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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
May 23
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Escaping a military-run kindergarden at 5; fertilized on the biggest nerd farm on this planet; exported to New York at 20 to endure large scholarships thrown at me; Ambidextrous by way of a corrected lefty plus brutal amount of piano practice, 30 years and counting; easily the cutest softball pitcher in Central Park but don't let the cute act fool you.

Part saint, part conquering warrior, I belong to a tribe sometimes known as "working artists.” My domain is music composition: symphonies, operas, chamber music and like for concert venues. For the past 30 years, I’ve been going at it full time (4 - 16 hours a day). I’ve watched fellow tribesmen drop like flies, the rest turning into assholes. I plan on avoiding both. Some people find that intimidating.

Aside from my own appetite for excellence, I attribute all my achievements to my teachers. I expect myself to become one of these inspiring people for the rest of my life.

This being a dating site and all that, I should confess: I’m more of a hermit than I like to admit. All my friends think I’m an extrovert. So I’m not sure how that happened. Hopefully, having this profile adds some delight to my modest social life.

A bite more personal stuff before I bore you to death. Several years ago, I ended a ten-year-marraige, from which I learned a great deal about myself.

Top three presumptions about me to cross off:

1) I don’t hear the clock ticking;
2) I don’t mind dying alone;
3) My youthful appearance serves no justice to my precocious self. Gentleman of all age is welcome to reach out.

Top three things that do *not* impress me:

1) Money or glory (also people who brag about rubbing elbows with money or glory);
2) Martyrs;
3) Cleverness.

Top three qualities of folks I keep close:

1) The way they handle failure;
2) Devotion to their chosen discipling endorsed by care for their loved ones;
3) The people they keep close to heart, alive or dead.

These qualities define wealth. Wealth gives pulse to identity. Shared identity forms the bases of what I believe to be love. All is neat and logical until a greater force strike: we don’t choose the people we love.

Everything between arranged marriage to the mutually parasitic Frank and Clair Underwood says something about love. The world is a tad more interesting this way, is it not?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Career-wise, I'm a full-time composer of concert music (a.k.a. Classical Music, Serious Music, Art Music, etc). Almost finished with my PhD work at a private university. Teaching part-time at a state university. I try to keep my chops up at the piano by practicing a couple of hours a day. Keyword: try. Yesterday, the dog kicked me off the bench at the two hour mark. I could just go on and on.

When I'm off the clock, I love spending time on my amateur pursuits: photography, group sports, hiking, cooking up a storm for my friends then washing dishes until two in the morning. At one time, I did all that in one day. I call that progress.

Having experienced a few creative types from OKC, this is probably a good place to bring up my distaste for "artistic" temperaments, the kind best suited for cinematic cliche. I'm more of a "worker bee". Every morning I compose for 4 - 5 hours, depends. Afternoons the dog takes over the composing so I juggle between practicing, studying, teaching, running a self-publishing house, paying back email debts, etc. By sun-down, I wrap up work for the day and enjoy arrays of social or solitary activities. I take weekends. I plan vacations. My friends know me to be quite predictable and available. In other words, I make it easy for people to count on me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Anything I set my mind to.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
bubbly thought bubbles
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite? My own.

If I weren't so distracted by the thousands of books calling out from the wall, I should really read more scores. This is not something you hear everyday: so I read a symphonic score by synthesizing 35 systems of written music, hearing them in whole with precise detail before the 100-piece-NY-Philharmonic charges you $250 to hear it rendered live.

Speaking of my distractions, I'm usually reading up to 50 monographs related to my academic interests. My place is occupied by thousands of books covering all aspects of intellectual history that are not wall decoration. I keep up with the latest in Science with zeal. Especially microbiology, astro-physics and psychology.

This year (2015), I've had the pleasure to revisit the brilliant prose of Qian Zhongshu, a fiction or two by Kurt Vonnegut, an Oscar Wilde biography and Spengler's two volume "The Decline of the West" when my eye balls are about to fall out. As soon as they fall out, I take out a poetry collection or a book of humorous quotations. I call them eye-candy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have a healthy appetite for Romantic love/partnership and occasional ambition that my dog live forever. But romantic love doesn't always work out for everyone. The dog will certainly die before me. So it goes.

Faced with the absence of a partner and a pet too stubborn to attempt eternity, below are things that endure. I've come to value them more as I age.

Invisible friends;
Folks I care about;
Hearty home-cooking;
Playing group sports (softball and badminton);
My Steinway;
Scores and books;
Trust, and being trustworthy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"What it is, is never as interesting as what it does." But how can I prove it and why haven't I?

What's for dinner?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
All of the below:
a) You write well enough to grab my attention; (one-liners will be deleted)
b) You think you can share a boat with a Bengal Tiger;
c) You understand b) is metaphoric;
d) You are healthy, mentally and physically.