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Last online
Jul 10
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
English, Other (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Another male Earthling on the outskirts of youth, sitting in front of a computer, writing a profile for OKCupid.

In my little universe it's a time of change. Three years after trading up the trams and coffee shops of familiar old Melbourne for Sydney's inner city I found myself recruited to work in a forgotten corner of Timor Leste, from where I not so long ago returned.

Coming back to Canberra rather than my old neighborhood near the sea was a compromise, but after being here for around a year it’s starting to feel a little more like home. I do miss the ocean and energy of inner Sydney, but with the National Library down the road, the Brindabella Mountains beckoning in the distance and a bunch of other interesting exiles to get to know this little city isn’t such a bad place to be for now.

Most of my fondest memories are of years spent as part of small communities in far flung places and I do sometimes wonder whether the West with its sprawling cities and compartmentalized living is where I really fit. Though Canberra has many good points, it does sometimes seem like a difficult place to connect with people. Bushwalking, batting round new ideas and creative projects are all great, but they're also all things that I'd ideally prefer to share.

So, what else counts about me?

Even more than my origins in Melbourne I'm probably defined by the years after uni I've spent wandering Eurasia and living in the places I felt drawn to. Poor little Timor Leste, where I recently worked, was a very good fit for me. The place played right into my deep sympathy for oddities historical, political, geographical and human, and I find myself already quite seriously plotting an academically assisted return there, as well as expeditions to other places still. The question of where and what home is exactly is proving to be far from simple.

Above and beyond work for money my dream has long been to be a writer of some sort, and I spend a lot of time trying to make it real. An attempt at making a radio documentary about an amazing and mostly untold story I was lucky enough to stumble across somehow morphed into the beginnings of a PhD. I want to see and experience stuff that will open my mind to new ways of seeing things and understanding other people.

In terms of how I see things I'm all about community, in favor of listening and have an admiration for idealism of almost any type.

Other keywords about me could include compulsive wanderer, considerable neurotic, writer of quirky stories, incompetent surf enthusiastist, enthusiastic collector of obscure and mostly useless knowledge. Old things and books, foreign places, imported beer, strange facts, forgotten stories, the outdoors and rivers of most varieties are all enthusiasms of mine.

I am empathetic, eccentric, and enthusiastic.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The latest exciting installment shall involve anthropology and probably an eventual return to Timor for a year of field work. For the next six months or so though I'm in here Canberra.

Just this July I got back from a big trip that took me from Egypt to Jordan via Israel and and then (after a short hop in a aeroplane) along the Langtang/Gosainkunda Trail in Nepal. Hurray for leave without pay! It turns out the pyramids are just as impressive as you might imagine. The incredible street murals the revolution left behind on the less ancient walls of Central Cairo were a surprise, but if anything made an even stronger impression.

Also working, reading, watching movies, walking in the mountains, listening to podcasts, writing, emailing friends in other cities and continents, dreaming up ideas for future journeys, digging up weeds in my community garden, looking for new and delicious places to eat, swimming in the Murrumbidgee, buying second hand books and clothes, downloading music, editing interviews, making unrealistic plans to build a raft, exploring Canberra and the ACT by foot and by bike, observing and being amused by humanity, walking round looking for interesting stuff to photograph or record, contemplating where to next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
People have told me they like the way I write, said flattering things about my creativity and told me I'm good at making them feel comfortable and valued.

I have a sense of humour. Often I am able to make people laugh.

I'm proud of having lived in many different places round the world, and hope I've gained a broader perspective on life from it. In my better moments I think I'm good at seeing issues and the actions of others from a sympathetic rather than judgmental point of view.

I'm not really good at reading maps (though I love pasting them up on the wall) and have never been much for taking directions about anything, but on the plus side these traits do mean that I've often stumbled upon places that someone with a better sense of direction would have probably never found.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My accent. It's Australian, but somehow just different enough from the norm that people occasionally ask if I grew up somewhere else.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like literature, despite having have studied it. Over the past few years it's taken a backseat to trying to write my own stuff, grappling with foreign languages and, lately, reading for uni. Kurt Vonnegut, bless his surrealist left leaning heart, is my hero.

Latest favourites: A Fine Balance, The Yacoubian Building, A Case of Exploding Mangos, Barawa and the Way Birds Fly in the Sky, Luis Cardoso's The Crossing, The Master and Margarita and Another Day of Life.

It’s pretty unusual that I see a movie I don’t like. Even the worst Hollywood trash is fun to scoff at. Unfortunately I have a shocking memory for the names. My ideal film is a dark comedy with a happy ending. Recent favorites things to watch include My Winnipeg, Life on Earth, Dog Day Afternoon and Gentleman Broncos

I generally don't like TV much, not as part of daily life anyway although I did find myself addicted to Mad Men for a brief and puzzling period earlier this year.

When it comes to food I'm enthusiastic. I love to eat, and have no idea why I'm lucky enough to still be fairly thin at age 33. I have soft spot for strange looking deserts, and if there's something on the menu I haven't heard of before I'll probably order it just to see what happens.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
So many ways to answer; obvious, ironic, sincere, superficial, materialistic- even mocking.

I think I'll go for materialistic, then tack on a paragraph at the end.

My ipod
My laptop.
My hiking gear.
My bike (and Canberra’s bike tracks)
Piles of second hand books
My passports

Of course I could do without all of these things, but for a guy like me who enjoys wandering about, listening to music and writing stories, losing them would certainly require a lifestyle rethink.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In a way what I have to say here is related to the above question- I spend a lot of time thinking about how lucky I am, and about whether or not I really appreciate all the things I have and feel I could never do without.

Life- and specificially what should I do with it.

And other stuff, of course, the most selfish of which is probably travel- there are so many places and things throughout the world that I would still like to experience, and exactly how I should go about that doing that is a puzzle that has often been on my mind lately.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately, as I've become more settled into life and study here, I've found myself out and about with with friends, usually at a pub and having some ridiculous conversation over a pitcher or two of beer.

I could be camping, especially in summer when I can indulge in the luxury of forgoing a tent in favor of a hammock.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Being thirty three gives me this strange but persistent feeling that there may not be enough time.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm open. If you want to write I'm very happy to hear from you.

Surprise me.

More specificly if you have tolerance for ridiculous day dreams, little tolerance for rules and an ability to laugh to see the fun and humour in ordinary life and simple things, we probably have a lot in common.

And if you're relatively new to Canberra, like to write, live near the city, are fascinated by far off places, enthused by clean water and things that grow and enjoy long conversations about everything then we're probably in very similar places.

Bonus points for anyone that enjoys scrabble...

Good luck.