Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So the following is what PoF (You know what the initials stand for
'cause you're on that site, too) suggests you write about in order
"to be successful and not waste your time".
1. Talk about your hobbies.
2. Talk about your goals/aspirations
3. Talk about youself and what makes you unique.
4. Your taste in music.
The only one of these that might tell something about someone's
values is No. 2. And it seems mostly to elicit responses that
include "I want to spend more time travelling and with family."
Maybe this makes for good conversations between acquaintances in an
airport waiting to leave on separate flights but this shallow
repartee is hardly the sort of "news" it takes to build a LTR.
No.'s 1, 3 and 4 are are about interests and what difference does
it make if you both share an intense interest in playing
tiddlywinks. And I already know that your tastes in music are
"eclectic" except for not liking rap. Frankly, entering a response
as to religion tells me more about your values as to community than
all the other stuff about "what makes you unique." I believe the
reason so many profiles don't include religion is that it might cut
down on the number of "hits"; hits which in the long run don't lead
to a LTR since the hit isn't based on values but on interests.
(Think about it. Is the first question a guy asks you in a bar when
he's "hitting" on you, as he gazes longingly at your decolletage,
"What's your religion?"' I don't think so 'cause it isn't designed
to advance his agenda for a LTR much less a STR.)So for what it's
worth here's my shallow response to PoF's suggestions. If you want
to know about my values we'll have to have a conversation.
As to what's happening in my life..... I know it isn't going to
improve the Universe but one of my goals is to travel to Argentina,
enjoy the ecology and learn to tango. It's more fun to travel with
a friend but I'm gregarious enough to make an amigo o amiga when I
get there. I'll edit this later. I've been delinquent in my
obligations to the Red Cross for months so I have to get out the
door before they stop calling and come to drag me in. (I don't
think they'll spill too much blood to get me in for a donation. I
mean, they wouldn't want to waste any.)
I am smart, kind, and have a passport
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to retire and see more theater, dance more and travel more
as in my recent three week trip to India and Nepal to visit Vijay
and Neha for their son's chudakarana ceremony in Pure Gurauli
Tiwari. When you're self employed you have the freedom to get those
last minute cruises for 73% off ($550 for 14 days vs. $2200) and
the freedom to starve if you don't do the work necessary. I guess,
Franklin was right. "If you don't work, you don't eat."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Board games , some forms of dancing ( I'm fairly eclectic from
Irish ceilis, waltzes, polka, east coast swing, contra,
clogging--I'm a bit of a Hillel billy, talking, listening, telling
jokes, giving good advice to my kids (getting them to follow it is
another question, but than I guess the following holds for most of
us---"When I was 16 my old man was so dumb I could barely stand to
have him around but by the time I got to be 21 it was amazing what
the old man had learned in five short years." S.C aka M.T.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
....my iconoclastic nature. I am cynical with no excuses. I mean,
wasn't it Diogenes the Cynic who believed that there was only one
virtue--Truth and used to go around with a lantern in broad
daylight saying, " I'm looking for an honest....who the #&*$#
stole my lantern?" On the other hand, I avoid sarcasm vigourously
after finding out from my 11th grade English teacher, Miss (Yeah we
called 'em miss back then) Diamondis that the Greek roots of the
word mean "to tear flesh".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Faulkner, Sartre, Buber, Joyce...yeah, I'm eclectic in my
reading,too. The penultimate book I read was Negro President by
Gary Wills. No, no...it was about Jefferson and the 3/5 clause and
how the census was used to give the South at least 12 more
electoral votes than their white population entitled them to. As to
the Louisiana Purchase, the embargo, Toussaint L'Ouverture, and the
Hemings, father and daughter, it showed a pretty seamy side of
Jefferson. The ultimate book I read was In Defense of Food. I'd
already read Pollan's Omnivore's Dilemma. It influenced me to join
a CSA. I like artsy fartsy foreign movies from France to Iran to
Argentina. Good music is good music. I like opera to blue grass to
classic rock 'n roll to Ani DeFranco. I like making Thai, Chinese,
Spanish and "real" Mexican food ( I'm not a snob. I like Tex Mex,
too) I have one rule as to restaurants. I won't go to one unless
they make the food better than me or make something I don't know
how to. Now don't get me wrong. If I'm bicycling down the road in
England, I'll eat fish and chips but I'd much rather find a
restaurant from one of the former colonial conquests, i.e., India,
Pakistan or China (Does Hong Kong count?).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Land, cattle, women, more cattle! Just kidding! But I do like to
have a little mountain space around me to share with a few good
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Getting another 200 acre farm in the mountains.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dining at home, dancing or striking up an after dinner conversation
about "values" or watching one of those artsy fartsy depressing
Euro dvd's (or occasionally a comedy) but almost invariably in my
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't like people with whom I'm sharing confidences to keep
"secrets". (I'm not talking about age or weight or other less than
significant matters). My ex used to say, "Where there's a secret,
there's a lie and where there's a lie there's a serious problem."
(Cf Diogenes the Cynic, above.) She was right. Unfortunately, she
didn't practice what her sage analysis might have intimated as
advice. Comme on dit, chat echaudé craint l'eau froide. So I am
wary of secrets.
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