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35 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 34–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 15
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and dislikes cats

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My self-summary
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I'm a pretty simple guy: Spiritual, love nature, nice people. I do what I want with my life. I work for myself (I'm an acupuncturist), and feel I can create whatever I want: it's always worked before!

I'm finding it best to cultivate friendship before "the lover thing" (at least for now). Taking it slow: what a concept! A strong relationship built on being best friends is the way I'd like to go with my next partnership. Someone to have fun with, explore the mysterious boundaries of love and sex; someone to talk to, with mutual respect, support and admiration.

I'm kind of a nerd: I enjoy study: the mysteries of health, personality, consciousness. I'm currently studying Chinese herbal medicine and Shamanism. What can I say: I do my own thing. I like magic. I think there's a lot more to life than what we see. I'm all about dipping into that world.

I also enjoy travel. I particularly love the mountains and forest. Muir woods in San Fran, Yosemite, Kauai, and Peru are favorite places.

I think there's Nothing more attractive than a kind person who can be vulnerable (yet strong and together), very sensual, in touch with his feelings, and self-aware. I'm a very sensual guy. I was a body worker for many years, so I know a lot about touch and sensation. The body is something I've studied in depth: from Tantra to basic human physiology to the "energy-body." I'm a flesh and blood-loving taurean sensualist. I have a lot of curiosity. Being bored is ridiculous. There's so much to explore.

The light and the dark: Finding the center in between the two has been my goal.

Deep can be fun. So can simple. Fun and very sexy. People who are not afraid to love, brave enough to live their truth - hot!
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm always pretty much doing what I like. I've always worked for myself. I figure out what I want to do and I create it. I'm interested In health, so I'm a healer. I like to discuss, so I teach. When I was learning about my own body, I worked on the bodies of others. As I learn about my mind, I help other people deal with theirs.

I like working with people, learning from them, sharing what I know. My life has been pretty blessed that way. I'm always surrounded by great friends and teachers. I've met some really awesome people along the way! There's a lot of love in my life. It's what I wanted, so I guess I've created it.

I'm always studying something. I practice Qi Gong, Tai Ji and meditation. It helps me feel strong, stay centered, and connected.
There's some great, profound wisdom out there. I'm hungry to know more, feel more, see more. A simple life could be nice, but one with lots of rich depth!

Yet I'm also a Taurus, so I like being lazy. Lounging around on the beach with a lover; making a meal together, doing some communal exploring.

I'd like to create a family one day: a partnership in the true sense of the word, and some kids. Maybe live in Ecuador, or have a dual life in the city and the country, have a garden, and visit the Shamans in Brazil - in between giving interviews about alternative medicine to Katie Couric.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I very good at being a healer. My work is where my spirit shines. I quite enjoy being surrounded by the mystery of it all, and engaged in the science and wisdom of the body and spirit.

I'm good at working on myself and evolving. I'm still a young guy, but I feel I've been through many worlds in not so many years. I've seen a lot, felt a lot. I'm happy with who I am and the conscious work I've done.

I'm a lover at heart, yet I'm open to becoming a better one. I've also found myself to be more of a family man that I expected. I love spending time with my family back in Omaha. My wonderful sister and her magical kids are a joy in my life.

I can be a bit stubborn, self-righteous (sorry) and over-involved in matters living in my own head. I just want to follow my heart, and get to the bottom of it all. I'd like to be more relaxed: not care so much about why.

My sister thinks I should be married to a "cowboy": somebody simple, just focused on the simple essentials: love, sex, nature and freedom. I like very body-centered, loving, earthy guys who can calm me down and lure me to sleep: get me out of my head and into my body.

Conflict, pretension, snobbishness and power games are big turn offs! Not good at any of that stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my smile. Ive got a big one!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"The Lord of the Rings"
Faulkner, magical realism: "100 Years of Solitude"

European gay cinema-more daring than the Americans.

Bjork (Vespertine). Regina Spektor, Martha Wainwright, Jobim, Nina Simone.
"Rumours" by Fleetwood Mack; Madonna's introspective, pop-spiritual stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Authenticity. How to live in the world, be fully engaged, and also honest and true to myself. It's not the simplest thing. "To thine own self be true" was spoken by a controlling, manipulative idiot in Shakespeare's play. What a laugh!

surrender: how to flow and let what's best happen without trying to control everything.

unconditonal love: how to accept myself and others as is, even if I don't understand or agree.

I think too much!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe I'm on my way to the beach/country.
Maybe I'm home making dinner for myself and someone else.
Ideally I'm where I need to be, and want to be where I am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Oh please!
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