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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18-99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 9:19pm
6' 3" (1.91m)
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Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here's some basics
I'm (generally) polyamorous .
and i'm open to and practice honest, ethical, non-monogamy.

I believe in compersion, and know that (at least for me) that its possible to feel love and attraction for more than one person at the same time.

Having said that, just to be clear, this is NOT a couple's profile.
nor am i currently seeking multiple partners at this time.
Mainly this profile is just here for me as i seek an awesome partner/lover/friend to meet, date, have adventures and collaborate creatively with.

I'm open to what-may-be, but all things being equal, I do LOVE to be in a female-led relationship, and have a Domme-over-me partner/lover/friend, someone I can be devoted and obedient to.
So, if you are a Domme-identified woman (or awesome in other ways, too)
and you...
- desire a submissive in your life
- want a BDSM play partner
- want someone to collaborate on photo or other creative projects with
- want someone to go to both fetish and vanilla events with
or just consider yourself kink-friendly or kink-curious, then we should talk.

Other than that, I will mention that I absolutely do not do casual sex, ...nor do i wish to skip courtship and chivalry.

As for some other basics:

i'm tall, fit, blue eyes
Outgoing, with all the necessary social skills and acumen,
...and have even been (on occasion) told i'm either (a) funny or (b) charming.

And... because everyone seems to be asking, yes, i do have pics (if the type of relationship/play or friendship that I mention resonates with you, just ask, I can send).

i'm add more details as i think of them.

Addendum: And just to be perfectly clear, direct, and to let you now some more things that I am ultimately seeking….

yes, I am kinky, and I do enjoy bdsm, and have a fetish or two.
And yes, I am open to dating someone who is poly, or who as other partners,
but, my ultimate goal is be in an on-going relationship, to be in love with the partner/lover/friend that I am with.

Even though I am not seeking a traditional dating, and even though I’m open to/prefer dating poly people, what I am most comfortable with is something thats easy-going, fun, and much less like “friends with benefits” and more like an actual girlfriend (where our interests and affection extends beyond just the bedroom).

So, if you ONLY want something shallow, passing, or with no desire to be open to something deeper, more connected, we’re probably not a (romantic) match.

Having said ALL that, and mentioned the specifics I have alluded to, most of all… finding a girlfriend, life-parter, perfect-for-me match, is probably the most important of all.

If thats there, then all the rest is secondary.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
entertainment biz, and real estate
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This doesn't exactly match the heading, and its a little repetitive, but its important enough to say again, and this seemed like as good a place as any to put it:

Here's who I'd hope to meet:

- smart/intellectual friends to share kinky and non-kinky adventures with
- chemistry willing, a partner who was open to an on-going relationship, play and other kinky adventures.
- OM (orgasmic meditation) partners
- women who are open to a non-reciprocal oral service relationship.
- creative types to create, collaborate or inspire each other and make art with.

Most importantly...
I am NOT looking for hook-ups, DTF-types, or one-night stands, or sexual play if there is not passion and a real connection/affection/comfort between us.

So, if after getting to know each other a bit online, if you're the type who actually likes to meet your Okcupid paramours, and (initial chemistry, attraction and aligned-interests permitting) you're the type who would actually like to meet, to discover if we have in-person chemistry (D/s and otherwise) ...or were just curious to know more, I'd welcome your reply.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
often I'll be at a kinky / fetish / bdsm event with friends, that I saw on the local fetlife events page.

although, i could just as easily be at a dinner party, dive, movie, camping, road trip, art gallery, mid-night hike, or netflixing with freinds (assuming they're binge watching the same shows that I am)

You should message me if
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you are familiar with what a FLR (female-led relationship) is.
...and, you desire (or curious about) having a devoted to you, submissive (based in friendship, passion, kink and perhaps even in time ....amoré).

you are a woman who is open to a non-reciprocal oral service relationship.

you love chivalrous courtship, or (even better) if you like the "devotional sex" method of courtship.

you want a partner to OM (orgasmic meditation) with.

if youre just super fun, super adventurous, kink-friendly, or an artist wanting someone to create with.