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26 F Emeryville, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:43pm
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"No, I'm not gay
No, I'm not straight,
And I'm sure as hell not bisexual, dammit,
I am whatever I am when I am it.
Loving whoever you are when the stars shine
And whatever you'll be when the sun rises.
Yes, I like girls,
Yes, I like boys,
Yes, I like boys who like boys
I like girls who like toys and girls who don't,
Girls who don't call themselves girls,
Crewcuts or curls, or that really bad hair phase in between.
I like steam, rising from the body of a one-night stand,
I like holding hands for three months before kissing."

-excerpt from Andrew by Andrea Gibson

I like to get naked a lot. Everyone should be naked more often. You should be naked right now.

I tend to be a quiet person, but only because I'm usually in my head thinking about 5 million things at once. But if you get me talking about something I'm interested in, I sometimes won't shut up.
I'm a Unitarian Universalist, an anarcha-feminist, an anti-nationalist, an anti-gender-essentialist, a polyamorist, a pianist, an INFP idealist, and a cuddle-ologist. I lounge in baggy jeans and t-shirts by day, then femme-gasm all over myself for going out by night. I tend to be a homebody, loving snuggling with a good book, movie, or project, but I'm always up for adventure. If I really like you, I'll cook you sushi, make you silly trinkets, and wait up all night for your texts. I might even write you a song if you're lucky.

I am only looking for  polyamorous relationships right now and have other partners. If you have a problem with polyamory or with me seeing other people, please do not bother to contact me. But friendship is welcome from everyone!

I tend to be most attracted to introvert-ish kinky queers on the masculine edge of androgyny. It's likely I won't respond to you if your message is comprised solely of comments on my appearance. I'm also happy to be a third for poly couples, but if you start telling me about your relationship's one-penis-policy I'll give you the stinkeye.

What I’m doing with my life
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Studying and practicing massage therapy, hoping to eventually go to grad school for physical therapy. Writing music. Doing burlesque and being a sexy motherfucker. Caring for my co-op house of wonderful beautiful creatures. Learning what I have to give. Growing in quiet power.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making sushi, dancing, being awkward in social situations, shutting up for a moment and comfortably sharing silence, dying your hair, bending my body in ways a person shouldn't, standing on my head, giving you massages. I'm still self-conscious about my piano-playing skills, but they're getting there too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That my hair is (usually) abnormally colored. And awesome. (I apply my personality in a paste.)
Also, the fact that I am, as I like to put it, fun-sized. This often manifests itself in people deciding that they have implicit permission to pick me up. This is not the case. I might hurt you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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aaaaah! Too many questions at once!
Books: His Dark Materials, House of Leaves, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Neverwhere, HarryEffingPotter, Lord of the Rings, Ender's Game, Everworld, Kushiel's Legacy
Movies: Anything by Kevin Smith, the Cohen Brothers, Charlie Kaufman, or Christopher Nolan. Brothers Bloom, American Beauty, Titanic, Serenity, Oldboy, Thirst, Ichi the Killer, The Princess Bride, Donny Darko, American Psycho, Waking Life... and probably a lot more I'm forgetting to mention.
Music: The Dresden Dolls and Amanda Fucking Palmer, Tegan And Sara, !!!, Ratatat, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Star Fucking Hipsters, My Chemical Romance, Rufus Wainwright, The White Stripes, The Pixies, Nirvana... and again, lots more I'm too lazy to remember.
Food: Whatever I'm eating while I'm stoned.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My lungs, my heart, my brain, my blood, my stomach.... and most of the rest of my organs. Ok, that's more than six things, but this question is fucking pointless.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much bullshit bureaucracy and fucked-up practices are in the community mental health system, and whether I'll ever get to make a difference in it.  Queer theory. Sex-positivity. Gender and sexual identity, and how little it is talked about/ understood/ healthily expressed in our society; moreover, how much the gender binary is an oppressive socially constructed lie. The Patriarchal Bargain and my interactions with it. Privilege, and its role in all my interactions with people. Kink culture, and exploring my expanding and developing kinks. When is the next time I get to eat, or fuck, or play piano, or spin poi. Cuddle puddles. Amanda Fucking Palmer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working. boo.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm talented but unambitious, passionate but not driven. I often obsess over new shiny projects and goals but never long enough to make something truly great out of it. It's something that rather frustrates me about myself, and a source of a lot of self-hatred and shame.
How's that for private? I hardly admit that level of self-consiousness to anyone.
You should message me if
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you actually read the goddam match questions, cuz they say a lot of important things about me.
you identify as queer, poly, and/or kinky
you understand, recognize, and appropriately respond to the phrase "check your privilege"
you want to share your passions with me.
you can teach me cool poi moves.
you want to destroy the status quo because the status is not quo.
you're wearing a stupid human suit.