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34 • M • Overland Park, KS
I’m looking for
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 22–36
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last Online
- Online now!
- 5′ 5″ (1.65m)
- Body Type
- Mostly anything
- When drinking
- Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
- Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
- Working on university
- Rather not say
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
Books (Let's go with authors or we could be here for days): Shakespeare, James Joyce, Walt Whitman, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Langston Hughes, Jack Kerouac, Aldous Huxley, George Orwell, Gertrude Stein, Stephen King, Tennessee Williams, David Mamet, J.R.R. Tolkien, George Bernard Shaw, August Wilson, Arthur Conan Doyle, W.B. Yeats, Charles Dickens, Neil Gaiman, Virginia Woolf, T.S. Eliot, Ezra Pound, Ernest Hemingway, Chuck Palahniuk, Mary Shelley, F. Scott Fitzgerald, H.D. Thoreau, John Steinbeck, John Milton, Herman Melville, Samuel Beckett, Homer, John Locke, Jean Jacques Rousseau, Virgil, Cicero, Ovid, Dante, Aristotle, Plato, John Keats, Percy Shelley, William Wordsworth, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, William Blake, Mary Wolstencraft, Edgar Allan Poe, Nathaniel Hawthorne, James Fenimore Cooper, Washington Irving, Victor Hugo, William Faulkner....to be continued.
Also...I absolutely could not live without the following books:
-A good dictionary (I'm partial to my 1964 edition of the Webster's New World Encyclopedic Dictionary.)
-Merriam Webster's English Language Desk Reference (Great Book)
-The Norton Anthology of English Literature (All six volumes)
-The Norton Anthology of Theory and Criticism
-The Essential Guide to Research Writing Across the Disciplines
-The Associated Press Stylebook
-A Concise Introduction to Logic
Seriously. That's my survival kit. Two volumes of my Norton Anthology got stolen a few months ago. I literally cried. Real tears. Then immediately bought new copies.
Still with me?
Movies: The King's Speech, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Casablanca, Lawrence of Arabia, The Birdcage, Munich, Sunset Boulevard, To Kill a Mockingbird, Twelve Angry Men, Almost Famous, Road to Perdition, To Wong Foo, Walk the Line, Charlie Wilson's War, Wag the Dog, The American President, Citizen Kane, Gandhi, American Gangster, Schindler's List, A Time to Kill, With Honors, Dead Poets Society, A Beautiful Mind, The Pirates of the Caribbean Movies (although the fourth one was kind of weak).
Wow you're still reading?
Music: The Barclay Martin Ensemble (A local band here in KC), Mark Lowrey (another local musician), Pink Floyd, The Beatles, Johnny Cash, Janis Joplin, Ella Fitzgerald, Hank Williams Sr., Frank Sinatra/The Rat Pack, Glenn Miller, Count Basie, Duke Ellington, Charlie Parker, Robert Johnson, B.B. King, Louie Armstrong, Blind Willie Johnson, Dozens and dozens of Broadway Musicals.
You must really be interested if you've made it this far...
TV: Mythbusters, The Tudors, The West Wing, Will and Grace, House, Law and Order SVU, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey. As you can see, I don't watch a ton of TV.
Food: I'm not very picky but I will admit to having a long running, torrid love affair with bread and pasta. I swear I could live on it. I enjoy Comfort Food, Italian, Mediterranean, and I love Sushi...a lot.
Also, I recently left a shoe at job interview. Ask me about it. It's a funny story.
"Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes."
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