AlysonNotAly
31 Philadelphia, PA
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My self-summary
I'm a fairly strange, sorta geeky, slightly off kilter, loud & foul mouthed chick who has a lot to give but is having the damnedest time finding someone to share my life with. I'm part ambitious go getter chatterbox who dreams big and will never stop, and part procrastinating scatterbrain who doesn't know what's happening tomorrow without her planner book. I own a refrigerator but not a bed.

It's a crazy world we live in, and while I'm independent and love being my own person, I'm over this whole being alone thing. I'm ready to spoil someone, & be their arm candy, & have them be mine, & make them presents, & cook them themed meals, & go see shows together, & be indecisive with about what to eat, & all that silly stuff that is much less interesting when on your own.

So I'm trying to keep an open mind. OKC is a weird beast though and it's been a... bumpy ride on here. So I wanna say up front that generally, If I don't think we have any sort of romantic potential I'm just not gonna message you back. I'm NOT here looking for just friends, I have plenty of those. I'm also NOT looking for a purely physical relationship, or for a threesome or to step on your balls so STOP ASKING. And too many jerks have yelled at me when I am just trying to be polite and tell them I don't them I don't think we'd be a good match. I know it sucks to send messages out and feel like they are lost to the abyss, sorry, but I'm not trying to waste my time or yours- or get cursed out by guys I don't even know. Bye, Felipe! (if you don't know what that is- look up "Bye Felipe" and you'll know exactly why I'm not responding)

So, what *am* I looking for? Much could be said here and I'm a talker/sharer so I guess I'll go ahead :-P ... I'd like someone who doesn't think of themselves as an "average guy." Someone who is motivated and self assured but also knows that we're all a 'work in progress.' A person with a strong sense of self (and a strong sense of style is ALWAYS a plus!). Someone with ambition (whether job related or artistic or whatever, I don't mean you have to have the best job, I mean you have to want to grow in your life)- that i can support and cheer on towards their goals, and who will do the same for me (I always do "better" when someone else is 'in it' with me) A partner. Someone who loves to be the big spoon, but isn't adverse to switching it up on occasion. Someone who can learn to love my big fat mouth and continual insecurities while feeling comfortable sharing themselves and their quirks too. Someone i want to spoil. Someone to serenade me, no matter how embarrassed they may get. Someone who won't run when I sing to them while looking them right in the eye. Someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to ask for it. Someone who respects and trusts. Someone with whom I share an undeniable chemistry...

I have been told that my openness about being somewhat "picky" or my focus on "spark" is intimidating. I don't mean for it to be, I just know that there are certain intangibles that exist and pretending to be able to define "chemistry" or even physical attraction is silly and presumptuous. But i *am* picky. and I *do* want spark. but I don't think I'm asking for too much- and when it presents itself I am gonna be all up on that shit.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an actress, singer, stylist, event producer, horror host, writer, and about eleventy three other things on any given day. I am co owner of a small theatre & event production company I'm always looking for new and interesting projects to be involved with, *especially* stuff with a lefty socio-political message.

I have a job in a shop to pay the bills, though I agree that "there are shop boys, and there are boys who just happen to work in a shop for the time being." 10 points to anyone who knows that quote without having to look it up.
I’m really good at
Acting, singing, poking at my cat(no, that's not a euphemism), procrastinating, scrabble(well, i'm ok, a bit out of practice these days), being indecisive, styling and shopping.
The first things people usually notice about me
People usually respond to my clothing or hair styles right off the bat. I love dressing the character of me. I'm a goth girl at heart, but I am usually cultivating a rockabilly/50's/pin-up aesthetic these days.

After a few minutes people usually notice that I talk. A lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: fairy tales for adults, political satire,sci fi, fantasy

movies: things that make you go "hmmm" or really break you down emotionally. farces, fairy tales for adults, silly comedies, indie films, sci fi, fantasy, "bad" horror, cheesy girly shit, musicals

(tv) shows: sci fi, aaron sorkin shows, stuff with singing, some cheesy sit coms, "fake" news, popcorn b.s. to help my brain turn off at night

(theatre) shows: Rock Musicals, Romance, Explorations of dark themes in weird ways, Audience interactive theatre, Multi media theatre.

music: industrial, goth, synth pop, post punk, 50's 60's girl groups, riot grrl, folky chick rock, some blues and big band, rockabilly/psychobilly, classic crooners, u.s.o. dance music, *some* pop (though i'm very picky about it) almost anything 80's or synth based besides dubstep or the regurgitated house mixes of urrythang these days. richard cheese.

food: NOTHING SPICY, anything with garlic or avocado.
The six things I could never do without
friends.
regular sleep on a fairly comfortable bed.
knowing that those i care for are generally doing well.
a creative outlet.
a sense of humor.
vomit (my cat)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
bats, minions, & ham cat.
On a typical Friday night I am
I've become somewhat of a home body lately, but if I'm out & I'm not performing somewhere it's usually for karaoke out taking in a show. I used to go to goth/industrial clubs. A lot. 4-5 times a week in my heyday. I'm sorta part of the "too old for that shit" crowd now, though I do still pop in on goth events once in a blue moon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I corset/waist train.
You should message me if
You want to talk to me, but you won't be offended and act like a dick if I don't respond.

You're also a sci fi geek- but you won't get too mad at me that i'm not into Star Wars.

You have more to say than "yo, how r u?"

You find the idea of a girl in star trek feety pajamas alluring.

You'd like to ask me something unusual.

You're a philanthropic patron of the arts who would like to donate large sums of money to my fledgling theater company.

You'd like to message a bit here or possibly through facebook and then go for it and meet (after we establish interest and are both satisfied that we are not serial killers or serial daters, :P).
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