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43 M Menlo Park, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 17
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm originally from the wilds of Canada but moved to the Bay Area for grad school. Barring a small absence for work abroad (Berlin in Germany, and Toronto my home town) I have been here ever since. The California sunshine is hard to leave!

I enjoy my work a great deal but I am most definitely a balanced person and I try to spend my evenings and weekends doing other things. I have a great variety interests and I am always looking for people with whom to share these. I especially love connecting with my friends and family through conversation about whatever inspires us, preferably over a good meal.

In no particular order, I enjoy playing soccer (I've been "promoted" to organizer of my team), renting a house in Tahoe and skiing for a weekend, hiking nearby or up in the mountains (just discovered the joy of hiking poles), cooking with friends (I've been doing "swim dinner" once a week with my swimming partners), eating out, reading about politics and history, listening to jazz and world music, going to the museum. I am a big fan of film festivals (I'm looking forward to the San Jose FF and SFFF in a few months) and also of the theatre -- I love good storytelling! While I enjoy the natural Californian environment and try to get outdoors a lot, I must admit to being a city person at heart. I enjoy the vibrancy of San Francisco and thus I make fairly regular trips -- I love to discover a new neighbourhood with its shops and cafes and local character(s).

I aspire to be an honest, genuine, thoughtful, generous and supportive person. Some traits that I like about myself are: I am calm, (er, usually) rational and patient. I can be independent and resourceful. I can lead by building consensus. I have a booming voice when I need it. I am a good listener. I am polite. I'm very tolerant and can see things from different perspectives. I eat a lot of fruit. I have my Dad's sense of humour. I have a lot of energy and enthusiasm for the things I like to do.

I would like to meet a positive, intelligent, educated, sporty, attractive woman who will be my best friend, my lover, and my partner in all things. I'd like our connection to eventually develop into a serious and long-term relationship. The woman I'm hoping to meet will be someone with whom I can share my thoughts, interests and pleasures; someone I can learn from and be inspired by; someone with whom I will enjoy doing all the neat things we will do together.

Well, that's the big picture! In practice: I'd love to meet someone who'll cook with me, host a dinner party with me, play a sport with me. Someone who will appreciate the wonderful breakfasts I can make. Someone who'll want to mix up our circles of friends and see what happens. Someone who will go for a 10 mile walk with me. Someone who'll have lively, multi-faceted, sometimes deep, sometimes whimsical conversations with me into the wee hours...
What I’m doing with my life
I work as a university researcher, and I have recently done the unusual thing (for academics) of changing fields from pure maths into computer science. I'm now working in a research group where I can apply my knowledge while at the same time collaborating with really great people and learning fascinating new things. I am very happy and feel lucky to have found such a niche. My duties also involve some teaching, which I find very fulfilling and rewarding -- I teach summer math camp for gifted high school students if you can imagine!
I’m really good at
I'm a good organizer. I can teach well. I can cook well. Yes - good at math.
The first things people usually notice about me
Deep voice, blue eyes, strong legs, big head (Ok, I'm an academic, we're not called egg-heads for nothing...). I look young for my age.(Honestly!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Top five plays I've ever seen: Arcadia, Major Barbara, The Witch is Not For Burning, Waiting for Godot, Copenhagen. My favourite movie in recent years has been The Lives of Others. I love Brubeck and Coltrane. I love a good paella, a good pizza, good pappardelle with pan-fried plaice ;)
The six things I could never do without
I've had to think about this in the context of a job offer from a far-flung place...
A great grocery store.
Walking to work (this one might be unsustainable...).
A cosmopolitan metropolis within driving distance.
An airport.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Activities in SF, current events, 20th century history, keeping up with my good friends who have moved away and my family in Toronto.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a dinner. At a movie. Out running. Never on the road to Tahoe if I can help it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Tough one... I believe that good relationships are precious and worth fighting for. In the past, this has led me to stay longer in relationships than perhaps I should have. But I have no regrets -- my past relationships were always with good people from whom I learned a lot; and I am optimistic that this character trait that I have just described will one day be extremely useful and valuable to me and to my partner!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 29–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Hopefully you've liked what you've read (and what you've seen)... If so, I would love to chat!