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46 F San Jose, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
The short: kind, fit, happy, healthy, spiritual, sensual, nature-loving, warm, loving, grounded and responsible woman seeks male counterpart.

"Don't take life so seriously. It's not like you're going to get out alive!"

Eckhart Tolle's words resonate with me - to paraphrase: "A relationship doesn't exist to make you happy; it exists to make you conscious." Funny thing, becoming more and more conscious equates to becoming more and more joyful :-)

NOT seeking a non-spiritual, physically un-fit, unhealthy, ungrounded, lone-wolf, unhappy man who believes a woman (or anything/anyone else) can make him happy.

I know that best-friends-AND-passion-intimacy-steamy-sensuality-AND-trust-respect-loyalty CAN all coexist. ...and I'm here calling in the man who has the capacity to go there with me now.

*I can only be in utterly honest relationships. 100% raw, real, authentic. Life is too short for superficial bullshit.

*I am blessed to be part of a loving, consciousness-oriented community, and have good friends of both genders (so will my future mate :-) )

*I have a healthy body, a healthy lifestyle, am strong, agile, and do freestyle, ecstatic & contact dance & acro yoga. I'd love a partner who could play with me in these ways!

*I have a strong, loving heart. A child does not need to share my DNA to be loved by me. If you have children, I will eventually be another loving adult in their lives. My mate must also have a deep capacity for love, and a desire to eventually be a loving, caring adult in my 8 year old daughter's life.
What I’m doing with my life
learning, loving, observing, listening, sharing, being, breathing. Feeling. Being present tabs authentic. Growing.
I’m really good at
Being present and loving. Making raw chocolate and other tasty raw foods. Enjoying a wee slightly twisted sense of humor :-) - life provides endless fodder for amusement...
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm genuine. Can be wickedly funny. But I'm generally sweet. With some spice.
Ok, I hear about my eyes or smile. Really, they're just eyes and lips and teeth, and as miraculous as the human body is, the being that I am inside this nifty container is much more relevant.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Fresh, delicious, organic and raw. Like me :-)

Rumi, Deida, Tolle, Chodron, Williamson, Dyer, Chopra...also books on personal / spiritual growth, conscious parenting, neurophysiology, and health.

TV: don't own one. But I do sometimes entertain myself watching shows on my laptop.

Music: eclectic, not mainstream.
The six things I could never do without
Love. Thinking. My family. Sensuality. Nature. Spirituality. Sexuality. Being. People with whom I share love. Tantra. Humor. My brain. Laughter. Friendship. Dance. Loving touch. Creativity. Energy in all it's forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good question...
In equal parts, I think most often about:
- being aware and present so as to grow as the being I am,
- being (and continuing to grow as) the absolute best mother I can be from an awareness that parenting is a deeply spiritual path,
- noticing beauty and goodness
- Discovering / being discovered by the man I'm meant to be with (now that I'm finally ready to be loving relationship)
- when I can next do those activities that make my heart and body sing!
On a typical Friday night I am
Home with my daughter, or with friends, heading to hot springs, out to dance, going to nature. Or just relaxing, aaaaahhhhhh the end of the workweek...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm happy.

Sometimes, on my way to my car, I run my shopping cart in the parking lot and hop on...

I have a very keen sense of smell, and appreciate people's natural, clean scent over chemical perfumes/colognes/deo.

It would be a bonus if you are familiar with HAI, Mankind Project (MKP), The Good Men Project, Ecstatic Dance, Conscious Dance, Tantra, Acro-Yoga...and/similar....

Compassion, compassion, compassion.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 37–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if read my entire profile, and can specify how you see us being possibly well-matched.
...if you got goosebumps, or the universe whispered in your ear, "she's the one..."