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33 M Ann Arbor, MI

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Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Hi, I'm Anthony!

Nice to meet you. I'm a very outgoing person, always looking for fun new things to do when I'm not working or training. I try to live a balanced life - I work hard during the day, and then play hard with friends evenings and weekends. I try to live a full, exciting life, with new experiences, and I refuse to be placed into anyone's silly, arbitrary boxes. Unless it's a nth dimensional hypercube where n = the number of experiences I've ever had. You can definitely put me into one of those.

I love to try new things. I recently have gotten addicted to climbing, but my other big time sinks are traditional martial arts (Okinawan Karate, Aikido, Sil Lim Hung Gar Kung Fu, Wing Chun, Tai Chi, and a smidgen of BJJ, TKD, and Judo) and swing dance. For those of you familiar with Howard Gardner's multiple intelligences theory (notice the little t), I rock the bodily-kinesthetic and spacial elements like they are going out of style - I think in movement and connections.

Some other activities I enjoy include:
Gardening, anything active outdoors, board games, talking about stuff (politics, technology, whatever), cooking, music (almost anything besides "gansta" rap and country, but most stuff with a good beat or flow), dancing (swing, ballroom, salsa, the club, etc.) going to live shows (comedy, music, art, poetry, whatever).

I'm looking for long term, but taking things slow. That means I'm mostly just looking to meet new people for hanging out in the A2 - new friends. But, if I happen to fall in love on the way, I won't complain.

Fair warning: If you don't like puns, long conversations about life, or dancing, run now.

If I had to sum myself up in three lines, these would be the three:
"Sit and be at peace.
Stand and be strong.
Dance and be happy."
- T. R. Antilles
What I’m doing with my life
Walking a path as true to my soul as I can! I believe that the hardest thing a person can ever do is tell themselves the truth, and I strive to do so, even if it hurts.

I find that my life has mostly been centered around martial arts of late, as well as swing dancing.

Making things grow, although sadly, I haven't had a nice garden for some time. Maybe this summer?

I taught high school science and math for several years, and recently got an MA in Digital Media and Education. I'm currently working as an IT professional, and in my "free" time, I'm trying to develop STEM educational games based on interactive scientific simulations of the real world to help people learn. Really, though, I'm obsessed with traditional martial arts, and I should forget about everything else, and start working on opening my own dojo, or starting a high school boarding school with martial arts as the theme, and using technology based curriculum to help students learn individually.
I’m really good at
Being open minded and finding the humor in any situation.
Cooking. I've received many a compliment on my Asian stir fries and Italian dishes (which are best served by candlelight).
Problem solving. (That's pretty much all I do all day at work.)
Massages. I will find and relieve knots in muscles you didn't even know you had.
Circles. And infinite spirals, which are kind of like circles that move toward the horizon.
Gardening. I love peonies, fragrant roses (not hardy roses - high five if you know what I mean!), dahlias with prominent geometric patterns, and sweet, red, cherry tomatoes...
Staying up later then is prudent.
Scrabble. And yes, that is a challenge. :-p
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently I look like an artist or a musician. I am neither. Unless you count dancing.

Of course, the afro. I love well taken care of hair as much as the next person (maybe even more), but I'm tired of people who only talk to me because they want to touch the hair, so I've made a rule: you can touch mine, if I can touch yours. Seems fair to me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love any music that you can dance to (from any genre or era, but especially "four on the floor" stuff, and fast big band), and I love smooth, sultry, soothing music (like blues, jazz, and even some modern folk). Good flow is mandatory, regardless of the genre, and good lyrics are a major plus. However, my radio is usually on NPR, or I just listen to the never-ending soundtrack in my head.

Current favorites: Two Door Cinema Club, Chromeo, Emiliana Torrini, Justice, Passion Pit, Royksopp, Crystal Castles, Zero 7, Sally Shapiro, remixes that are better then the originals (which seems to be pretty rare)...

Most of my reading is technical (ie, I can't live without
wikipedia and google search, and texty-type books about education or computing) or heavily existential/political scifi (cyberpunk, steampunk, etc.) or eastern philosophy, mostly.. My favorite three books are The Art of Peace, The Art of War, and The Book of Five Rings, with the Ender's Game series, The Thrawn Trilology, and We (Yvgeny Zamyatin) be some old school scifi books that really shaped my thinking.

I love the arts - much of the reason I stuck around A2 after graduating is because it is a cultural center. I'm game for going to music event or dance of any variety. UMS is the jam.

I love Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Italian, Korean, Soul food, and just about any other "ethnic" food that's heavy on the spices. I cook like the rat from Ratatouille, and I like to eat balanced and healthy. I am unabashedly a beer snob and I'm glad I live in one of the best states for craft breweries, but I also enjoy wine - especially Italian and South American reds, and German and North West Coast American whites.
The six things I could never do without
Stuff to climb on.
The internet.
Good food and beer.
Human rights for all.
Challenging silly, arbitrary rules, that don't make sense, aren't fair, or don't make the world a better place.

Also, since things you like is only half the story, here's some things I could never live with:

Liars, cheaters, and mean people
Boredom/boring people
People who don't get the difference between a "theory" and a "Theory."
Sitting still.
Overcooked food.
People trying to force their religious, political, or philosophical views on others.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The answers to life's persistent questions.
How can I be the change I want to see in the world?
How to DIY stuff.
Are we human? Or are we dancer?
Awesome NPR conversations.
Why are there so many weird people on here? Seriously... I'm pretty sure some people here are 12 year olds with fake pictures, based on some of the childish interactions I've had on here, and profiles I've had to moderate.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually out. I'm doing some combination of hanging out with good friends, drinking craft/homebrewed beer, or dancing (often, Swing dance). Sometimes I do just stay home and chill, if it's been a really long week.... But I really love sharing new experiences with friends, new and old.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm on OKCupid. I feel as though I'm taking a big risk and very vulnerable putting myself out here, since I am so easily identifiable around town - after all, how many guys with afros are hanging around in Ann Arbor or Ypsi?

Also, years of graduate school and being a teacher have given me two of the most valuable super powers you could ever imagine: eyes on the back of my head, and a highly refined BS detector, so watch out! (The BS part is especially important on here, because no one seems to accurately portray who they are - that's why meeting someone in person and not just messaging back and forth forever is so important.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You're done with the dating mind games. (Anyone else think they are 10 times worse on here? Le sigh...)
You don't work too much.
You don't realize that snarky, depressing comments are cute for a while but get old real quick. (Life can be rough, but I have a positive attitude, and I don't need someone who just brings me down.)
You're honest, caring, *positive*, and looking for a friend while exploring the possibility of a relationship.
You have something (besides work, taking care of your house, or school) that is a major part of your life.
You think life is a journey, and would like to have an honest, trustworthy, caring, and passionate friend on that road.
You like to do some of things I like to do.
You think we might make good friends, because that's the foundation of a strong relationship.
You like to talk, and share secrets and dreams - without being judged!
You're actually interested in meeting up at some point. The only way to get to know someone is to meet them.
You think ninja's are better than pirates. (Or want to try to convince me otherwise.)
You approve of the use of Christmas lights, LEDs, and EL wire for non-Christmas purposes.
You are fun and make people smile or laugh.
You won't be intimidated by my dancing - and better yet, you'll do swing dance with me. Don't worry, I can teach you how! (I gave swing dance up for a girl in the past, and I vowed to myself never to do that again.)
You laughed or got the jokes and obscure references I made while you read my profile.
You're not just looking for a pen pal - life is to short not to live in the real world!
You're looking for a companion for an epic adventure!

I don't really have a type, but I do appreciate awesome hair, a nerdy sense of humor, someone who will dance with me, and confidence. You must take care of yourself - I think one's hair, clothes, and body say a lot about your energy and your soul. Freckles and a great smile are bonus points. :-) Also, I tend to write long responses, take long walks, and talk about life the universe and everything for hours. And I have rose scented candles and incense. Consider yourself warned.

I know this is long... but I know myself and understand the kind of relationship I'm really looking for - and I'm looking for someone in the same boat. If you think that I've told you everything about myself, and there's nothing left to discover, then you're probably not my type anyway.

If you've gotten down this far in my novella/profile, and think we might have an interesting adventure or a good conversation about life, the universe, and/or everything, send me a message. Triple bonus points if you are courageous enough to contact me first - self-confidence is way hot in my book!