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  • Ages 29-39
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My details

Last online
Today – 9:46am
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Judaism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Hebrew (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Tall, dark, and kind self-admitted geek. Very liberal, but at the same time very individualistic. Introverted, but an introvert who genuinely loves people. I’ve only lived in Tacoma for a couple of years (I’m from Portland.), to teach at a small college in town.

So what makes me different than every other lovelorn geek you’ve ever met in a coffee shop? Well, I’m probably a bit more driven, and almost definitely more educated. I have my life more or less together—I know exactly where I want to be in five years. I’m fascinated by a lot of things—I can spend hours reading Wikipedia. (I’m told I can sound like a know-it-all at times, but it’s not purposeful. I’m not trying to show off—I’m trying to share cool things!) I have a mischievous sense of humor: I’ve been known to anagram signs, to leave silly stickers in restaurants’ menus, and to get library books signed (to the library itself) by the authors before returning them. I’m also in pretty good shape, since I commute by bike. I have an artistic streak, working mostly in stained glass. And I believe in regularly doing things that terrify me. (I’ve done the World Naked Bike Ride in Portland three times now, just because.)

I’m culturally Jewish, but really an atheist at heart. (I’ve read most of the’s got some strange shit in it.) One of my best friends says that I’m the only person he knows who is “religious, but not spiritual”. I believe strongly in treating others well in the here and now.

Something I’ve realized in the past year: I really do want to have kids and a family. However I’m also open to something more short-term, so long as I can figure out how to avoid anyone getting hurt.
What I’m doing with my life
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College prof! I teach computer science. This is what I love to do, most in the world. I’m a tough professor, but I do silly things to temper that—like giving my students bonus haiku-writing questions on their finals.

My research involves trying to use computers in order to decode mouse-language. (It’s to help us develop better ways of researching mental diseases, such as autism, schizophrenia, traumatic brain injuries, depression, etc.)

In my free time I’ve got a ton of projects, from the above-mentioned stained glass and other art, to working on a textbook, to writing faux love advice web pages. Recently I’ve also started volunteering at the Humane Society, and I'm biking as often as I can before it gets too cold.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Anything severely left-brained, from coding to logistics. But then, you have to be in order to do what I do for a living. I also work on various computer-assisted arts and crafts.

I’m also halfway decent at public speaking. (It’s a necessary skill you learn when you’re a teacher and scientist.) And I do a fair amount of graphic design.

Something I’m really bad at: faces. I am genuinely, honestly, face-blind. It’s genetic—my dad’s the same way. I can recognize people I know well, but finding someone I’ve only seen in a photo in a crowded bar is almost impossible for me. (It also means that if I’ve looked at your profile multiple times, it’s probably because I didn’t recognize your picture and needed some context to remember you.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No idea. Dark eyes, maybe? Goatee that says I’m from the evil parallel universe?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I tend toward sci fi and fantasy—but stories that really have something interesting to say. Sci fi done right gives you a mirror to understand people. Sci fi done you Syfy. Ugh.

• Books: A Song of Ice and Fire, Startide Rising, The Anubis Gates, A Night in the Lonesome October, The Kingkiller Chronicle, Brightsided
• Movies: The Big Lebowski, The Secret of NIMH, Serenity, The Muppet Movie
• Shows: While I don’t have a TV, I’m quite fond of 30 Rock, the Muppets, Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, and almost anything by Joss Whedon.
• Music: REM, Fleetwood Mac, Dire Straits, Tori Amos, Yehuda Poliker
• Foods: sushi & red wine!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• Books — very important, and take up a lot of my time.
• Computers — especially my various Linux boxes. (Windows is too kludgy, and Macs are too much like living in a gated community where Apple holds the keys.)
• Family — they’re important, even my nutcase hippie-Republican father.
• Friends — a little trite maybe, but they’re still important.
• Kitties — they keep me sane.
• The Pacific Northwest — I fit in here so much better than the other places I’ve lived.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Many things:
• Ways to create more mischief.
• How to teach computers without using PowerPoint.
• Ways to add a little more strangeness to the world.
• Ways to improve my flat.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bicycling, resting, or traveling.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once spilled boiling water on a Girl Scout. (It was an accident, and she wasn’t hurt. I was still mortified.)
You should message me if
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I’ve found from experience that the people with whom I’ve had the best relationships are those who have some degree of nerdiness. (If math doesn’t scare you, that’s a very good start.) And physically, it helps if you take care of your body.

It’s very rare that I’ll write anyone de novo, and only if they really appeal to me somehow. This puts me at a distinct disadvantage on this site, but I’d like to think that I have high standards. (Corollary: if I wrote you, it means that I really liked something about your profile.)

Also, I try to write everyone back, even if it’s just a “no thank you”. I know that you’re a real person with real feelings, and I try to respect that.