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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:33pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a southern man who can put on a Virginia Foghorn Leghorn accent or make it sound like a Tennessee banjo. I enjoy slapstick and serious. I am a teacher, bicyclist, writer, reader, bird watcher, better-than-average pool player and not better-than-average chess player. Oh, and I have been exploring open/poly relationships for the last 2 years. I like this model of living/loving though it is not without significant challenges.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm learning to be a storyteller and telling my tales at local venues. Thinking. Writing. Planning lessons. Fixing stuff. Cooking. I'm a teacher and love my summers off. I'm recently returned from a 6000 mile motorcycle trip across country and a trip to Guatemala. I'm a sometimes-birder. Last year I checked off my life list in Sibley's guide which makes knowing if I've seen something much easier than flipping through my birding journal every time I can't remember if I've seen a dark-eyed junco. So you can see there is an element of nerd to me. I recently joined a climbing gym and I'm enjoying challenging myself at bouldering.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
juggling, dancing, making faces and voices. I can stand on my hands! I am good at most sports. I'm good at being truthful but still learning how to be diplomatic. I'm good at being on time and learning to be late when it doesn't matter.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People often think I am someone else. Once when I was wearing some amber teardrop shades someone thought I was Peter Fonda.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite book a few years ago was Suburban Safari, A Year on the Lawn, about a woman who spent a year studying the ecology of her back yard. I'm in a book group and enjoy hifalootin discussions. Just finished reading the 10th of December by George Saunders, a collection of short stories. Kind of freaky but wonderful.
Some books that impacted me early in my life and what they helped me with:
The Sleep Book--Dr. Suess (sleep)
Manchild in the Promised Land--Claude Brown (acting tough can get you through some hard times)
The World According to Garp--John Irving (love and desire is a beautiful thing)
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance--Robert Pirsig (pay attention to things and get lost in them)
Crime and Punishment--Fyodor Dostoyevsky (don't trip)
Breathing Lessons--Ann Tyler (breathe and have compassion for yourself)
Galapagos--Kurt Vonnegut (a large brain isn't always a great thing)

I like most art forms including theatre, dance ...movies. I like comedy and will put up with a few groans for a good laugh. (Carol Burnett is a personal hero.)

Food--I love it. All kinds. I tend to eat what my body tells me I need. Love meat, but like less of it in my diet. I sometimes eat junk food but try and eat healthy and buy sustainable products.

I like all kinds of music, but I'm not a person who has it on all the time. I like quiet too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bengal Spice Tea
Black Tea
Bengal Spice Tea
My glasses
Did I mention Bengal Spice Tea?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How a shift in what we value as a society could have a major, positive impact on human well-being and the natural world we live in.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ready to have a change of scenery OR stay at home and not be around people (I'm with 48 little ones everyday during the school year and sometimes I need to be away from the voices, voices, voices!).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I tend more toward being an open book than a closed book, so just ask and I'll likely admit.
You should message me if
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You are into open relationships.