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AffableHermit

43 M Bellevue, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:40am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm introverted, but not in a social anxiety sort of way; I get along well with pretty much everyone. I just really like having down time. I enjoy having people over, or going out to spend time with my friends, but I equally enjoy having my solitude. My MBTI type is INTJ, just in case you're interested in such things. Introversion probably plays into (or is the cause of) my computer geekery, though I do unplug as often as I can to get out and practice photography, which is my main creative outlet / hobby. I think that introversion probably also plays into my sense of humor: I have a dry (though not necessarily quick) wit. It doesn't hurt that I was also exposed every summer to a steady diet of Britcoms by my UK born grandmother.

I'm Canadian and lived in the Atlanta area for a long time. I acclimated to the heat down there as much as I probably could, but I still found summers to be pretty brutal. On top of that I've lost a lot of my resistance to cold, at least from my perspective. I moved to the Seattle area at the start of 2013, so perhaps easy access to snow in the winter will help me recover that.

In relationship matters, I'm polyamorous. In a general sense, I'm looking for new friends and activity partners. I'm not actively looking for anything more than that, but if something good develops beyond those two things, I think that's cool.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201310/solo-polyamory-singleish-single-poly

http://brighterthanabuoy.blogspot.com/2014/01/casual-love.html

I'm father to a grown son who still lives in Georgia.

I am mellow, confident, and easy to talk to.

You can find my photography at http://www.flickr.com/photos/aflennik.
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally, I'm a specialist in the data analytics technologies used in litigation. It's an interesting field with a very unique set of frustrations and challenges. Outside of work I'm a gamer (pencil and paper RPGs, computer and some console) and photographer. My photography mostly concentrates on landscapes and nature and I will quite happily hare off on a whim to some place new on a weekend just to take pictures. I'm interested in doing more architectural photography and portraiture since I haven't had much practice with them yet.
I’m really good at
Fixing your computer. I'm an exceptionally good listener. I think I'm a pretty good photographer (it certainly makes me very happy), but I'm getting better at that all the time.
The first things people usually notice about me
Facial hair. I sport a circle beard, but I've also worn a full beard and rocked a moustache / soul patch combo. I've been told my eyes are one of my best features.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Let's focus on authors - Robert Heinlein, Arthur Clark, J. R. R. Tolkien, C. S. Friedman, Brian Daley, H. P. Lovecraft, Stephen King, Mick Farren, Larry Niven, Terry Pratchett, Neal Stephenson, Neil Gaiman, Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess)

Movies: The Adventures of Baron Munchausen, The Fifth Element, all of the Alien movies (Except AvP. People keep talking like those got made, but they don't exist.), Blade Runner, Tron, Serenity, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, Sin City, V for Vendetta, The City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, Brotherhood of the Wolf, Star Wars IV-VI, "Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter... and Spring"

Music: Iron Maiden, AC/DC, The Decemberists, Tiesto, Oakenfold, Chopin's Raindrop Prelude, Dire Straits, Queen, Tool, David Arkenstone, Jethro Tull, Pink Floyd, Johnny Cash

Foods: My cooking stems from a desire to keep it simple and fresh. I avoid pre-packaged food to a great degree. When eating out, however, my favorite cuisines are Mediterranean, Mexican, Japanese (Sushi) & Ethiopian. I'm currently doing some weight loss via the Atkins diet, so most carbs are off the menu now. I miss you, ice cream.

Shows: Doctor Who, Sherlock, Castle, Torchwood, Fringe, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Babylon 5, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Supernatural. I don't really watch a lot of TV (as the number of off the air shows on that list probably attests to) and I don't have cable. Shows that land in the Nerdosphere are my obvious favorites and if they're on Netflix or Amazon Prime Instant I'll probably get around to them eventually.

I also need to go back through and alphabetize all of the entries in the above sections, because now that I've thought of it it'll bug me.
The six things I could never do without

Alone time, books, trees, computers, autumn leaves, cats.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Shouldn't I be exercising more? Where can I go next to take photographs?
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday is dependant on the week I've had and thus how much energy I have. Editing photos, reading, playing a video game, watching a movie, or going to a party have been on the menu, but so has going out to see a Monty Python inspired burlesque performance.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not as vanilla as I appear.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
you feel like it.