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45 F Somerville, MA

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Sep 13
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
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Graduated from Ph.D program
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My self-summary
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I'm a cheery extrovert, who is also fairly private. I love to rally a group to play loud, silly games, and I also crave walks in the woods with just the chipmunks as company. I enjoy meeting people I don't know and unearthing things we have in common.

I am inspired and humbled by people who selflessly help their neighbors: the woman in my previous neighborhood who laminated children's books and left them in the playground for parents to read to their children; my gay neighbor who looks out for the 70-something former marine whose wife died recently and whose conservative beliefs somehow don't interfere with their connection; my mom who gleans produce from her garden to give to the local food pantry. (And on a larger scale, I'm inspired by people like Mandela and his incredible forgiveness of his captors and his lack of bitterness after 27 years. Sometimes I pause to really consider that fact -- 27 years. With the fullness of that example in mind, how can I ever justify getting impatient or resentful towards someone over petty things? I just need to remember to think of this when those petty feelings make an appearance...) I'd love to hear about your heroes.

My favorite vacations have all been backpacking trips. I love that feeling that I am totally self-sufficient -- carrying my world on my back for a few days. And I love how the rhythm of backpacking forces me to slow down. Setting up camp, getting water, unloading food from the pack, priming the stove, etc. Everything is deliberate and everything takes longer than when I'm in the world of refrigerators and running water.

After my first year of teaching, I spent a month hiking the Long Trail in Vermont as a reward for myself. I spent lots of trail time reflecting on my work and how I could be a better teacher the next year, but I also spent a lot of time thinking about how to keep my socks dry (it was a brutally rainy summer in VT!), whatever perishable fruit I was craving, and the incredible (verdant!) beauty of the woods in Vermont. Hiking provides a great mental break from my intense work and has become a reliable way for me to decompress. Ultimate frisbee is another favorite way to clear my mind of work.

Despite lots of time in the woods, I am a lousy outdoor cook. I can usually do mac and cheese without screwing it up. I have to admit I'm not such a gourmet cook at home either, so I guess it's not so surprising... However, I can follow a recipe just fine and am slowly being smitten by the SmittenKitchen blog. I recently went on a homemade granola bar kick.

I respect people who are thoughtful, humble and honest. I appreciate conversations that push my thinking about important issues. I am a shameless promoter of one of my college heroes, Cory Booker (who has now gone far beyond his student government role in college).

I gravitate towards people who laugh easily and unselfconsciously, are not wedded to their TVs, frequently talk about what's going on in the world, care deeply about how to address economic and racial inequalities in our country, listen carefully and want to know what I care about, also enjoy spending time alone, will tell me when the scary part is over in a movie, don't hesitate to admit when they screwed something up, love watching the stars, are compassionate and good neighbors, and would probably tease me about this ridiculously long list.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am passionate about my work in public schools and have to work not to be totally consumed by it. I'm striving for balance -- I love to get away from my work, too.
I’m really good at
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Someone I supervise recently gave me a compliment I really like. She said that even when things felt really challenging, I still made work feel joyful. I like that -- I hope I can live up to it!

On a less serious note, I love to play. Sand castles on the beach, snow creatures in the winter, jumping in the moon-walk/bouncy house/blow-up thing, trampolines (challenge you to a seat-drop war), charades, the game "Bob" never gets old for me, making crazy hats for my mom's birthday (and wearing them of course)...
The first things people usually notice about me
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I love to laugh. Sometimes loudly. Usually successful in getting others to join me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't own a TV. I love telling that to the kids at school and watching their reaction. It's as if I said I don't have a roof on my house.

Each week, I look forward to listening to NPR's Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me while I wash dishes or chop vegetables. I guess that's my equivalent of a favorite TV show. Peter Sagal makes me laugh.

I'm a fairly picky movie-goer. I can't stick it out in scary or violent movies (my sister tells me I'm a wimp in this respect). I also get impatient with a lot of movies that rehash gender stereotypes. Some movies I've liked: Once; Lost in Translation; The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind; Room with a View; The Kids are Alright; You Can Count on Me; and others.

I read (and enjoy) a lot of education and leadership books. I think I've read all of Jonathan Kozol's work -- it significantly shaped my view of schools and schooling. I also love Malcolm Gladwell's writing. When I'm reading non-work related stuff, I gravitate towards historical fiction. I recently read the Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. Historical fiction about World War II era with a sort-of-corny-but-I-still-loved-it romantic thread through it. I also loved The Kite Runner, Snow Falling on Cedars, Jim the Boy. In truth, though, I feel so swamped with work these days that I don't read fiction nearly as much as I'd like.

I like a range of music -- mostly from friends' recommendations (and I need new recommendations since my playlist is definitely dated). I just went and checked the current pile I have next to my CD player and here's the list: Michael Hedges; Eddie From Ohio; Yo-Yo Ma playing Bach's Unaccompanied Cello Suites; Paul Pena; Peter Mayer; Jack Johnson; Caribe Mambo; Larry Groce; Glenn Gould playing the Goldberg Variations; the Dave Matthews Band; and Joni Mitchell.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family and friends
Fresh air and opportunities to be in it
Motivation to grow in grace and humility
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Frequently falling asleep on the couch at 7:30pm because the work week is long and intense. Sometimes watching a movie with friends. Sometimes reading a bedtime story to my godson and his sister who live nearby.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I dance around my house by myself to loud music. (Usually when I am supposed to be doing some serious cleaning...)