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  • Ages 25–48
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My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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My personal credo is: if you're not unique, you're redundant. So I constantly seek out opportunities to express my individuality, quite often to an idiosyncratic fault. Because I simply can't stand the thought that I might be thinking exactly like someone else.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a planetary scientist studying ice on Mars. I make a living by getting research proposals funded by NASA, which conveniently allows me to mostly work at home (despite the 10-foot commute, I'm still late to work twice a week). Though for one or two months a year I do go out into the field to study "extreme" environments on Earth that are analogous in some way to Mars: last year I chased dust devils in the Nevada desert; next year I hope to study ice-rich permafrost in craters near the top of Mauna Kea.

I am also very interested in writing for television, having recently joined a writer's group. If I had to pick my genre, I suppose it would be "geek chic"-- hey, write what you know, right? Actually, part of the reason I've finally joined an online dating site is that most of the women I've dated in the past have been fellow scientists or academics, so I thought I should try to expand my horizons a bit.

So if you wind up breaking my heart, please do so in a way that inspires me to write about it ...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking things through from every possible angle-- I can usually identify the Achilles' heel in something very quickly, because I can see each side of the coin.

Mixing margaritas almost as well as I mix metaphors.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't mind looking like a fool when I'm having fun. I love making people laugh, which I can usually do in normal conversation. But when necessary I won't hesitate to: (1) be the first one out on the dance floor-- or, if there's a live band, on the stage; (2) loudly heckle opposing players at Clipper or Laker games (gotta support the team!); or (3) sing hip hop karaoke ballads in spite of my terrible voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As a would-be writer, most of the time when I'm watching TV I can't help thinking about how I would rewrite various scenes. So my current favorite shows are those that are occasionally capable of producing flawless episodes: Breaking Bad, Mad Men, The Americans, and New Girl.

Thanks to my Kindle app, I've finally started reading real books again-- well, they're virtual e-books, but you get the idea. Some of the books I've read this year are The Big Short, A Visit from the Goon Squad, A Game of Thrones, and Keith Richards' memoir, Life.

Most of the movies that I love are more modern, but my absolute favorite is Dr. Strangelove, or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb. Either one.

Some of my favorite albums are Stankonia, American Idiot, My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy, Achtung Baby, and INXS' Kick. Yes, I know, they're all pretty mainstream. Morning may become eclectic, but I am so not a morning person.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Since I don't consider people "things", let's go with: (1) my Ipad; (2) Spotify; (3) the New Yorker; (4) playing basketball; (5) watching basketball; and (6) my stationary bike.

By the way, I've been on a real health kick lately, exercising on average over 2 hours a day for much of the last year. Most of that is on the bike, though I do play full-court basketball once or twice a week. I would really like to add another regular activity to my exercise mix. So it would be great to find someone interested in tennis or volleyball (both of which I haven't played in years, but I would love to start up again), or a partner for some kind of weekly dance lesson.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the most efficient way to spend a lot of time. It's a vicious cycle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Well, in a typical month containing four weekends I am:

(1) Going out dancing;
(2) Dining with friends;
(3) Watching a movie or preferably a play;
(4) Seeing a live comedy show (I've actually taken Improv 101 & 201 classes at UCB).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that I recently joined an online dating site. You'll have to guess which one.
You should message me if
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More likely than not, if you're thinking about messaging me, it's because I've already messaged you and you're deciding whether to reply. So to help aid your decision, I've compiled a list of reasons why you might NOT like me, based on actual quotes from OKCupid users:

(1) Apparently, I am "kind of a braggart"-- clearly, I need to work much harder on the art of the humblebrag. (2) My comments are sometimes "presumptuous." That's because I often find it more interesting to talk about the least "objectively" cool item on someone's list of favorites when I message them. The tone I'm aiming for is "playful teasing," but that doesn't always come across. (3) My writing style is a little impersonal because of my proclivity for "writing a numbered list." Yeah, that's pretty much spot on.

So if none of the above are deal-breakers, and if you can forgive their possible usage in any message I may have already sent you, then by all means you should message me back!