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AL-2013

46 M Livingston, NJ

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 19
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Banking / Finance
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), German (Poorly), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you can find 3 differences between the two dolfins in my picture, please contact me, we may have something in common!

I am a confident, honest, affectionate person, even tempered, adventurous with a passion for life, fit and young at heart.

The Dating Persona Test calls me "a classic marrying material,” which is true! Read the description of The Gentleman - that's me. That brings me to another point: I'm happily married (full disclosure) - and I'd like to keep it that way. I'm in an open polyamoros relationship - it's great!! Both my wife and I maintain active OKC profiles and date other people - sometimes together but mostly separately. If you are curious about poly, or would like to see my photo, I'd be happy to talk and share - just ask me.

I work hard and play right. I'm a dedicated friend, and once you claim that status in my life, there is little I wouldn't do for you.

I like meeting new people - learning what makes them tick, what they know, how they think. Everybody has something very unique. I like exploring common interests, which sometimes lead to wonderful things.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Building the circle of friends. Rebuilding the house. Raising kids. Training to fight like my life depends on it. Being active in the community. Enjoying life! I'm happy with who I am at this point, and what I've done. And I'm excited about the personal growth
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Many things, professionally and recreationally. Pretty much anything I put my mind into. Maintaining a good work-life balance, spending time with family, friends, and myself.

Listening. Helping - not necessarily by trying to solve the problem (although I'm good at that, too). Being supportive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A sparkle in my eyes, a shy personality, a sense of humor once I open up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:
Three Comrades; Love in the time of Cholera; Liar's Poker; Atlas Shrugged; The Fourth Turning; This Is Where I Leave You; Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close; Opening Up; The Ethical Slut

"Journeys" by Robert Monroe

Music:
Leonard Cohen (which I'm discovering new depth of)
Medley of oldies but goodies

Movies:
One Day; As Good As It Gets; Anger Management; The Game; Gloomy Sunday; Last Samurai; Up in the Air; Same Day Next Year; Other Peoples Money

Food:
Sushi; but really - anything. And I cook well.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee
My Family
Friends
Love and Sex
Stimulating conversations
Inquisitive mind
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much online dating is like a job search. Your work on your resume, tweaking and fixing tiny things. You send it to many, many companies that advertise openings. Some will respond, but most won't. You may even go on an interview, and if you do well, it will be followed by another one, and another one. At the end, you may land that perfect spot that will let you apply all your abilities - and shine, and grow! Or... it may end up being not what you expected, and you realize it, and you shake hands and continue looking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is hardly a typical Friday. It's a best time to start the weekend.
- Out with friends
- In with my family
- Friends over for quiet dinner
- Theater in the City
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... is that I won't tell you private things until I'm comfortable with you. But then I'm an open book.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you know yourself well and are open about your choices and views on life

... you have a sense of adventure.

... you are familiar with scheduling, and value your time as well as others'.

... you realize that Love does not diminish when it's shared.

... you are smart, fun, active, and full of energy.

... you can communicate your thoughts clearly and know what you want and what you are looking for.

... you are looking for a long-term friendship, emotional and romantic partner, but not a husband.

... you like to kiss and are good at it