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Aeropress

54 M Bristol, UK

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 53–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Pacific Islander
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Often
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Dropped out of high school
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
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Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
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English (Okay), French (Okay)

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Dora says "Have children"
Mama and Betsy say "Find yourself a charity
Help the needy and the crippled or put some time into Ecology"
Well there's a wide wide world of noble causes
And lovely landscapes to discover
But all I really want to do right now
Is find another lover.

Joni Mitchell "Song for Sharon"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rG0kNny3WlY
http://jonimitchell.com/music/song.cfm?id=22

To be honest, though I love "Hejira" almost as much as "Hissing", I had to cherry-pick this one verse - and not particularly seriously.
I'm happy to say that none of the songs on either album say very much about my life.

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I realise I'm supposed to describe my personality here, but I'm afraid you'll have to read between the lines ... of which I acknowledge there are far too many - but précis was always my greatest weakness in English.
Please don't even attempt to read very much of it !

It has become somewhat de rigeur to profess "emotionally literacy", but I didn't get past the first few pages of the book with that title which I once bought on impulse before a train journey. I mistrust such "techniques" - but suffice to say that I've devoted a fair amount of grey matter to that side of life - albeit mostly while "repenting later" ...
Any "baggage" was properly analysed and filed long ago.

Although I feel I've learned a lot of life's lessons, I resist getting too far from what some might call "emotional naiveté" - so perhaps you should view the following list of "non-negotiables" in that light - as over-engineered defences.

I also believe recklessly embarking on emotional adventures to be morally indefensible - especially if it has happened more than once already and you have the beginnings of a "learning curve".

To use the quote probably wrongly attributed to Einstein :-
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

-----------what I'm looking for in a relationship ----------

This sort of thing inevitably ends up somewhat clichéd, but don't we all mostly want the same sorts of things ?

Someone to share life with - from the ecstatic to the mundane, someone to safely be "silly" with from time to time ?
(Perhaps I also mean "romantic" .. )

Mutual support through the bad times as well as the good.

Someone to enjoy simply being in the same space with - both physical and metaphorical - even with each doing their own thing - or nothing at all - or even apart ...

Though it's vital to have shared interests, I'm not sure "Howard and Hilda" are the best role models ...

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Ten percent of OKCupid members who answered the question, claimed they believe that the Earth is bigger than the Sun.

I struggle with basic astronomy myself, but if you agree with them, this is where we part company.
(Though I would very much like to know how you could possibly believe this to be the correct answer ! )

Something I recently found interesting :- "The peak power production in the Sun's centre, per volume, has been compared to the volumetric heat generated in an active compost heap. !"
http://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/index.php?topic=38639.0

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Do you live within reasonable mutual cycling distance (15 miles) of east Bristol ?

Being realistic, I mean Bristol (preferably) or Bath, plus anywhere adjacent to the railway path.
I can drive, but prefer not to own a car, and don't even like taking the bus when I can cycle or walk.

OK, I'm open to persuasion about the distance - though it gets even more complicated later.
I'm always open for a chat if we have common interests.


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Are you Green (but pro-science) / Left of centre / atheist / socially libertarian etc. ?

(No God, gods, astrology,, UFOs, ghosts, past lives, angels, tooth fairies, voodoo, dowsing, chemtrails, Reiki, (whatever the hell that is), and of course no homoeopathy)

I tend to discount profiles where "atheist", (or perhaps "agnostic") is not declared - but I understand that in some professions, people need to remain discrete, but suggesting that "Creationism" should be taught in schools alongside Evolution will see me reaching for the "hide" button almost immediately - though usually not before I've played "bingo" with the other questions.

I'm no scientist, but I would find it impossible to relate to someone who by our age, and with the Internet at their fingertips doesn't know the basics of how plants grow and what this has to do with fossil fuels, CO2 and climate change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6w2M50_Xdk&list=UUh9g56Xhr_OKqZKxN4b4KrQ

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Do you enjoy the outdoors; sleeping under canvas; messing about in or on the sea; gardening; self-sufficiency, ?

If you're into skiing holidays, cruises, posh hotels, fast cars and "bling", it isn't going to work.

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Music, rather than literature or film or the visual arts has always been an essential accompaniment to my life and I would want to share this with a partner - so hopefully there will be a healthy overlap in our tastes. (exhaustive details below).

A long shot ... if in addition, you spent at least some time over the past couple of decades dancing all night to "repetitive beats" as defined in the CJA of 1994 - or were there in spirit, we should definitely at least compare notes.

To be honest, though it was a friendly scene and kept me incredibly lean and fit, being in my late 30s by the time I discovered it, it never gave me a social life.
Salsa never "worked" for me as an alternative, and I foresee that in the future I will need to develop a liking for Breton folk dance.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xm4P-OKi8xs

But I still harbour the vestiges of a "Fred and Ginger" fantasy - though this has absolutely nothing to do with "Come Dancing".
I sometimes cycle to "La Revancha Del Tango" (but the footwear bothers me hugely)

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Are you a regular cyclist or hope to become one ?

Perhaps a two-wheeled commuter who would like to try longer rides (as I was only a few years ago) - or perhaps even if you currently only get the bike out of the shed at weekends.
I'm not into carbon / Lycra - I'm much more "Tour de Shopping" than Tour De Anywhere Else - and I barely "qualify" for my CTC membership alongside the middle-aged and older people I share rides with.

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If you got this far, the next bit will surely scupper my already listing ship, but it's not something I want to spring on someone later.

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Parles-tu français - au moins un peu ?


I'm hoping to retire in six years' time, sell my rat-infested hovel in the UK and move to within walking distance of the French Atlantic coast - probably south west Finistère, and have enough land to grow my own fruit and veggies ("oh no, not asparagus again !" ), generate my own electricity, and learn to swim properly, dive, surf, canoe and probably sail - as well as cycling all over France, camping and simply picnicking on the beach.

I naturally want to share this with a kindred spirit - but I also need to make the most of the next 6 years...

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I fell in love with France when I twice visited for a month in my teens, I've always had French colleagues, and listen to French radio - which gives ours a serious run for its money.
Though I haven't owned a passport since 1976 !

Initially, having to drag my neglected French towards eventual fluency seemed too much like hard work, but it quickly became part of the attraction - along with being forced to give the human race another go - through needing to get to know people from a different culture - though not all that different.
I have romantic notions of making myself useful in the local community as a replacement for what I do at work - though I wouldn't rule out paid work as a way of integrating.

It will be a challenge moving from a city and a job where I mix with very diverse people, to the very different rhythm of country life.
(Perhaps for purely misguided reasons I believe I would fit in better there than in the UK countryside)

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I would much rather meet someone in real life - though since I've had an Internet presence for 20 years, I always thought I might meet someone through my online scribblings.

Though not through the contrivances that Internet dating sites invariably are...

Most of them seem to be little more than random flirting zones - where even if one takes the trouble to produce a profile, bizarrely incompatible** people will send you messages.
(**well, so far as one can tell from a couple of lines of txt-spk mostly describing their hair colour, and certain other warning flags like "bubbly"; "lady"; "young at heart", oh and a fairly recent one - enthusing about having read "50 Shades of Grey" gawd 'elp us. Clearly, I lack a "GSOH".

The one attached to a UK broadsheet which I actually bought occasionally in the days when I read newspapers (pre-Internet - mostly for the TV guide), features profiles which read like professional CVs, and which make me feel I should start working for my MBA before even thinking of contacting anyone.

Then there's the weird culty one with the passive-aggressive TV adverts and the interminable psych tests.
They said they couldn't do anything for me (I suspect this was more to do with my left-wing politics and atheism than with the ambivalent way in which I of necessity answered most of the questions).
In retrospect I am hugely relieved that I was ineligible.

Refreshingly friendly though this site is, the whole exercise is ultimately a waste of time, due to the ridiculously tiny sample of the local population with profiles here - which is why people thousands of miles distant may find me looking at their profiles - whether friends or enemies - and sometimes I compare notes with other men my age.

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Perhaps we could imagine we bumped into each other (painlessly) in the Atlantic surf ?

Such a shame we didn't meet in the late 90s during my dancing days - I might still be dancing if I'd met someone to make it mean something.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QmgKRrSows

And I can't resist posting this one. My younger brother who's into Sibelius, mathematics, skinny bikes and carefully-maintained pedalling cadences can't understand how one can cycle and listen to music at the same time (whereas I never leave home without music) .. but this album is what has got me the 9 miles home up the Railway Path from Saltford station several times recently at sufficient speed to wake me with cramp at 4am. :-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=jAyc-hJcGcY

I confess it doesn't always suit a sustained sprint - and at times it's more like riding a horse over rough ground - but that describes the railway path and my riding style quite well - especially uphill - and I'm happy to take my cue from the music. :-)

It's the sort of thing that could persuade me to learn Spanish - and have another try at partner dancing, but probably not horse riding.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Summer 2014, and with my brugmansias having come through the unusually mild winter entirely unscathed in my unheated greenhouse, I've ended up doing a lot less cycling and much more gardening this year - so less of the sprinting and hauling my vast bulk over the surrounding hills, and more lifting, carrying and occasional climbing as I endeavour to use every cubic inch of my hundredth of an acre.

Ironically my gardening year started with me doing something to my piriformis muscle, which then hooked up with an inconveniently arranged sciatic nerve and being unable to walk unaided for 6 weeks.
I've been musing that this example of very poor "design" is my own personal and painful proof of evolution - a bit like the recurrent laryngeal nerve which is badly routed in humans, but takes a 15 foot detour in the giraffe !

Luckily I could still cycle five miles, but the walk to and from the bike shed was almost comically painful - thereafter, the building where I have a moderately active job is amenable to my pushing a trolley everywhere. The local supermarket was more of a challenge because I had to walk to and from the trolley park.

So having something to enjoy from my garden bench was very welcome.

Initially I was going to grow just a few of my favourite plants, plus a lot of salad in the greenhouse, but I had to shelve the salad idea because the ornamentals have shaded the greenhouse too much !

My garden has ended up as something of a shrine to the sub-tropical, often spectacularly fragrant and delightfully toxic solanaceae family.

https://sites.google.com/site/gentlegreen/garden2014

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Improving my French - and worrying that I may need to learn some Breton while not having a Celtic bone in my body and not speaking any Welsh in spite of living within cycling distance of Wales all my life.

Clearing out my rat-infested hovel so I can do it up a bit and sell it in 7 years' time and escape to France.

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I get a shiver down my spine at how close I came to not cycling - or in effect taking any regular exercise at all.

In spite of being a whole-food vegan from 21, I was 27 when I was actually forced onto non-motorised two wheels, 36 before I got super fit due to the rave scene, and 49 before I stopped putting the bike away when I got home from work !
My scrawny adolescent nerd self would be amazed at how I now spend my free time .

I'm no Lycra warrior, and mostly only a mid-distance, mid-speed plodder, but I try to cycle 365 days a year - averaging 100 miles a week for the better half of the year - commuting, shopping, group rides with the Bristol CTC, two day camping trips and sometimes just for the exercise and chasing the sunshine. I'm hoping to build up to multi-week touring.
I'm striving to find real enjoyment in climbing hills, and most days will sprint for a mile or two - testing the pain barrier, but I wouldn't be seen dead in a gym and I hate "sport" of all kinds (I'll watch bits of the TDF, but largely for the scenery - the riding itself is insane and the rest of the year I wonder why I watched it) and have never in 25 years of cycling set out without music to listen to, and until recently wouldn't go for a ride unless there was a specific destination and a "purpose" for going.

I have a hankering to eventually be able to shed the wheels sometimes and take up walking / hiking /running.
A few days' walking to work during a period of snow and ice confirmed that my muscles have become too optimised for cycling.

--------- non-human-powered transport -------

At 24, after 7 years of motorcycling, having been horrified by a trial driving lesson a few years earlier, I bought a Reliant 3 wheeler and taught myself to drive one evening in 1984, but long distance driving sends me to sleep and I use motorised transport - even as a passenger - only when there's no other option. I've owned or part-owned 6 motorcycles, 5 cars and 5 bicycles.

The car adverts on TV baffle me.

The older I get, the more cars look like mobility scooters - but usually with non-disabled people driving them.
(There is a sad convergence - though it's mostly psychological)
The craziest feature of this era is children being driven to school in armoured cars, and recreational shopping that makes Sunday traffic on suburban roads look like the trunk roads did during the rush hour when I was a kid.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Inventing stuff.

https://sites.google.com/site/gentlegreen/zx81project

https://sites.google.com/site/gentlegreen/bikelighting

Gardening :-

https://sites.google.com/site/gentlegreen/garden2014

My preference is for for form and fragrance and a restrained palette of colours.
Oh and I'm a bit of an amateur botanist / plantophile.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm built like a brick outhouse - though hopefully I move with a little more grace - due to my daily hour (minimum) of cycling to music and having done a lot of dancing of the improvised variety.
My wardrobe is as minimalist as I can manage - and I don't own a suit or a tie. I aim to be able to dress in the dark !
There is only one setting on my washing machine.
I fully subscribe to the modern design principle that form should follow function and I hope to always be ready to jump on my bike at a moment's notice.

My bathroom has only Body Shop shower gel, fragrance-free deodorant and fennel toothpaste and is not a room in which I spend much time.

I have only recently learned that most people get BO and so I'm something of a genetic freak - probably carrying the ABCC1 gene variant .. so not only do I not pong if I work up a sweat, I'm very sensitive to strong odours - and hyperosmia always presages the oncoming cluster headaches that thankfully I don't seem to get these days.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I learned to read incredibly easily, but it's been downhill since then. I haven't read a book in years and if I allowed you to visit my hovel, you would struggle to find a book.
As one who has missed out on human company, I often find the themes in literature and drama distressing.

That said, I read "Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance several times, most of the William Gibson "Cyberpunk" novels, and I once read Dickens's Hard Times" during a very brief dalliance in the Social Sciences - as well as "1984" and "Brave New World" ..

I even managed to fail my English O level the first time (I got an A in French), and ungraded in English Lit (I enjoyed "To Kill a Mockingbird", but "Romeo and Juliet"- yuck ! -).

I once bought a copy of "Ulysses" in the doomed hope that I could learn to love literature as much as music, but found it just as suffocating and depressing as if it had been conventional in form.

Since I'm learning French, I bought a copy of "Le Nez Qui Voque" a few years back after hearing a very abridged and atmospheric reading on "France Culture", but I haven't got very far - I certainly won't be reading any Camus or Sartre.

I occasionally enjoy radio drama and book readings.

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I dislike "movies" - apart from the likes of classics like "Inherit The Wind", "12 Angry Men", "To Kill a Mockingbird". or "Goodbye Mr. Chips" and inevitably as a Francophile I like Tati and Pagnol (with someone to hold my hand I might be able to cope with watching "Jean de Florette" a second time) I've never seen "Star Wars" or "Indiana Jones" and have no plans to.

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In terms of non-factual TV, I used to like detective series - "Morse", "Law and Order", "CSI", etc, - though the subject matter is ultimately too disturbing for me.
In spite of being squeamish, I watched every "House" episode more than once, and embarrassingly fall back on Star Trek TNG & Voyager and latterly "Big Bang Theory" for comfort fodder.
I'm on the cusp of seeing if I can live without endless repeats of "Time Team" and "Air Crash Investigation" and thereby slim down my cable package. (The programmes classed as "factual" on the Discovery channels would be laughable if it wasn't such a scary reflection on the beliefs of the average American)
French TV doesn't so far seem worth the expense ... their speech radio on the other hand sometimes makes even Radio 4 seem a bit naff.

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"Shows" LOL
I was actually once dragged out to see "Coco Cabana" and didn't actually hate it.
I saw a fair few Shakespeare, Ibsen and Chekhov plays at the Old Vic one year so at least am familiar with the experience of theatre.
I find Shakespeare too sexist, racist, crude and violent - spectacular though the word-play may be. (perhaps there are also too many words - I'm not keen on Mozart either)

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKUz5uzuXq8

"One good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain"

For me it's like being on a drip. It helps keep me sane, it helps me zone-out the traffic noise drifting over from the main roads as I cycle to work and back - as well as being worth a few extra MPH.
If I didn't share an office I would have it playing 24 hours a day.

I have observed that those people who claim in their profiles to "like all sorts of music", generally don't actually have a clue about how diverse music is.

I was raised on the likes of Vaughan Williams and Ravel ...my parents were seriously into singing (madrigals, lieder) and made me join a church choir (I soon did a runner) ... I even "played" the clarinet as a child, and briefly attempted to play "jazz" later, but I have absolutely no talent for making music ...but I can generally make some sort of vocalisation in tune.
I don't mind a bit of Bach - or perhaps EARLY Mozart, but full-on classical and worse still "romantic" music with its German drinking songs leaves me cold.

In the 70s, encountering Motown, Pink Floyd, punk (a fairly brief dalliance in my late teens) and especially dub reggae changed my tastes for ever.

Hearing "King Tubby Meets Rockers Uptown" on John Peel in 1977 was pivotal. :-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UyO09nD4zyA

My favourite vocal album is Joni Mitchell's "The Hissing of Summer Lawns" which I have been known to sing along with in its entirety. (Ironic since its narrative is not something I would relate to in literature or film)

These days it's mostly "ambient electronica" - which probably means so much more to me because I spent many Saturday nights dancing myself skinny at local raves in the late 90s.

I feel incredibly spoiled these days.
Those of us who enjoyed minimal / avant-garde/electronic music in the 70s and 80s used to have to really scrape around for it - we had Tangerine Dream, Steve Reich, even resorting to the instrumental bits of Genesis albums ....

"Deep Mix Moscow" radio is my daily cycling soundtrack :-

http://deepmix.ru/deepmix128.pls

The nearest to a full-on "rave experience" these days is when I'm sprinting home slightly uphill on the railway path with Orbital or deep House on the cans.

Doing it to a samba beat is a particular pleasure :-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZmcFU_zGa0

Aphex Twin :-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUT3KoxVzQg
Orbital :-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gd-QkRA8Ik
LTJ Bukem :-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFVHjZYoq4Q
Basic Channel :-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-DGtIPbphE

Electronica; dub; jazz; reggae; Joni Mitchell; worldbeat; dance; Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan; Orbital; Basic Channel; Augustus Pablo; AphexTwin; KingTubby; Culture; Miles Davis; Hendrix; ambient; Basic Channel; Goa Trance; techno; Ulrich Schnauss; stax; motown; soul; LTJ Bukem; Larry Heard; Andy Sheppard; Boards of Canada; TheOrb; garage; Pink Floyd; MC Solaar; Cocteau Twins; Soul II Soul; Stanley Clarke; John Martyn; Disco; house; Drum&Bass; detroit; Jeff Mills; Keith Jarrett; Weather Report; Airto Moreira; Linton Kwesi-Johnson; stax; motown; cheb mami; steve hillage; MC Conrad

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Dancing

http://www.dogglounge.com/dogglounge.pls
(select, right-click, choose "open link")

I spent my late 30s dancing by myself in Bristol (at the back of the room wearing earplugs). I came to the "rave" scene very late. My ears were at the time attuned largely to modern jazz and the early UK rave music had sounded like massed Stylophones... and then there was all that driving around the M25 - all totally alien to me. Then I heard the Aphex Twin on late one night Radio 3 , and also noticed the legal "repetitive beats" events that were happening within walking distance.

I never met my dance partner in this "vibrant" city of 400,000.

By the time I turned 40, the scene had soured and I'd had enough of paying £10 or more to spend a few hours in a smoke-filled room with a load of boozed-up youngsters.

So I returned to my gardening and since then have had to dance at home - or in my head.
Mostly I "dance" on my bike at 15MPH. (I see a lot of my cycling as some sort of dancing or meditation.)

I tried several different Salsa classes, but found it cheesy and contrived out of the context of Cuba (maybe I was also too unhappy) ... I prefer slightly moody samba influences in my jazz and dance music.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZmcFU_zGa0

I managed half a lesson of Lindy (the instructor was built like Wayne Sleep, but just a little more elastic) and CeRoc (I did a runner from both after half an hour - after the latter I was reeking of cheap perfume - the venue with its keg beer should have given me a clue )

I repeatedly wonder about Zumba, but it seems a bit too much like line dancing, and then there's "urban street dance", but to be honest, I can't see myself fitting in...

I reckon I just need to find the right partner - and give real meaning to the dance.

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I lack any great enthusiasm for cooking, but I know what to do with vegetables.
I mostly cook in a wok. I like "oriental" / Mediterranean - but in the main quite simple / bland food - I splosh tahini about liberally.
I make my own heavily seeded wholemeal bread and spread crunchy PNB and Vitam-R yeast extract on it.
I'm very particular about my tea and coffee too - Oolong blend during the week at work, Guatemala single estate on weekends (Aeropress inverted method) I'll settle for an Earl Grey teabag when out on a Sunday bike ride.

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Girls who like guys
Ages 53–55
Near me
Who are single
For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Orientation
Straight

Ethnicity
Pacific Islander

Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)

Body Type
Full figured

Diet
Mostly vegan

Smokes
No

Drinks
Often

Drugs
Often

Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it

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Education
Dropped out of high school

Job
Technology

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Relationship Status
Single

Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous

Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any

Pets


Speaks
English (Okay), French (Okay)

My self-summary
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Dora says "Have children"
Mama and Betsy say "Find yourself a charity
Help the needy and the crippled or put some time into Ecology"
Well there's a wide wide world of noble causes
And lovely landscapes to discover
But all I really want to do right now
Is find another lover.

Joni Mitchell "Song for Sharon"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rG0kNny3WlY
http://jonimitchell.com/music/song.cfm?id=22

To be honest, though I love "Hejira" almost as much as "Hissing", I had to cherry-pick this one verse - and not particularly seriously.
I'm happy to say that none of the songs on either album say very much about my life.

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I realise I'm supposed to describe my personality here, but I'm afraid you'll have to read between the lines ... of which I acknowledge there are far too many - but précis was always my greatest weakness in English.
Please don't even attempt to read very much of it !

It has become somewhat de rigeur to profess "emotionally literacy", but I didn't get past the first few pages of the book with that title which I once bought on impulse before a train journey. I mistrust such "techniques" - but suffice to say that I've devoted a fair amount of grey matter to that side of life - albeit mostly while "repenting later" ...
Any "baggage" was properly analysed and filed long ago.

Although I feel I've learned a lot of life's lessons, I resist getting too far from what some might call "emotional naiveté" - so perhaps you should view the following list of "non-negotiables" in that light - as over-engineered defences.

I also believe recklessly embarking on emotional adventures to be morally indefensible - especially if it has happened more than once already and you have the beginnings of a "learning curve".

To use the quote probably wrongly attributed to Einstein :-
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

-----------what I'm looking for in a relationship ----------

This sort of thing inevitably ends up somewhat clichéd, but don't we all mostly want the same sorts of things ?

Someone to share life with - from the ecstatic to the mundane, someone to safely be "silly" with from time to time ?
(Perhaps I also mean "romantic" .. )

Mutual support through the bad times as well as the good.

Someone to enjoy simply being in the same space with - both physical and metaphorical - even with each doing their own thing - or nothing at all - or even apart ...

Though it's vital to have shared interests, I'm not sure "Howard and Hilda" are the best role models ...

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Ten percent of OKCupid members who answered the question, claimed they believe that the Earth is bigger than the Sun.

I struggle with basic astronomy myself, but if you agree with them, this is where we part company.
(Though I would very much like to know how you could possibly believe this to be the correct answer ! )

Something I recently found interesting :- "The peak power production in the Sun's centre, per volume, has been compared to the volumetric heat generated in an active compost heap. !"
http://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/index.php?topic=38639.0

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Do you live within reasonable mutual cycling distance (15 miles) of east Bristol ?

Being realistic, I mean Bristol (preferably) or Bath, plus anywhere adjacent to the railway path.
I can drive, but prefer not to own a car, and don't even like taking the bus when I can cycle or walk.

OK, I'm open to persuasion about the distance - though it gets even more complicated later.
I'm always open for a chat if we have common interests.

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Are you Green (but pro-science) / Left of centre / atheist / socially libertarian etc. ?

(No God, gods, astrology,, UFOs, ghosts, past lives, angels, tooth fairies, voodoo, dowsing, chemtrails, Reiki, (whatever the hell that is), and of course no homoeopathy)

I tend to discount profiles where "atheist", (or perhaps "agnostic") is not declared - but I understand that in some professions, people need to remain discrete, but suggesting that "Creationism" should be taught in schools alongside Evolution will see me reaching for the "hide" button almost immediately - though usually not before I've played "bingo" with the other questions.

I'm no scientist, but I would find it impossible to relate to someone who by our age, and with the Internet at their fingertips doesn't know the basics of how plants grow and what this has to do with fossil fuels, CO2 and climate change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6w2M50_Xdk&list=UUh9g56Xhr_OKqZKxN4b4KrQ

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Do you enjoy the outdoors; sleeping under canvas; messing about in or on the sea; gardening; self-sufficiency, ?

If you're into skiing holidays, cruises, posh hotels, fast cars and "bling", it isn't going to work.

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Music, rather than literature or film or the visual arts has always been an essential accompaniment to my life and I would want to share this with a partner - so hopefully there will be a healthy overlap in our tastes. (exhaustive details below).

A long shot ... if in addition, you spent at least some time over the past couple of decades dancing all night to "repetitive beats" as defined in the CJA of 1994 - or were there in spirit, we should definitely at least compare notes.

To be honest, though it was a friendly scene and kept me incredibly lean and fit, being in my late 30s by the time I discovered it, it never gave me a social life.
Salsa never "worked" for me as an alternative, and I foresee that in the future I will need to develop a liking for Breton folk dance.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xm4P-OKi8xs

But I still harbour the vestiges of a "Fred and Ginger" fantasy - though this has absolutely nothing to do with "Come Dancing".
I sometimes cycle to "La Revancha Del Tango" (but the footwear bothers me hugely)

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Are you a regular cyclist or hope to become one ?

Perhaps a two-wheeled commuter who would like to try longer rides (as I was only a few years ago) - or perhaps even if you currently only get the bike out of the shed at weekends.
I'm not into carbon / Lycra - I'm much more "Tour de Shopping" than Tour De Anywhere Else - and I barely "qualify" for my CTC membership alongside the middle-aged and older people I share rides with.

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If you got this far, the next bit will surely scupper my already listing ship, but it's not something I want to spring on someone later.

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Parles-tu français - au moins un peu ?

I'm hoping to retire in six years' time, sell my rat-infested hovel in the UK and move to within walking distance of the French Atlantic coast - probably south west Finistère, and have enough land to grow my own fruit and veggies ("oh no, not asparagus again !" ), generate my own electricity, and learn to swim properly, dive, surf, canoe and probably sail - as well as cycling all over France, camping and simply picnicking on the beach.

I naturally want to share this with a kindred spirit - but I also need to make the most of the next 6 years...

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I fell in love with France when I twice visited for a month in my teens, I've always had French colleagues, and listen to French radio - which gives ours a serious run for its money.
Though I haven't owned a passport since 1976 !

Initially, having to drag my neglected French towards eventual fluency seemed too much like hard work, but it quickly became part of the attraction - along with being forced to give the human race another go - through needing to get to know people from a different culture - though not all that different.
I have romantic notions of making myself useful in the local community as a replacement for what I do at work - though I wouldn't rule out paid work as a way of integrating.

It will be a challenge moving from a city and a job where I mix with very diverse people, to the very different rhythm of country life.
(Perhaps for purely misguided reasons I believe I would fit in better there than in the UK countryside)

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I would much rather meet someone in real life - though since I've had an Internet presence for 20 years, I always thought I might meet someone through my online scribblings.

Though not through the contrivances that Internet dating sites invariably are...

Most of them seem to be little more than random flirting zones - where even if one takes the trouble to produce a profile, bizarrely incompatible** people will send you messages.
(**well, so far as one can tell from a couple of lines of txt-spk mostly describing their hair colour, and certain other warning flags like "bubbly"; "lady"; "young at heart", oh and a fairly recent one - enthusing about having read "50 Shades of Grey" gawd 'elp us. Clearly, I lack a "GSOH".

The one attached to a UK broadsheet which I actually bought occasionally in the days when I read newspapers (pre-Internet - mostly for the TV guide), features profiles which read like professional CVs, and which make me feel I should start working for my MBA before even thinking of contacting anyone.

Then there's the weird culty one with the passive-aggressive TV adverts and the interminable psych tests.
They said they couldn't do anything for me (I suspect this was more to do with my left-wing politics and atheism than with the ambivalent way in which I of necessity answered most of the questions).
In retrospect I am hugely relieved that I was ineligible.

Refreshingly friendly though this site is, the whole exercise is ultimately a waste of time, due to the ridiculously tiny sample of the local population with profiles here - which is why people thousands of miles distant may find me looking at their profiles - whether friends or enemies - and sometimes I compare notes with other men my age.

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Perhaps we could imagine we bumped into each other (painlessly) in the Atlantic surf ?

Such a shame we didn't meet in the late 90s during my dancing days - I might still be dancing if I'd met someone to make it mean something.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QmgKRrSows

And I can't resist posting this one. My younger brother who's into Sibelius, mathematics, skinny bikes and carefully-maintained pedalling cadences can't understand how one can cycle and listen to music at the same time (whereas I never leave home without music) .. but this album is what has got me the 9 miles home up the Railway Path from Saltford station several times recently at sufficient speed to wake me with cramp at 4am. :-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=jAyc-hJcGcY

I confess it doesn't always suit a sustained sprint - and at times it's more like riding a horse over rough ground - but that describes the railway path and my riding style quite well - especially uphill - and I'm happy to take my cue from the music. :-)

It's the sort of thing that could persuade me to learn Spanish - and have another try at partner dancing, but probably not horse riding.

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I was a dietary vegan throughout my 20s and 30s, (never seen "Star Wars", never eaten in a fast food place) but thanks to Ray Mears and Hugh Fearlessly Eatsitall, and a desire to be more sociable, in my early 40s I started dabbling in fish (At least /attempting/ to catch one first was a prerequisite I set myself), and latterly French cheese and free range eggs (I've always had far more of a moral problem with dairy and eggs) , but my diet is still nearly always vegan and I could happily eat tofu and salad sprouts all day ...It's quite possible that I will revert (I dream of looking more like an Okinawan and less like a Tongan !) I like sushi and do nearly all my cooking in a wok, but I pick and mix.

Update - a summer binge on oily fish shows I appear to be prone to gout - another evolutionary "joke" ... so I am vegan again until further notice.

I'm not a "social" drinker .. sadly it's almost always solitary - most nights - therefore "often" - but in moderation - 1 glass a night - and only ever as an accompaniment to food ... I like half decent southern French red wine - Cotes du Rhône, Saint-Émilion etc - though it brings the associated danger of cheese.
(not good for the waistline and I always had more moral issues with dairy than fish)
A lot of my excess calories actually come from those not-so-innocent smoothies...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Difficult to put these first three in order :-

1. Music - I quite often take FOUR MP3 players with me - two of them are phones - though I never actually make or accept any calls.
2. Bicycle
3. The Internet

4. I would like to say "The Atlantic ocean", but I rarely get to see it - let alone mess around in/on it - hopefully to be corrected in "retirement".
I'm taking daily access to at least a token amount of nature as a given. (as well as oxygen, water, food etc)

5. A loaf of (home made) bread, a jug of wine (French red)
6. And thou - currently missing and who would hopefully move a lot nearer number 1....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Can man live on spuds, sprouts, tahini and cranberry sauce alone ?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Discussing anarchy and kittens on Urban75
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I doubt there's much left ...

Only two relationships in over 50 years and never "dated" anyone else.

But I've probably mentioned this elsewhere.
You should message me if
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You've read any of the above and still think we might have words to meaningfully share.