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53 Wilmette, IL Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–56
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:53am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
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I am a passionate optimist who gets to live my values by running a non-profit teaching civil society in the countries of the former Soviet Union. I have learned Russian (enough to be dangerous), and traveled to the region dozens of times to build a network of amazing women activists who work to promote gender equality, tolerance and religious freedom.

I love to travel, hike, canoe and sail and would love to share these adventures with an active, easygoing partner.

I am looking for someone who is an absolute sweetheart and will revel in caring for me as much as I care for him. I am seeking someone who is affectionate and adventurous and has a sense of presence and optimism that makes me want to take leaps of faith.

My likely match would pass the "bat test." My family has a summer home in the Berkshires on Lovers Lane Road (really). I imagine myself in the house with a wonderful man, a good glass of red wine, food on the grill and laughing with friends and family as we try to chase a bat (or bird or bug) out of the house.

I have three fabulous kids - loving, kind and independent. When the youngest goes to college in fall 2015, I am open to relocating for the next stage of my life adventure.
What I’m doing with my life
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Raising fabulous kids. Working at a job where I make a difference. And meeting really nice guys in pursuit of the one that will make it all just that much more wonderful...
I’m really good at
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Making people feel at home.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I enjoy The New Yorker, The New York Times, NPR and read mysteries, espionage and non-fiction. I love the short stories of Etgar Keret. I'll eat Italian food any time. I appreciate restaurants with locally sourced foods and a menu that reflects the seasons. I have a real weakness for The Princess Bride. I enjoy action adventure movies, science fiction, indie and documentary films.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The people I love (obvious but has to be said)
Outdoor adventures
A library card
A great massage
A meal from the Farmer's Market
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to make the people I love smile.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wondering why so many men on this site are holding fish...
You should message me if
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You are an adult when you need to be and warm, passionate and silly whenever possible.