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Acroxander

30 / M / Bisexual / Available

San Diego, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:23pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
***DON'T message me with dating intent if our match is below 85%. Yeah, you. Mr., "but we're at 84%, that doesn't mean ME."
It ESPECIALLY means you. Just don't.***

I'm the product of a childhood without spankings.

I am one of those types who defies categorization simply because I like to occupy several at once. I am a cackling nerd with 9% body fat. I am a lover of books with a head full of internet memes. You get the idea.

I was raised in Ashland, Oregon with my twin and an older brother and no father. I love my family in spite of the distance.

PLEASE READ the following paragraph!
My circus and my girlfriend do take up quite a bit of my time, but I make an effort to get to know folks when I can, and she is open to me dating others and she likes to meet people, too. We're not SWINGERS as such, but I do retain freedoms provided I am checking in with her, and she much prefers to meet people in whom I am interested. We'd like to ideally establish at least deep and meaningful friendship with our partner's partners, if not date them ourselves.

I'm here to meet people.
Primarily if like other polyamorous folks, but not only them. Some poly people and myself are gathering and trying to find each other out here, and we want you to join us! If in the meantime, you're curious about what
Polyamory means, go here:
www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html
What I’m doing with my life
I work for Magic-Flight, a company considered the "Apple" of vaporizers,
and I direct and perform in a circus performance troupe, which means, practically speaking, that I have little free time. Please don't waste it.

I have no children, and plan on having none. NONE, DO YOU HEAR?!

Typical working day: awake at 7, stretch and eat breakfast, bike to work at 8:30, work until 5:00, bike home at 5:45, train for two hours, make and eat dinner at 8:00, shower, do circus-related work until bed or squeeze in GF time.
What I'm trying to say here is that any time you want with me needs to be scheduled, because I am a driven artist who has to work full time.

So don't message me with "hey,"
Or "what's up?"
Give me a reason.
I’m really good at
Keeping my temper.

I have a knack for diplomacy.
I am useful in emergencies, a skilled Kung Fu artist, and (I'm told) a talented performer.

It's recently been said that I bring people together who otherwise would never have known each other. I see the truth in this, and appreciate it. I think that my whole life, really, has been about seeking out others and placing them close to one another.

I apparently have a knack for coming out of dangerous situations safely. I'm the guy you want to walk with down a dark alley or unfamiliar street.

I am NOT good at:
Almost any type of analog art: Painting, drawing, sewing, etc.
I am abysmal at mathematics. Seriously, I can't make change correctly half the time. I am a failure at baking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a stage voice. That means that unless I'm trying hard to be quiet, my normal speaking voice carries a quarter mile in urban settings. I apologize right now.
After that, they tend to notice my command of English dappled liberally with bad words.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books include the Dark Tower Cycle by Stephen King, Wolf-Dreams by Michael Weaver, any H.P. Lovecraft. Anything by Doctors Lilly or Leary, or Robert Anton Wilson. I'm crazy about Neil Gaiman, and Terry Pratchett, and Richard K. Morgan. I love books about psychology, social study, anthropology, horror (although this may be the rarest in terms of quality), fantasy, modern fiction, and more. I love Buckminster Fuller and wish more people had read his incredible books. They will change your outlook!
I listen to audiobooks all day at work and some of my new faves include Ready Player One, Snow Crash, Reamde, and many more. Audiobooks are the shit.

Movies: I like Ink, Dog Soldiers, Original Sin, Jackie Chan films, Documentaries, Bunraku, South Park, Deadwood, Carnivale, and more. Comedies both stupid and intelligent!

I almost never have time for television.

My taste in music is really eclectic, and I'm not ashamed of the stuff I like that isn't "cool" for whatever reason. I love Fleetwood Mac, Nine Inch Nails, the Circus Contraption Band, Bush, Lady Gaga, the Guano Apes, Si*Se, the Scissor Sisters, Balkan Beat Box, Gogol Bordello, Sarah McLachlan, various electronic musics, and many local artists whose names would be wasted here since they're friends.

Food. . . well, I love food. Particularly Asian food, Indian food (the hotter the better) and all manner of foods provided they are actually foods and not sawdust or lug nuts.

I FUCKING HATE LUG NUTS.

Since my training is constant, so is my eating! I like to make food, eat food, think about food, give food to my friends. . . Food food food.
Let's talk about food!
The six things I could never do without
I need an organizer. The circus, my job, and all. . . a man can't hope to cram it all into his head.

I need my iPod. I love audiobooks and music.

I need cold water. Oh, man do I love some cold water after training.

I need a stage. I gotta perform, I just gotta!

I need quality shoes for training.

I need my wonderful girlfriend, who is literally the coolest human being on the entire planet Earf.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The Danger Zone. And the fact that you're in it, and, consequently, should call Kenny Loggins.

I think about games. Not the head variety. The card, board or digital type.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday nights are circus rehearsals, so I am generally flying through the air, throwing small people at other people, yelling, and being stepped on. But I'm available afterwards, if you like the smell of sweat and other people's feet. ;)

I am often with my close friends on Friday nights. I love the people around fiercely and my time with them is precious to me. I'm an inclusive kinda guy when it comes to this, so if I like you, I'll want you in my tribe.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once almost killed two men in self defense.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 21–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
If you're awesome and think we can be friends. I will be nice to anyone, so don't be shy about reaching out. I'm especially interested in other polyamorous people, as the network for poly folks in SD seems to be a bit sparse. . .