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46 San Jose, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 37–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 13
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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The short: kind, fit, present, happy, deep, healthy, spiritual-not-religious, sensual, nature-loving, warm, loving, devoted parent, authentic, grounded, excellent communicator, and responsible woman seeks male counterpart.

Eckhart Tolle's words resonate with me - to paraphrase: "A relationship doesn't exist to make you happy; it exists to make you conscious." That's a journey I want to take with my future beloved!

Best-friends-AND-trust-respect-loyalty-AND-passion CAN all coexist. ...and I'm here calling in the man who has the capacity to go there with me.

I'm a hybrid of sorts, a modern, unconventional, still quite old-fashioned girl. Whoops, woman (but of course there's a girl in there, romantic, open-hearted, trusting and generous, who sees the best in people). I can't exactly explain what that means, here.

I can say that I no longer find witty repartee interesting, though I once could have won awards in the sport. Nor do I find sarcasm interesting, even when cloaked as wit. I see those communication styles -when they are constant or nearly so- as a sort of pseudo-intellectual butt-sniffing, a testing of one's brainy mettle. When purportedly getting to know someone, it's a shield that impedes authenticity. Such behaviors separate rather than unify, establish a hierarchical or caste-like categorization of others. That said, I do enjoy friendly, witty banter, and acknowledge that it's important to be closely matched in cognitive abilities.

I'm very, very interested in kindness. Thoughtfulness, honesty, consideration, caring, responsibility, dependability ...those qualities make a man DAMN sexy. Genuine interest in and desire to learn as much as possible about the woman he's interacting with, wanting to know the heart and soul of her, and fully capable of sharing the whole and true man that he is - that is a man whom I would treasure as the gift he is. This is a man with whom I'll walk the journey.

Yes, of course I hope this man shows up healthy and fit. It's a funny and elusive thing, attraction.

I love being physically active, preferably in nature. It nourishes me deeply. Dancing also feeds me. I'm hungry for both a lot.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being. Loving. Learning. Moving my body.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being present and loving. Making raw chocolate and other tasty raw foods.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm genuine. Can be wickedly funny. But I'm generally sweet. With some spice.
Ok, I hear about my eyes or smile. Really, they're just eyes and lips and teeth, and as miraculous as the human body is, the being that I am inside this nifty container is much more relevant.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: Fresh, delicious, organic and raw. Like me :-)

Tolle, Rumi, Deida, Chodron, Williamson, Dyer, Chopra...also books on personal / spiritual growth, conscious parenting, neurophysiology, and health.
A sampling: The Passion of Being Woman (Eros and and Psyche get wild); The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parents; Slow Sex; A New Earth; Saying What's Real; Peace is Every Step; Calm and Compassionate Children; Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child...

TV: don't own one. But I do sometimes entertain myself watching shows on my laptop. Call the Midwife, Outlander, GoT, Walking Dead, Vikings, Lilyhammer, House of Cards, The Good Wife, Grimm.

Music: eclectic, not mainstream.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six schmix.

Being present. Love. My children, my family. Sensuality. Nature. Spirituality. Sexuality. Being. People with whom I share love. Tantra. Humor. My brain. Laughter. Friendship. Dance. Loving touch. Creativity. Energy in all it's forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- ceasing thinking
- being present
- continuing to grow as a human being on this amazing planet, getting to have this amazing life experience
- continuing to grow so as to be the absolute best mother I can be from an awareness that parenting is a deeply spiritual path,
- noticing beauty and goodness
- Discovering / being discovered by the man I'm meant to be with (now that I'm finally ready to be loving relationship)
- when I can next do those activities that make my heart and body sing!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home with my daughter, or with friends, heading to hot springs, out to dance, going to nature. Or just relaxing, aaaaahhhhhh the end of the workweek...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm happy. Often. And when I'm not, that's okay. I can be with it. Emotional states are like the weather, frequently moving along, so I'm not too attached to any one state.

I hope.

That you, dear man, who is here looking for love, have done your work.

On yourself.

That you've reflected on how you contributed to past relationships not working out. That you have discovered what, in yourself, needed to grow, change or be let go of so you could be truly capable of mature love. That you have devoted some time to reading, studying or getting therapeutic support or SOMEHOW focused on learning about how to love well, communicate well, and know yourself . That you got yourself ready to figure out how to intimately know and love the complex, fascinating, delicious creature that is a loving woman, loved.

That's what I hope.

Because I've done my work. On myself.

Sometimes, on my way to my car, I run my shopping cart in the parking lot and hop on...

I have a very keen sense of smell, and appreciate people's natural, clean scent over chemical perfumes/colognes/deo.

I know how to use power tools. I have felled trees.

It would be a bonus if you are familiar with HAI, Mankind Project (MKP), The Good Men Project, Ecstatic Dance, Conscious Dance, Tantra, Acro-Yoga, communing with nature...things that move your body, mind and spirit...

My life goal is to embody Agape. Lofty, I know.
You should message me if
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...if you got goosebumps, or the universe whispered in your ear, "she's the one..."