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34 M Ann Arbor, MI

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:30pm
Black, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Hi, I'm Anthony!

Nice to meet you. I'm a very outgoing person, always looking for fun new things to do when I'm not working or training. I try to live a balanced life - I work hard 9-5, and then play hard with friends evenings and weekends. I try to live a full, exciting life, with new experiences, and I refuse to be placed into anyone's silly, arbitrary boxes. Unless it's a nth dimensional hypercube where n = the number of experiences I've ever had. You can definitely put me into one of those.

I have a pretty awesome and unique brain. I think in terms of movement, flow, and rhythm. I also love connecting with people. So my favorite activities are things like Swing and other dances, and traditional martial arts (think Shaolin Kung Fu, not MMA). I'm looking for someone to share the dances of life with, a partner, both literally and figuratively.

I also enjoy just about anything active outdoors (biking, hiking, kayaking, climbing), board games, talking about stuff (politics, technology, whatever), cooking, music (almost anything besides "gansta" rap and country, but most stuff with a good beat or flow), and going to live shows (comedy, music, art, poetry, whatever).

I'm looking for long term, but taking things slow. That means I'm mostly just looking to meet new people for hanging out in the A2 - new friends. But, if I happen to fall in love on the way, I won't complain.

Fair warning: If you don't like puns, long conversations about life, or dancing, run now.

If I had to sum myself up in three lines, these would be the three:
"Sit and be at peace.
Stand and be strong.
Dance and be happy."
- T. R. Antilles
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a network technician, 9-5. Not really into it, so I'm looking into other careers. Got any ideas?

I just started listening to a great lecture series, and the first lesson they teach you is this:

"If you want change in your life, you can either sit around and wait for a change to come from the outside, or change can come from within." This seems like a good way to live life!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Dancing my way around the Sun, exactly once every year.
Being open minded and finding the humor in any situation.
Cooking. I've received many a compliment on my Asian stir fries and curries, barbeque, and Italian dishes.
Problem solving. (That's pretty much all I do all day at work.)
Standing up for people.
Circles. And infinite spirals, which are kind of like circles that move toward the horizon.
Gardening. I don't have a garden right now, but I love peonies, fragrant roses (not hardy roses - high five if you know what I mean!), dahlias with prominent geometric patterns, and sweet, red, cherry tomatoes...
Teaching people how to do swing and blues dance. (and teachign stuff in general.)
Being present and mindful, listening and caring.
Staying up later then is prudent.
Scrabble. Or Bananagrams. Or any other game that involves letters rattling around in your brain.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hey... what are you looking at? My eyes are down here! Please stop staring at me! I'm more than just my afro, you know. :-/
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love any music that you can dance to (from any genre or era, whether it's fast "four on the floor" stuff, or big band, or slow stuff like blues, jazz, soul, and some modern folk). Good flow is mandatory, regardless of the genre, and good lyrics are a major plus. Also NPR or BBC. Recent songs stuck in my head: "Happy," "Can't Hold Us," "Safe and Sound," "Get Lucky."

Recent reads: The Art of Communication (Thich Nhat Hanh) and The Four Mindfulnesses (Gelek Rimpoche), Ender in Exile (Orson Scott Card).
Favorite books: The Art of Peace, The Art of War, and The Book of Five Rings, with the Ender's Game series, The Thrawn Trilology, and We (Yvgeny Zamyatin) being some old school scifi books that really shaped my thinking.

Much of the reason I stuck around A2 after graduating is because it is a cultural center. I'm game for going to pretty much any music, arts, or whatever show. UMS is the jam. There are some pretty spiffy local bands I really enjoy. I've also been watching a bunch of stand up shows recently.

I love Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Italian, Korean, Soul food, and just about any other "ethnic" food that's heavy on the spices. I cook like the rat from Ratatouille, and I like to eat balanced and healthy. I'm glad I live in one of the best states for beer. I also enjoy wine - especially Italian and South American reds, and German and North West Coast American whites.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends/family. (The line here gets blurry.)
NPR/BBC/Radio Free Mars. (Double bonus points if you get the reference!)
Moving... (biking, hiking, martial arts, solo dance parties when a song comes on in the store, swing dance, etc...)
Love. Mindfulness. Kindness. Compassion. Passion.
Good food and beer.
Human rights for all.
Challenging silly, arbitrary rules, that don't make sense, aren't fair, or don't make the world a better place.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The answers to life's persistent questions.
How can I be the change I want to see in the world?
Are we human? Or are we dancer?
Something someone said on NPR.
The hardest thing people can ever do is tell themselves the truth, and all learning begins with the simple statement, I do not know... So, what truths do I hide from myself, what truths do I not know?
Why are all the questions on OKC false dichotomies?
How many people recognize me in real space from OKC?
How would people judge themselves on OK Cupid based on their profiles, if they were looking at it from the other side? (something tells me it wouldn't be pretty, lol.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually out. I'm doing some combination of hanging out with good friends, drinking craft/micro/homebrewed beer, or dancing (often, Swing dance). Sometimes I do just stay home and chill, if it's been a really long week.... But I really love sharing new experiences with friends, new and old.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm very open about almost everything... but I'm kind of picky when it comes to beer, ballroom/swing/salsa dance, and martial arts. Some things just gotta be done right.

I don't ever have caffeine, and haven't in years. Except sometimes by accident and then I literally bounce off the walls for days.
I also don't do the sugar because I'll get 1000 calories from that easy if I don't stop myself, and I'm allergic to a number of fruits. (Yeah, it sucks, 'tis a terrible cross I bear...) I LOVE vegetables, though. omnomnom...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You think we might make good friends, because that's the foundation of a strong relationship.
You're actually interested in meeting up with a possible date at some point. The only way to really get to know someone is to meet them!
You think ninja's are better than pirates. (Or want to try to convince me otherwise.)
You like to talk, and share secrets and dreams - without being judged or judging!
You work out regularly - I don't care if it's running, biking, yoga, lifting weights, climbing, or whatever... just be in shape and DO stuff.
You don't take yourself too seriously.
You have a passion for staying fit and staying healthy, and take care of your body and mind.
You want to hang out on the Huron with me. I go every weekend, just about.
You are looking to start slow, and hoping to develop a positive, life long partnership with a like minded spirit - I'm not really looking for a fling!
You appreciate complexity... and simplicity.