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AHandshake

29 F Phoenix, AZ

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–99
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My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:52am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am married and I am not in an open or polyamorous relationship. I know that a lot of folks on here don't agree with / are vehemently against any member who is here without the intention of dating, and I get that. However, that doesn't change the fact that I am comfortable here ("here" being OkCupid) and don't have any desire to leave. It's important to me that I do not mislead anybody, so there it is. I am monogamous and I am uninterested in any sexual (of any variety) or romantic relationship outside of my marriage. Friends, however, are very, very welcome.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm dedicating the next twenty-eight days to reforming lost habits and breaking the lazy ones that have taken root instead. With so much free time on my hands as a stay-at-home wife and stepmom, I find myself procrastinating on everything, constantly.

This means that I will be giving our house a thorough scrub, from top to bottom, and creating and maintaining a solid schedule of daily household tasks in order to keep on top of things. I'll be finishing projects (painting the door frames, the guest bedroom and the fireplace; fixing and rehanging my kitchen chalkboards; cleaning out closets and dressers; tossing what we no longer need and donating what can still be useful to someone else; cleaning out the garage), making changes (painting the living room, planning the bedroom) and preparing for all of the holidays hiding right around the corner (organizing lights and decorations). I'll be putting my shop on vacation and focusing hard on our home and our family, spending more time taking care of things around the house and creating delicious, healthy meals and tons of great activities for spending time together.

With getting my house in order comes getting other aspects of myself in order, too. As the weather cools down, I'll be doing more geocaching, more walking, more hiking, more riding my bicycle around the neighborhood with my family. More walks with the dogs, and a rededication to running. More delicious salads and less mindless grazing. More activity, less Netflix. More reading, less...well...Netflix. The good habits feed each other, and the bad habits start to fade into the background.

So what am I doing with my life? Taking it back. Getting it together, under my control. It's so easy to let things slide, but I'm tired of it. I turn 30 in six weeks and I want to start this new decade off with the strong momentum of fulfilling my goals, not just the plans to finally get started.

Don't get me wrong. There's so much more to me than keeping the house in order, but that is a big thing and I've let it get away from me. Feeling guilty and embarrassed at how I waste my time somehow serves as fuel for more laziness as I pretend there isn't a problem, rather than as motivation to make changes. I'm shaking that off and starting again. Being a stay-at-home wife and parent is my job, and it's time to start treating it with the respect and diligence that I would any other job. Even more so, since it's so much more important than any job I've ever had before.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Procrastinating.
Writing in IPA.
Grammar.
Turning a pretty phrase.
Turning a grammatically correct pretty phrase.
(And then drawing its tree.)
Making homemade chicken soup.
Making homemade lentil chicken noodle soup.
Accumulating pets.
Customized shoes and boots and frames and other wonderful items.
Writing, so it turns out.
Editing.
I just have have nobody to edit.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I am hardly the person to ask. This field should be one that is open for others to fill. So tell me, dear visitor, what was the first thing you noticed about me? Whether through my writing or my pictures, what struck you first?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A. Favorite Books: I've quite a few favorite books. In fact, it's one of my favorite things to have books. To get books. I have far more books than I have had the opportunity to read, and I like it that way. Instead of appliances like a coffee maker (I don't drink coffee) or a microwave (I don't use them), my kitchen counters used to be lined with books. Books like Jane Austen's works, a bit of the Brontë sisters, Middlesex (an absolute favorite), Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West (another in the top five), Dracula, East of Eden, A Confederacy of Dunces. An anthology of Romantic poetry. A very large Italian / English dictionary. I love flipping through the pages and learning words at random.

Travel Far, Pay No Fare by Anne Lindbergh. This was one of my favorites back in elementary school, but over the years I'd forgotten what it was called. With a little fancy footwork, I was eventually able to get Google to cough up a title based on a really convoluted description of the plot. Amazon.com was then awesome enough to have a few copies available for next-day delivery. And now it's like basking in the warmth of a Vermont summer while taking a stroll down memory lane.

Hm... The Harry Potter series from three different countries. I love the Harry Potter series. His Dark Materials. Insomnia and The Dark Tower Series.

To get back to my original thought, my counters used to be lined with books. Back when I had shorter counters. Now, it doesn't look right, not with the open counters. I love the openness of the kitchen, but I hate that I don't have books in there anymore. Instead, we have tons of shelves. A little less awesome, but still pretty great.

Currently Reading: I met my 2013 goal and surpassed it again by (just shy of) half. Right now, I'm halfway through this year's goal and in the middle of several books. I'm rereading Half-Blood Prince on my own, and Chamber of Secrets with my stepson. I am not entirely sure whether I'll count those toward my goal. I suppose it depends how desperate I get toward the end of the year. Then there's The Assassin's Apprentice by Robin Hobb, The Princess Bride by William Goldman, Peter Nimble and His Fantastic Eyes by Jonathan Auxier, The Hangman's Daughter by Oliver Pötzsch, and a handful of others.

B. Favorite Movies: To be totally honest, I'm not much of a movie person. Sure, I'll watch one on occasion, either out of curiosity or a feeling of obligation, but I rarely seek them out or end up captured by them enough to give them my full attention. On the list of go-to hobbies in my life, movies are way, way down there.

C. Favorite Shows: Misfits. To an extent. Up through season three. I like to pretend that seasons four and five never happened. In fact, I just finished the series, then went back and rewatched one through three and stopped there to keep the sour taste of the new group out of my mouth. Doctor Who. NuWho, though. I can't seem to get into Classic Who. I know, I know. Blasphemy. Firefly. I'm current on a lot of shows (far more than I'd care to admit, actually), but none of them really qualify as favorites, no matter how much I keep tuning back in. More...time-wasters. Castle is one I must watch, if only for Nathan Fillion, though I do enjoy it 97% of the time. But I don't know that it qualifies as a favorite. It may have, a few years ago, but at this point… The same is true of shows like How I Met Your Mother and Bones and Criminal Minds. More obligation than genuine excitement.

D. Favorite Music: I don't know. I'm open to quite a bit in the world of music. Of Montreal. I'd say that Of Montreal would hold the place of "favorite" at the moment. Right now Death Cab for Cutie is playing. Followed, perhaps, by some "ol' school" Backstreet Boys, the stylings of Elton John and / or Billy Joel, Nine Inch Nails, a wee bit o' The Format (and anything else Nate Ruess), Damien Rice, The Cranberries. Modest Mouse, Franz Ferdinand, Frou Frou, Aerosmith, Journey, Tori Amos. I'm a fan of Ani DiFranco, though I don't know very many of her songs. The Smashing Pumpkins, Frank Sinatra, Queen, Elvis. Simon and Garfunkel (I find it interesting that "Garfunkel" does not trigger the Safari spellchecker). Bright Eyes (though just saying, typing or even thinking "bright eyes" makes me sing, in my head, "Turn arouuuund..."). ...I'm stopping now.

E. Favorite Food: Ethiopian. They closed my Ethiopian place, and I am not kidding when I say I cried a bit. Indian. Good Chinese where I can get it. Apple pie-lettes. Or just apple pie. Thai. Soup -- I'm so glad that soup season is here again! Pomegranates. I'm also rather fond of pears. And Pink Lady and Honeycrisp apples. Opal apples, definitely. Berries. Raspberries are my absolute favorite, but they're rather cost prohibitive. I'm not a big fan of celery, except for the inner sticks. Or with the ranch dressing that every buffalo wing-serving joint seems to have but that I can't seem to find in the grocery store. Cheesecake. Chicken croquettes. Great steak.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dogs
Background noise

(Yes, that makes six.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why the clouds continue to lie to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at home. I'm a very extroverted, social and hip individual, you know.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The best times in my life -- those most memorable and gut-wrenching and indelible -- began with an electrifying, lingering handshake.
You should message me if
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You want to tell me what song is running through your head right now.

You're curious about the specifics of the aforementioned writing gig.

You have a book recommendation for me. Books! Give me books!

Seriously, books. Please?

You understand and are on board with the fact that I am married and interested only in friendship and long-distance penpalmanship. I absolutely support polyamory and open relationships, but ours is not a marriage of those particular styles.