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36 F Colchester, VT

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:06pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I am polyamorous and living with my fiance, who is not on okcupid, and I am also polyamorous with Ivia and another woman, who is not on okcupid. I also have a number of BDSM play partners.

I am pacifist, secular humanist, feminist, social, unabashedly anti-theist, socially liberal, poetic, pansexual, kinky, nerdy, and polyamorous. I vie for peace, love, and balance in my life, and I seek a state of being in which my love is unrestricted, unreserved, and unconditional.

I do no hate, not even those who have wronged me, there is no room in my heart or mind for such feelings or thoughts, and I forgive before an offense is even given. I do not judge, I accept everyone for who they are, and love them as one human ought to love another, even if I do not like or do not agree with them, and even those who are the most severely misguided.

To me, kindness, compassion, understanding, justice, and mercy are paramount, even when they might conflict with reason, which is also very important to me.

I don't pay for A-List, so I won't be able to see who likes me, so if you like me, and/or want to ask me questions, please, message me.

I may add more later.
What I’m doing with my life
I am looking for and finding new direction and purpose in my life.

I am evolving.
I’m really good at
Helping and caring for people, understanding, communicating, writing, and stealing your cat's affections =^.^=
The first things people usually notice about me
My sweetness and compassion, and how tall I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: Assorted fantasy novels by Terry Brooks, R.A. Salvatore, Stephen R. Donaldson, Troy Denning, Margaret Weis & Tracy Hickman, Mercedes Lackey, Robert E. Howard and the continued stories of Conan by various authors, J.R.R. Tolkien, and more, as well as assorted Warhammer Fantasy novels. Assorted Star Wars novels, James Patterson, Robert Ludlum, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and H.P. Lovecraft. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, She's Not There by Jennifer Finney Boylan, Go Rin No Sho by Miyamoto Musashi, Romance of the Three Kingdoms by Luo Guanzhong and more...

MOVIES: Legend(most favorite), What Dreams May Come, The Last Samurai, Star Wars 4-6, Serenity, The Matrix, The Dark Crystal, The Neverending Story, The Princess Bride, All Monty Python, Labyrinth, The Dark Knight, Inception, City Of Angels, Silverado, The Last Of The Mohicans, Dark City, Enough Said, Soldier's Girl, End Of Watch, Blazing Saddles, See No Evil Hear No Evil, Kung Fu Hustle, Ninja Scroll, and many more...I am a movie nerd :)

TV SHOWS: The Practice, Boston Legal, Sherlock, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Stargate SG-1, Firefly, Angel, Criminal Minds, L&O: SVU, Bleep My Dad Says, Raising Hope, The Mentalist, Lie To Me, Hell On Wheels, Chuck, Justified, Hit & Miss, Fullmetal Alchemist, Luther, Game Of Thrones, and more...

MUSIC: Lisa Gerrard/Dead Can Dance, Carly Simon, Garbage, Elizabeth Lorrey, Tori Amos, Poe, Tears For Fears, Nine Inch Nails(older stuff), Rob Dougan, Salvatore Geloso, Hans Zimmer, Max Richter, Clint Mansell, Arcana, Yanni, Massive Attack, The Cure, Sisters Of Mercy, Concrete Blonde, Attrition (older stuff),The Gossip, Video Game Music, Christina Perri, Lindsay Stirling, Wumpscut, many more, my tastes are quite eclectic.

FOOD: Bacon, Bacon Burger, Garlic Bagel With Cream Cheese, Rice Pilaf, My Own Nameless Pasta Dish, My Own Nameless Sub Sandwich, My Own Nameless Rice Dish, Cottage Pie, My Boyfriend's Chicken And Rice Dish, McDonald's French Fries, Radio Bean French Fries, Honey Barbeque Boneless Wings at Applebees, My Dad's Tacos, Bacon & Pepperoni Pizza with almost no cheese from Dominos :p
The six things I could never do without
Positive Human Contact- I am a social creature.
Love- I lived the first 35 years of my life without love.
Sex- I am also a sexual creature :p
The Ability to Cry- I couldn't and didn't cry for 30 years.
Hot Showers- Especially with a partner ;)
Arts and Entertainment- Music, movies, books, etc...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to forge a stronger community. Kink/BDSM, My Identity, Love, Life, Sex, Gender, Behavior, How to help Transgender Women; My Amazing, Joyful, and Wondrous Relationship with my Beloved Fiance.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home with my fiance and our two dogs.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
The fact that I'm a transsexual doesn't influence your decision one way or the other, and you are interested in dating or friendship.

You have read my profile and have something more to say than "Hello beautiful :)", "Hi sexy ;)", or "Hi, how are you?"

You are not religious.

You are dominant, and experienced in BDSM, though this is not a requirement, vanilla and non-dominant people are welcome too :)