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30 Wellington, New Zealand Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20-33
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 4:43am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 3" (1.91m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So initially, when I got into the online dating scene, I wrote a profile based on recommendations from reddit, because I was lazy.

Been a couple of years, so I decided to put a bit more of myself up here.

So I'm a strictly non-monogamous relationship anarchist (look it up, it's a form of polyamory/open relationship, and it is fucking awesome).

I have a gorgeous partner, who is also a relationship anarchist - we're totally secure in our relationship. We date, make out with, and do the sex with anyone that we want, with very few exceptions. We really don't do the possession thing, and we sure as hell don't do the monogamy thing.

I am a liberal-as-fuck intersectional feminist social justice warrior. (once again, look it up if you don't know what any of these are).

I'm geeky as all fuck.To me, a geek is simply someone who has the capacity to be super-passionate about things they like. I like anime, board games, PC games, and roleplaying games.

I just topped 50K salary for the first time in my life in my current government employment, which feels pretty fucking good.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now, I am working my way up to a place in the justice sector where I can influence policy and help plug some of the gaping holes in our justice system.

Also, you may want to add fetlife to the list of terms you may or may not need to google.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making new people feel welcome.
(seriously, google fetlife - you won't regret it)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like a lot of books. Ask me what books I like. I'm ridiculously easy to get addicted to books with compelling characters and good world-building.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Feminism. I'm dedicated to using my magical man sparkles for good.
Technology. Laptop, smartphone, internet.
Relationship anarchy.
Fetlife. (what? man, you still haven't googled that yet? I'll give you a cookie if you do!)
Being able to count.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to make life less horrible for the greatest number of people without ending up in a dictatorship.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chilling out, normally. I do a lot of stuff during the week. Thursday/Friday are generally my leisure days.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I miss my twin brother terribly since he moved to Australia in May 2012.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
* You realize that the best way to a man's heart is by making him laugh so hard he passes out from oxygen deprivation
* You believe unicorns ARE real (or you are one)
* You know what (possibly after googling) fetlife, intersectional feminism and relationship anarchy are, and aren't terrified or looking to brain me with an oversized bible.