Eckhart Tolle's words resonate with me - to paraphrase: "A relationship doesn't exist to make you happy; it exists to make you conscious." That's a journey I want to take with my future beloved!
Best-friends-AND-trust-respect-loyalty-AND-passion CAN all coexist. ...and I'm here calling in the man who has the capacity to go there with me.
I'm a hybrid of sorts, a modern, unconventional, still quite old-fashioned girl. Whoops, woman (but of course there's a girl in there, romantic, open-hearted, trusting and generous, who sees the best in people). I can't exactly explain what that means, here.
I can say that I no longer find witty repartee interesting, though I once could have won awards in the sport. Nor do I find sarcasm interesting, even when cloaked as wit. I see those communication styles -when they are constant or nearly so- as a sort of pseudo-intellectual butt-sniffing, a testing of one's brainy mettle. When purportedly getting to know someone, it's a shield that impedes authenticity. Such behaviors separate rather than unify, establish a hierarchical or caste-like categorization of others. That said, I do enjoy friendly, witty banter, and acknowledge that it's important to be closely matched in cognitive abilities.
I'm very, very interested in kindness. Thoughtfulness, honesty, consideration, caring, responsibility, dependability ...those qualities make a man DAMN sexy. Genuine interest in and desire to learn as much as possible about the woman he's interacting with, wanting to know the heart and soul of her, and fully capable of sharing the whole and true man that he is - that is a man whom I would treasure as the gift he is. This is a man with whom I'll walk the journey.
Yes, of course I hope this man shows up healthy and fit. It's a funny and elusive thing, attraction.
I love being physically active, preferably in nature. It nourishes me deeply. Dancing also feeds me. I'm hungry for both a lot.