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34 M Ann Arbor, MI

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:43pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Science teacher/researcher, turned accidental IT person for the past couple of years. I work full time, but just started school... again. I never thought I'd go back, but I'm absolutely loving it! I'm a very active person - I work out several times a week, love dancing almost anything done outdoors, and tend to get along well with people who do the same. I'm pretty busy, but I always make time for the most important thing in life: connecting with friends, family, and my community.

This is my mantra:

"Stand and be strong.
Dance and be happy.
Sit and be at peace."

I'm trying to live that dream: I've practiced and taught martial arts fit almost 20 years, to help people be strong. I have done and taught swing dance for 12 years, and help people be happy. Now I'm learning to do therapeutic massage (sports, myofascial, neuromuscular, etc.) and massage for relaxation (Swedish, Thai, and Shiatsu), to help bring at least a moment of peace into people's lives.

I've been trying to cut this profile back from being a novella, but match% and vague mostly useless questions only tell you so much. I'd like to meet like-minded people, in general, and while I'm hoping to meet a potential life partner at some point, I'm not looking to rush into anything. I'm mostly just expecting to meet new people - I find this whole online chatting/dating/searching/etc. thing really awkward. But here I am... giving it a go, since it's hard to meet new people in A2 if you're working and not at the university. I'm looking for people who do the things I like to do, because, in a lot of ways, we are what we do. In order of importance, I'm into: learning about the world, dancing, fitness of any kind (you could do yoga, crossfit, run, bike, or whatever), cooking and eating, walks out in the woods or hanging out on the water, going out to see shows (bands, comedy, plays, art, whatever, I'm game!) having philosophical/political conversations, drinking good beer, gardening, reading (especially reading a book together with a partner!), board or video games... (Ok, take a breather... sorry, that was a long, long sentence, lol!) I know I won't find someone into all those things, but I'd like to share some of them at least. I also hope to find a partner for whom the most important things life are also motivated by mindfulness, compassion, and passion, as they are for me. I hope this gives you an idea of who I am. If you are one of those aforementioned like-minded people, send a message and say hi, or star my profile so I know that such a wonderful person exists!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fixing all things digital.
Exploring how mindfulness, Aikido, swing dance, and therapeutic body work can intersect to help connect people with themselves, and each other.
Trying to make the world a better place, one moment at a time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, being open minded and finding the humor in any situation.
Problem solving.
Martial arts.
Swing dance.
Standing up for people, when others stand by, just watching.
Teaching all the things.
Staying up later way later then is prudent.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hey... what are you looking at? My eyes are down here! Please stop staring at me! I'm more than just my afro, you know. :-/
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't watch much tv or many movies, but when I do it's usually upbeat, or comedy (Daily Show, Colbert Report, John Oliver, stand up), scifi with a strong philosophical bent, or kungfu films. I listen to NPR, and music with good flow, either for chilling or dancing. (I know that's vague, but there's so much music, it's probably easier to talk about it in person.) I love Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Italian, Korean, Soul food, BBQ, and just about any other food that's not afraid of the spice rack and the herb garden.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good times.
Good people.
Good food and drink.
Good health.
Good humor. (And by that, I mean jokes. The ice cream is ok, I suppose... ba-doom chaaaa....)
Love, expressed through mindfulness, kindness, compassion, passion.
Challenging silly, arbitrary rules, that don't make sense, aren't fair, or don't make the world a better place.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. 'mindful compassion' seems to be the answer to all the really meaningful questions.

Anatomy and physiology, and how to help people heal and relax.

How much I love being in the sun.

Maybe the joke is on me... "A man and a woman log onto OK Cupid and..." the punch line isn't written until you say hi. ;-)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually out. Probably swing dancing. (see pics) Otherwise, I'm hanging out with good friends, drinking craft/micro/home-brewed beer, and maybe playing games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't drink caffeine. Except sometimes by accident, at which point I obtain superhuman speed (at the cost of not being able to sleep for days).

I'll let you in on a little secret: people with other kinds of hair are fascinated by my afro, but I'm equally fascinated by other kinds of hair.

Here's one more for the road: I've gotten two degrees from U of M, but still haven't been to a football game... I know, shameful! Scandalous, even!
You should message me if
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You think we might make good friends, because that's the foundation of a strong relationship.
You lead an active lifestyle, and like to stay fit.
You think ninja's are better than pirates. (Or want to try to convince me otherwise.)
You have a plan to survive the zombie apocalypse and need a co-conspirator.

A good sense of humor is an absolute must - if you can't make fun of yourself when you realize your chasing your own tail, you're probably barking up the wrong tree. Also, you should believe in science: evolution, anthropogenic climate change, getting your child vaccinated, gravity, etc., not believe in magic, horoscopes, and the Bible being literally true. (And I mean literally in the original, actual, literal sense of the world, lol.)