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30 F Philadelphia, PA

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:39pm
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from high school
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I told myself I wouldn't be back... but what can I say? Someone said to me recently- "Well, you can't have any good dates if you don't date at all," and I couldn't argue their logic.

I'm a fairly strange, sorta geeky, slightly off kilter, loud & foul mouthed chick who has a lot to give but is having the damnedest time finding someone that both sparks real, mutual interest and proves themselves worth it. Honestly I'm not looking for casual, I've been there, and I've done that, and I'm over it.

I have my ups and downs, and I can be a real handful- but I know I can be an awesome girlfriend and can make someone really happy. I just don't know who the hell that someone is yet.

Will I find them online? Part of me doesn't think so, but another part of me doesn't want to cut off the possibility cuz it doesn't seem to be happening IRL.

So, what *am* I looking for? Much could be said here and I'm a talker/sharer so I guess I'll go ahead :-P ... I'd like someone who doesn't think of themselves as an "average guy." Someone who is motivated and self assured but also knows that we're all a 'work in progress.' A guy with a strong sense of self (and a strong sense of style is ALWAYS a plus!). Someone with ambition (whether job related or artistic or whatever, I don't mean you have to have the best job, I mean you have to want to grow)- that i can support and cheer on towards their goals, and who will do the same for me (I always do "better" when someone else is 'in it' with me)A partner. Someone who loves to be the big spoon, but isn't adverse to switching it up on occasion. Someone who can learn to love my big fat mouth and continual insecurities while feeling comfortable sharing themselves and their quirks too. Someone i want to spoil. Someone to serenade me, no matter how embarrassed they may get. Someone who won't run when I sing to them while looking them right in the eye. Someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to ask for it. Someone who respects and trusts. Someone with whom I share an undeniable chemistry...

Sorry, ladies, I'm not interested in pursuing another member of the fairer sex at this time.

I have been told that my openness about being somewhat "picky" or my focus on "spark" is intimidating. I don't mean for it to be, I just know that there are certain intangibles that exist and pretending to be able to define "chemistry" or even physical attraction is silly and presumptuous. But i *am* picky. and I *do* want spark. but I don't think I'm asking for too much- and when it presents itself I am gonna be all up on that shit. So please, send me a message- ask me something strange- see if we can start a convo and maybe more. I'm not in the habit of responding to just anything, but I'm ready to be challenged by the right person.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an actress, singer, stylist, event producer, horror host, writer, and about eleventy three other things on any given day. I am co owner of a small theatre & event production company ( so most of the time i'm trying to figure out what the hell I'm supposed to be doing for that- trying to navigate this new world and take appropriate advantage of the remarkable opportunities that I'm finding along this path. I'm always looking for new and interesting projects to be involved with, *especially* stuff with a lefty socio-political message.

I have a job in a shop to pay the bills, though I agree that "there are shop boys, and there are boys who just happen to work in a shop for the time being." 10 points to anyone who knows that quote without having to look it up.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Acting, singing, poking at my cat(no, that's not a euphemism), procrastinating, scrabble(well, i'm ok, a bit out of practice these days), being indecisive, and shoe shopping.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My brightly colored hair, and people usually respond to my clothing or hair styles right off the bat. I tend to be highly styled. I love dressing the character of me. I'm a goth girl at heart, but I am usually cultivating a rockabilly/50's/pin-up aesthetic these days.

After a few minutes people usually notice that I talk. A lot. I tend to be an over talker/over sharer (though I bet you could already tell that much, hahaha) for example, you're probably thinking that my saying that is a turn off, and why would I write it? But that's exactly why I write it: I am me, flaws and all. And though I think other people usually just need to keep up, I understand that not everyone likes being around a chatterbox, so might as well be up front about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: fairy tales for adults, political satire,sci fi, fantasy

movies: things that make you go "hmmm" or really break you down emotionally. farces, fairy tales for adults, silly comedies, indie films, sci fi, fantasy, "bad" horror, cheesy girly shit, musicals

(tv) shows: sci fi, aaron sorkin shows, stuff with singing, some cheesy sit coms, "fake" news, popcorn b.s. to help my brain turn off at night

(theatre) shows: Rock Musicals, Romance, Explorations of dark themes in weird ways, Audience interactive theatre, Multi media theatre.

music: industrial, goth, synth pop, post punk, 50's 60's girl groups, riot grrl, folky chick rock, some blues and big band, rockabilly/psychobilly, classic crooners, u.s.o. dance music, *some* pop (though i'm very picky about it) almost anything 80's or synth based besides dubstep or the regurgitated house mixes of urrythang these days. richard cheese.

food: NOTHING SPICY, anything with garlic or avocado.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
regular sleep on a fairly comfortable bed.
knowing that those i care for are generally doing well.
a creative outlet.
a sense of humor.
vomit (my cat)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What the hell i'm doing/not doing with my life. How much I NEED a good professional massage. How much I HATE choosing monologues for auditions, and when I'm going to get to eat at Marrakesh again. Yum!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I've become somewhat of a home body lately, but if I'm out & I'm not performing somewhere it's usually for karaoke. I used to go to goth/industrial clubs. A lot. 4-5 times a week in my heyday. I'm part of the "too old for that shit" crowd now, though I do still pop in on events once in a blue moon- I think mostly for nostalgia.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think i am using this OKC thing wrong. Or maybe people really do only use this thing just for hook ups- which isn't just what i'm looking for- so i'm s.o.l?

I'm not a fantastic speller (not super terrible, but certainly not great, and hey, Einstein couldn't spell for shit, so I'm in good company). I use the little google search box as a spellchecker fairly often. Thanks for helping me not look/sound/read like a shmuck, intertubes!!

I corset/waist train.
You should message me if
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You want to talk to me, cuz honestly I'm not much of a 'message first' kind of gal (seriously, I feel weird even messaging back most of the time, I guess i'm not very good at interweb dating)

You're also a sci fi geek- but you won't get too mad at me that i'm not into Star Wars.

You have more to say than "yo, how r u?"

You find the idea of a girl in star trek feety pajamas alluring.

You'd like to ask me something unusual.

You're a philanthropic patron of the arts who would like to donate large sums of money to my fledgling theater company.

You'd like to message a bit here or possibly through facebook and then go for it and meet (after we establish interest and are both satisfied that we are not serial killers or serial daters, :P).