Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here's the basic pitch: Philosopher, counselor, designer, teacher,
inventor, martial artist (that would be me), seeks Shield Maiden /
Valkyrie (a confident warrior in her own right - that would be you)
to share Grail quest (that would be life - either right now or for
longer term). Must believe in the healing power of Chocolate, Monty
Python, Scottish Highlands, Lao Tzu, Massage, and
Less metaphorically - I'm looking for someone who is confident,
active, challenging, intense, capable, and connected to something
larger than themselves. Someone who can look me in the eye
figuratively if not literally. Someone who can surprise me, who
knows stuff I don't, and who can hold her own in conversations
with, well, anybody.
On a strictly practical level - part of the point of all this is
that I'd like to meet someone with whom, eventually, to do the
raise-a-family thing. I don't mind if you already have a kid or
two, but I'm pretty sure I'd like one or two for whom I get to be
dad from the beginning. I'd like to find someone who could teach
our kids the things I can't (gardening and music come to mind,
though the list is obviously longer than that). I'm secure enough
in my "manliness" (fourth degree black belts can do that) so I
don't care if you make more money than I do, or don't want to put
your career on hold to stay home with the kids full-time. Assuming
we inspire each other enough to have kids in the first place - I'd
probably want to have your back in any case.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My "real job" is to design and market aerospace manufacturing
equipment for a tech startup. I also run a nonprofit, help run a
sports camp each summer, and teach a college course in political
aikido each January.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
seeing the potential in people, particularly kids.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The last great book I read: A friend's not-yet-published
My most humbling moment: Every time I encounter majesty (a grove of
redwoods, a mountain lake, a medieval castle) or mastery (authors,
artists, musicians, teachers, etc. of great accomplishment and
Favorite on-screen sex scene: Sir Galahad facing the peril at
Castle Anthrax. Gene Wilder's response to 'So what did you get from
the monster?' in Young Frankenstein. For actually erotic - Leeloo
5th Element not being ready to talk to the president.
The celebrity I resemble the most: Robin Williams, but taller, and
without the manic intensity. (my intensity is much quieter). I'm
also, sadly unlike Robin, still alive.
The best or worst lie I've ever told: The truth has never been so
bad that lying seemed like a good idea.
If I could be anywhere right now: on a mossy bank, under the stars,
deep in the sort of soul-to-soul conversation one has by firelight
after the gymnastics.
In my bedroom one will find...
comfort and intensity, peace and passion, quality cuddling.
physical stuff - japanese tatami, tapestries, and training
weapons, radiator stereo shelves, jackets hung on gas
pipes, filing cabinets full of clothes and music, and a
sleeping loft almost, but not quite, too close to the ceiling.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
good tools (sharp chisels, quality omelet pan, multi-screen mac),
good narrative (stories to inhabit, stories to tell, stories to
good space (high ceilings, natural light),
good company (friends who know me, strangers worth knowing), good
work (something to do that makes a difference)
and the laughter of children.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with some of my students, watching samurai movies and
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Why get to know me? Because you desire a partner strong enough to
survive intensity, smart enough to provide an insightful audience,
and confident enough not to need to change you. Because you want
someone who wants to make the world a better place as much as you
do. Because you seek to be both inspired and inspiring. Because i
have a good massage table, and a good kitchen, and know how to use
both. Because I can laugh, and I can cry. Because I actually prefer
that you get the credit. Because I love children and like the idea
of raising them well.
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