you feel and apply 0 pressure and are interested in meeting up with
a fellow active, fascinating human being and shooting the shit
while doing something exciting.
Also, if you have at least a couple of photos, preferably more. I
constantly get emails from guys with no photo and have to point out
the obvious each time, so I'm going to do it here:
You wouldn't have looked at my profile or messaged me if I didn't
have a great collection of photos that show you what I look like. I
*know* that you photoless profile guys are not going around
clicking mutually on blank picture profiles. If you don't want to
give me the same chance to evaluate you physically that I gave you
to evaluate me, don't waste my time.
And no, I am on a dating site with photos for a reason, I really
don't want to give you my personal email address so that I can have
a chance to see you. There are rare exceptions, but if you've got
the time/energy to email me photos, use that time/energy to put
them on your profile. It's not really even about privacy, it's more
about the efficiency of being able to reject someone by not
responding versus let them engage me, put themselves out there,
send me emails and then feeling obligated to say "Thanks for the
photos, but I'm not interested."
I can only imagine that sucks much worse than just sending me an
email and never getting a reply.
I was hesitant to put this on here because I've definitely had guys
discouraged by the sheer volume of males that I have to choose
from. But let me tell you, if that is enough to discourage you, I
wish you luck on your journey. I don't want someone who is
intimidated by me or the fact that I am dating and not just sitting
around waiting for *you* to contact me. Grow some balls and step up
to the plate.
The confidence of a guy who sees a girl surrounded by men and
swoops in and easily catches her attention, is far far more
attractive than the guy who sits back and grumbles and decides it's
not worth trying.
Confidence will get you everywhere in this world. And it seems to
be a rule with few exceptions that the people of the world with the
most confidence are the ones that have the most to be confident
about. That's what I'm looking for.
I need someone to match me. I want to see my partner out in a crowd
of swooning ladies vying for his attention, knowing that they don't
stand a chance because he's coming home with me. I want a man that
feels similarly. It takes a trust in the world, in yourself, in
your partner, and a general ability to be the person that everyone
else wishes they were. And if you fall short of that, we probably
won't have much in common for long.