WHY I'M ON HERE (SHORT VERSION)
I'm an older man looking for a younger woman who is looking for an older man - a father-figure in search of a daughter-figure, if you like.
WHY I'M ON HERE (LONGER VERSION)
As a young man (half a lifetime ago) I was rarely interested in women my own age; instead I found myself craving a partner in her 30s or even 40s - someone who had something to say that I was interested in listening to. But recently, that has changed.
I have no children of my own - not a decision I regret (and not something I will change my mind about) as I really have no interest in them - other people's kids are fun for about 20 minutes, but then I run out of energy and want to give them back. :-) But I think there's a biological instinct in me that expects to have children by now (and, indeed, grown-up children; in a stone-age society, my eldest child would probably be about 20).
Possibly for that reason, I now find myself drawn towards women much younger than myself, and not just erotically, but with a curious, almost protective feeling.
Only a few years ago, I might have doubted it was possible for there to be a genuine connection between two people separated by 20 years or more; but, since actually trying it, I have been very pleasantly surprised by just how comfortable and "right" it can feel.
In recent involvements there has often been what one young woman described (with a smile) as a "Freudian subtext": when we go out together I find myself saying things like "now, are you sure you're going to be warm enough?" (blush) It's a pleasant feeling. :-)
So, I'm setting up this profile to look for younger women who find older partners more interesting (in the same way that I did when I was their age).
I am fully aware that, for approximately 99% of younger women, even thinking about getting involved with a man in his early 40's is enough to induce vomiting; that's entirely understandable, and the best of luck to you all. :-) But if you happen to be a member of the other 1%... say hello!
[As this has apparently been causing some confusion, I guess I need to spell this out: I'm looking for a partner, a girlfriend, a lover, or a friend-with-benefits; in other words, something that includes sex :-) but which is *not* only about sex and nothing else. On top of that, I would like there to be at least a hint of something father/daughter-ish about it as well: that could be very subtle, or it could be as obvious as me actually reading you bedtime stories.
Oh, and if you're interested in D/s and you're an s then you should probably also get in touch.]
MY PERSONALITY IN A NUTSHELL
There's a place I go walking sometimes, along the river Lea, near Tottenham Hale. On the side of one of the houses is a sign which reads "Misuse of Life Saving Equipment in this Garden Will Lead to Prosecution."
I suspect they meant "Misuse of THE Life-Saving Equipment in this Garden..." - in other words, there is some equipment in there, please don't mess with it. But by missing out the definite article it becomes a far more general warning concerning the misuse of ANY life-saving equipment there, regardless of origin.
This conjures up an image in my mind of disreputable people bringing their own life-saving equipment with them, specifically in order to steal into the garden in the dead of night and misuse it there.
Can this (I ask myself) really be such a serious problem that it's necessary to threaten the miscreants with prosecution in order to keep them away? Or am I being naive about this, and we're actually in the grip of a national crime-wave, with people misusing life-saving equipment in gardens all over the country, and I've just been too wrapped up in myself to notice?
SOME OTHER STUFF ABOUT ME
When it comes to one particular type of intelligence - logic, analysis, abstract reasoning - I may be the smartest person you know. Doubtless that sounds arrogant; but if I were (say) a professional tennis player, it would be a simple statement of fact to say that I might well have a faster reaction time and better hand-eye coordination than anyone else you knew - someone without those qualities couldn't do the job. To be able to do my actual job well, a person needs a brain that thinks faster, clearer, and at a higher level of abstraction than normal.
I'm well-read, well-spoken, and have enough padding that I am pleasant to cuddle. :-)
I can be a bit reserved and "British" sometimes: I'm very open, and honest, and will happily answer any question you ask me, but I tend not to put on extravagant displays of emotion. People who constantly shout and scream make me uneasy.
I'm old-fashioned in some ways - I've never enjoyed loud parties, and when I listen to music it's classical; I hold open doors for people, and say thank you when they do the same for me. But I'm also very liberal: I rarely dissaprove of any action unless it is measurably harmful to someone other than the person doing it; I find it absurd that there should be any legal distinction between same-sex and different-sex marriages, and almost as absurd that it shouldn't be possible for a marriage to include more than two people if that's what they all want; I am constantly baffled as to why anyone thinks keeping drugs or prostitution illegal actually helps anything.
I like many cats better than some people.
Sexually speaking, I can be strongly dominant if you like that sort of thing; and I can also not be dominant at all if you don't. (But I'm never submissive).
I'm a bit less "sloppy" than OKCupid's personality profile thinks I am; also less "competitive", much more "logical", "giving" and "kind" and a bit more "creative".
I am direct, and don't like "white lies".
My sense of humour is sufficiently dead-pan that people sometimes don't realise when I'm joking.
I am a bit of pedant, but usually manage to keep it in check. :-) (It's not all bad. I can at least distinguish between "your", "you're", "yaw", and "yore" without any difficulty.)
I loathe rude, inconsiderate people, and would feel thoroughly miserable if you ever thought I was one.
I'm very tactile, and suspect that quite a few of the world's problems ultimately come down to a lack of hugs.
I am willing to pay more for good cheese.
I can be as strict as you need me to be, and as gentle as you need me to be.