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35 M Vancouver, British Columbia, CA

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Irish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
All in all, I'm a gregarious, happy-go-lucky kinda guy. I'm fairly prepared to try any manner of things. What I consider being fun can easily be summed up as: being with someone who engages me intellectually (at the least ;) ). The activity itself is really just background.

I'm back living in Vancouver now, and this makes me exceedingly happy.

Before? Well from April 2011 til Oct 2012, I lived in Japan teaching English. It was an experience that, while not altogether negative, I'm not all that interested in repeating. I'd be happy to talk about it over coffee. ;)

I am honest, intelligent, and driven
What I’m doing with my life
My main focus in life is finding someone to share it with.

I tutor Philosophy. It's a little unreliable (every semester means new students), and it's not quite sufficient to pay the bills, so I also work in an office during the weekdays. I also do some English tutoring.

I'm trying to get published academically. I'd really like to go back to school to get a Masters degree (and possibly a PhD), and getting published would really help open the door for that.

I also write, and my writing can be found here:
I’m really good at
Thinking, talking, discussing. I like to read. I like to think.

I like to discuss just about anything, so long as it's a discussion. I'm not interested in lectures, one-sided conversations, or competitive conversations. I enjoy conversations where the goal (for both people) is a deeper understanding of a concept, or ethical issue.

If your idea of a good conversation is where you spend 30 minutes 'explaining' [whatever] to me, I'm going to be bored. Unless I ask for an explanation, I want a discussion.

I'm also really good at seeing the base-premise of a topic. Largely, if I disagree with the base-premise, I'll move to conversation towards discussing *that* rather than continue to deal with the original topic. For example: Is abortion murder? The base premise of that is whether or not a foetus counts as a human being (as murder is defined as the intentional killing of a human). For some people, this is a no-brainer. For others, it's a complex issue. I am of the opinion that there's room for people to disagree on this issue, as it's not particularly black-and-white. I've read a paper on this, and whether or not the foetus is a 'person' is a side issue, and fairly irrelevant.

If you have a problem with someone seeing grey when you see black-and-white, then we're not likely to get along.
The first things people usually notice about me
When I get interested in a topic, I'm enthusiastic, I want to be involved, I smile, grin like a fool, and won't shut the hell up with ideas. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Discworld Series (by Terry Pratchett). Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. The Dancing Wu Li Masters. (The latter two I'd consider Important, and should be read, by everyone) Bleeding Afghanistan is pretty fantastic too.

Movies: Empire Records, Fight Club (similarly an Important movie), Shawshank Redemption, Commando (and it's spiritual descendant The Marine), History Boys. I accept movies for themselves, and I accept genres for what they are not what I want them to be. Take Commando as a prime example. It has virutally no plot. But.... It never *claims* to have a plot. It doesn't claim to be anything more than a cheesy movie filled with explosions. If you don't like cheesy movies filled with explosions: that's ok. But calling Commando 'crap, because it's a cheesy movie filled with explosions' is akin to hating chocolate because it tastes like chocolate. (aka: a complete lack of thought)

Music: Bare Naked Ladies, Finger Eleven, Meatloaf

Food: I don't have a favourite. I like it all (though I really like sashimi). :)
The six things I could never do without
Sleep. Love. Ethics. Critical Thinking.

Well, that was a bit sparse. Expanding on that somewhat:

Sleep: I love sleep. If I'm feeling down, I take a nap and feel 1000 times better when I wake up. I love the cosiness of a bed, either shared or alone (preference on the former (most times)). I *hate* having to leave it in the morning.

Love: I adore the feeling of love. I love being around someone I care strongly about, just being in their presence. I feel better/stronger just being around them. I draw strength from being around them.

I adore the feeling of being loved. Of someone spontaneously wrapping their arms around me because they *need* to feel me in their arms. That's the sort of thing that makes me feel that it's all worthwhile. (It's also dangerous in that 'screw going to work, I'm staying right here' appears in my head :P)

Ethics, discussion thereof: I find that almost everything in life comes down to Ethics. Everything. It's never (for example) Ethics vs Money, it's Ethical behaviour vs UnEthical behaviour. The fundamental disagreement there is not whether or not it's "my money", it's a question of whether or not it's acceptable for a better off person to mistreat a less-well-off person. People often (almost always) are internally conflicted on these points, saying one thing and doing another, and I think that I would be unable to function if I could not discuss these things with *someone*. Ideally, this would be my partner, but if she's not into those kind of discussions then I can always find it elsewhere. (Does this count as 'cheating on your partner', or is a poly-intellectual relationship acceptable in today's world? :P)

Critical Thinking: I am a consciously and consistently rational person. I say it that way because everyone is, to a greater or lesser degree, rational. However, most people will make snap decisions without thinking about the consequences, or will let themselves speak without weighing their words, etc, etc, ad infinitum. Their rationality is also inconsistent. While they may demand that other people act rationally, they make no such demand upon themselves. They may frequently dismiss the actions of a person because "oh, they're just like that".

I think about what I do. I think about what other people do. I think about the reasons for both, and I evaluate those reasons for validity, and for truth. I gauge how rationally people act, and how they think they act, and how they pretend they think (not that they are stupid, but that they misrepresent how they think to others as they feel that they won't be accepted should they reveal their actual thoughts).

'Rational' is not a synonym for 'boring', 'cold', 'unemotional', or any of those other negative words people use to excuse their idiocy. I do not demand rationality of my friends. However, someone who is more irrational than rational will likely not be tolerated for long. It gets boring trying to communicate with someone who isn't even aware of their own reasons for doing things, and (far FAR more importantly) doesn't want to be aware.

I'll fill in the last two when I've thought about it a bit more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Thought, unfortunately. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance is moving a metamorphosis of thought along, that was started roughly 9 years about with The Dancing Wu Li Masters. I'm not sure where my mind is going, but I'm intrigued......

Ethics. Politics. Acceptance. Rights vs Responsibilities. Demands masquerading as 'Responsibilities'. Homelessness. The Olympics in Vancouver. The moral obligation of a people, based on nothing more than skin-colour (which seldom has anything to do with political ancestry). Racism. Sexism. Lots of -isms.
On a typical Friday night I am
To rephrase: On a Typical Night Out I Am: At the movies with a friend. Going for a beer. Generally socialising, as 'being with people' is really what gives my life meaning and focus.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ayn Rand on your list of 'favourite authors' kills all interest I might have had. Here's a good and detailed critique:

Putting Myers-Briggs ratings on your profile indicates that you know very little about personality testing. A critique:

Yes, I'm pretty judgemental. /shrug
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You can read "I spend a lot of time thinking about thought" without thinking "What a pretentious w*nker!". ;)

You have an idea for what we can do on Night Out (see above). :P