough up a title based on a really convoluted description of the plot. was then awesome enough to have a few copies available for next-day delivery. And now it's like basking in the warmth of a Vermont summer while taking a stroll down memory lane.

Hm... The Harry Potter series from three different countries. I love the Harry Potter series. His Dark Materials. Insomnia and The Dark Tower Series.

To get back to my original thought, my counters used to be lined with books. Back when I had shorter counters. Now, it doesn't look right, not with the open counters. I love the openness of the kitchen, but I hate that I don't have books in there anymore. Instead, we have tons of shelves. A little less awesome, but still pretty great.

Currently Reading: I met my 2013 goal and surpassed it again by (just shy of) half. Right now, I'm halfway through this year's goal and in the middle of several books. I'm rereading Half-Blood Prince on my own, and Chamber of Secrets with my stepson. I am not entirely sure whether I'll count those toward my goal. I suppose it depends how desperate I get toward the end of the year. Then there's The Assassin's Apprentice by Robin Hobb, The Princess Bride by William Goldman, Peter Nimble and His Fantastic Eyes by Jonathan Auxier, The Hangman's Daughter by Oliver Pötzsch, and a handful of others.

B. Favorite Movies: To be totally honest, I'm not much of a movie person. Sure, I'll watch one on occasion, either out of curiosity or a feeling of obligation, but I rarely seek them out or end up captured by them enough to give them my full attention. On the list of go-to hobbies in my life, movies are way, way down there.

C. Favorite Shows: Misfits. To an extent. Up through season three. I like to pretend that seasons four and five never happened. In fact, I just finished the series, then went back and rewatched one through three and stopped there to keep the sour taste of the new group out of my mouth. Doctor Who. NuWho, though. I can't seem to get into Classic Who. I know, I know. Blasphemy. Firefly. I'm current on a lot of shows (far more than I'd care to admit, actually), but none of them really qualify as favorites, no matter how much I keep tuning back in. More...time-wasters. Castle is one I must watch, if only for Nathan Fillion, though I do enjoy it 97% of the time. But I don't know that it qualifies as a favorite. It may have, a few years ago, but at this point… The same is true of shows like How I Met Your Mother and Bones and Criminal Minds. More obligation than genuine excitement.

D. Favorite Music: I don't know. I'm open to quite a bit in the world of music. Of Montreal. I'd say that Of Montreal would hold the place of "favorite" at the moment. Right now Death Cab for Cutie is playing. Followed, perhaps, by some "ol' school" Backstreet Boys, the stylings of Elton John and / or Billy Joel, Nine Inch Nails, a wee bit o' The Format (and anything else Nate Ruess), Damien Rice, The Cranberries. Modest Mouse, Franz Ferdinand, Frou Frou, Aerosmith, Journey, Tori Amos. I'm a fan of Ani DiFranco, though I don't know very many of her songs. The Smashing Pumpkins, Frank Sinatra, Queen, Elvis. Simon and Garfunkel (I find it interesting that "Garfunkel" does not trigger the Safari spellchecker). Bright Eyes (though just saying, typing or even thinking "bright eyes" makes me sing, in my head, "Turn arouuuund..."). ...I'm stopping now.

E. Favorite Food: Ethiopian. They closed my Ethiopian place, and I am not kidding when I say I cried a bit. Indian. Good Chinese where I can get it. Apple pie-lettes. Or just apple pie. Thai. Soup -- I'm so glad that soup season is here again! Pomegranates. I'm also rather fond of pears. And Pink Lady and Honeycrisp apples. Opal apples, definitely. Berries. Raspberries are my absolute favorite, but they're rather cost prohibitive. I'm not a big fan of celery, except for the inner sticks. Or with the ranch dressing that every buffalo wing-serving joint seems to have but that I can't seem to find in the grocery store. Cheesecake. Chicken croquettes. Great steak.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dogs
Background noise

(Yes, that makes six.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why the clouds continue to lie to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at home. I'm a very extroverted, social and hip individual, you know.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The best times in my life -- those most memorable and gut-wrenching and indelible -- began with an electrifying, lingering handshake.
You should message me if
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You want to tell me what song is running through your head right now.

You have a book recommendation for me. Books! Give me books!

Seriously, books. Please?

You understand and are on board with the fact that I am married and interested only in friendship and long-distance penpalmanship. I absolutely support polyamory and open relationships, but ours is not a marriage of those particular styles.