Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


48 Santa Rosa, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:54pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Doesn’t have kids

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, I'm not sure why but I've been putting off writing a profile for a while. I suppose I'm not that into talking about myself in public forums. I'm a private person with people I don't know well, but share a lot with those I'm close to. Communication is important to me in all my relationships, especially with intimate others. I need people to be upfront about what's going on with them emotionally and otherwise, though not necessarily blunt. Tact and sensitivity are appreciated.

I'm looking for new friends as well as a significant other, and am also open to short term/casual dating provided it's a caring connection with good communication.
Frankly, I find romantic relationships to be a deep, mysterious, exciting, terrifying, challenging, and inspiring experience. Along with all that yummy, juicy, physical and emotional intimacy that goes on, I find there's also all sorts of “growth opportunities” that arise (also known as baggage), which I feel is something to be owned and held in compassion, both in ourselves and in the relationship. That's where being a good communicator can be really helpful. Spiritually speaking, I relate a lot to the statement: “It's about becoming Whole, not Holy.”

All that being said, I'm not looking to be processing all the time. I'm a playful person who likes to laugh and have fun. What we do is not as important as simply enjoying each others company. It's important to me that when I'm spending time with someone, friend or partner, there's an ease to it. I can really enjoy just hanging out and connecting for an evening and making some food. I enjoy good conversation, which for me ranges from the erudite to the silly and the sacred to the irreverent.

At this point I should probably say something about availability. Right now I probably need more space than most when it comes to romantic relationships. A certain amount of it helps me come back to center when necessary, so pacing when it comes to being together is important to me.

If you got this far, thanks for reading it. I know it can be a bit of a chore reading through these sometimes. Also, I'm not always the most pithy person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
All kinds for all these categories, from refined to unrefined, deep to silly.
I listen to a lot of NPR as well as some sports radio, and while I respect KPFA and am glad it's out there, I hardly ever listen to it.

Lars and the Real Girl, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Tropic Thunder, Being John Malkovich, Charlie Kaufman's stuff in general, Cohen Brothers, serious weak spot for action films (even the bad ones), Monty Python, Rushmore, Tenacious D and the pick of Destiny,... the list goes on.

Comedy: Louis C. K., Ricky Gervais, early Robin Williams (Reality What a Concept ), Hannibal Burres, early Steve Martin (Comedy's Not Pretty ), Steven Wright, George W. Bush (comedy/tragedy, both terms) Mitch Hedberg, Patton Oswald...

All styles of visual arts, with a soft spot for Surrealism.

Juno soundtrack, Garden State soundtrack, World/ethnic dance music, 60's Rock, 90's Grunge, Radio Head, Iron and Wine, Outkast,....Krishna Das
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My shoe laces, Spam (the canned kind), Muzak (the canned kind), Root canals, Waiting in line at the DMV, Smooth Jazz
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not thinking so much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depends. Spending time with a friend. Catching some live music. Watching a movie. Dancing. Catching an art opening. Hanging out in a cafe. Playing a card/board game if I can find someone who wants to.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you value being emotionally present (even if you aren't always), and are willing to communicate.