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46 F San Jose, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 10
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
-healthy, organic-living
-deep, light-hearted,
-dancer, tantric, nature loving,
-constantly evolving mother
-professional educator

I know that best-friends-AND-passion-intimacy-steamy-sensuality-AND-trust-respect-loyalty CAN all coexist. ...and I'm here calling in the man who has the capacity to go there with me now.

I'll embrace the unique qualities my mystery mate will bring, and there are a few ways in which it's important to me that my mate and I are in alignment, like:

*I can only be in utterly honest relationships. 100% raw, real, authentic. Life is too short for superficial bullshit.

*I am confident, at ease and comfortable with myself. I'm grounded (all that wild dancing, no doubt). I have cultivated emotional intelligence and am emotionally mature. My man should resonate with this...

*I have several very close friends, mostly women, and I am blessed to be part of a loving, consciousness-oriented community. My man will have some deep male friendships, and a community of friends. Aka, not a lone-wolf, not having only/primarily female friends.

* healthy body, and healthy lifestyle.

Last but not least - and this isn't relevant until/unless a deep relationship develops:
*I have a strong, loving heart, and a child does not need to share my DNA to be loved by me. If you have children, I will eventually be another loving adult in their lives. My man must have a deep capacity to love, and to be a loving, caring adult presence in my 8 year old daughter's life.
What I’m doing with my life
learning, loving, observing, listening, sharing, being, breathing. Feeling. Being real.
I’m really good at
being present. Being deep without being overly serious. Loving.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm genuine. Can be wickedly funny. But I'm generally sweet. With some spice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Fresh, delicious, organic and raw. Like me :-)

Books that inspire thinking, learning, understanding. Tolle, Chodron, Williamson, Dyer, Chopra...also books on emotions and neurology, and health.

TV: don't own one. But I do sometimes entertain myself watching shows on my laptop.

Music: eclectic. Kinda hate jazz...disharmony makes me grind my teeth.
The six things I could never do without
Love. Thinking. My family. Sensuality. Nature. Spirituality. Sexuality. Being. People with whom I share love. Humor. My brain. Laughter. Friendship. Dance. Loving touch. Creativity. Energy in all it's forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Discovering (or being discovered by) the man I'm meant to be with.
...when I can next dance, ski, hike, camp, kayak.
Being at peace.
Raising my daughter well.
Applying neuropsychological research
Living intently.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home with my daughter, or with friends, heading to hot springs, out to dance, skiing, going to nature. Or just relaxing, aaaaahhhhhh the end of the workweek...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm happy.

I have a very keen sense of smell, and appreciate people's natural, clean scent over chemical perfumes/colognes/deo.

It would be a bonus if you are interested in/connected with: Human Awareness Institute (HAI), Mankind Project (MKP), The Good Men Project, Ecstatic Dance, Conscious Dance, Tantra, Acro-Yoga...and/or similar organizations/activities.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 37–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if read my entire profile, and can specify how you see us being possibly well-matched. And, if you got goosebumps, or the universe whispered in your ear, "she's the one..."