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30 M Ann Arbor, MI

My Details

Last Online
Apr 10
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
I am told that I am a calm and easygoing person, although I can confirm that still waters run deep. An entertaining, intelligent conversation is one of the most absorbing and satisfying activities for me. I have strong feelings about ethics, although not morals so much as I'm a very live-and-let-live type of person. I have been told by a few people that I am the most moral person around, although I don't know how I feel about that. I also have opinions (sometimes loud ones) about the design of everyday things, like doors and phones, as molded by the book of that name.

I am rather shy. If I'm acting shy it's usually because I really like whoever I'm being shy at. I habitually choose my words super carefully, which is often mistaken for not saying anything. Sometimes this results in the conversation moving on from anything relevant to what I had in mind, although this used to happen more often.

My superpower is that I am sterile, after having a vasectomy in late 2009. Since I don't want to make any children this has worked out pretty great, and it uncomplicates birth control.

My less-super-power is that I have a fairly good memory for numbers, which is kind of fun. I don't know how that happened, really, although maybe physics had something to do with it. It only fails me when I'm trying to remember exit numbers, which are arguably the most important numbers, at least when you're driving.

I recently found out I'm a feminist. In a recent conversation some people unknown to me were described as feminists, and I asked what was meant by that. (That right there happens a lot. I'm interested in how language is used, and I'm sometimes not clear on what some things actually mean.) I was informed that being a feminist means you 1) believe in egalitarianism (presumably between/among the genders), and 2) that you identify yourself as a feminist. I've had 1) covered for a while (and I sort of thought most other people, especially of my generation, did too; thence the confusion), so *boomf*, I hereby declare myself a feminist, and by that act make it true. This didn't happen sooner because I'm an egalitarian egalitarian, if that's a thing, so I didn't think to self-apply feminism specifically. On the other hand, several weeks before this conversation, I was heard to say, "I'm sorry if I accidentally oppressed you."

I'm a man of contradictions. I am a rabid wine anti-snob, an arrogant beer snob, and physically incapable of being a coffee snob. I put off writing this paragraph for so long that I've forgotten what else I had in mind, but trust me: contradictions.

I grew up in Napa, CA, where the wine is from. As a native Californian, I am:

-- Liberal,
-- Resigned to the necessity of driving,
-- Not scared of earthquakes, but
-- Terrified of tornadoes.

"--" doesn't accurately reflect my opinion on drugs. I've smoked pot three times, and I am not averse to trying it again, but I'm also not motivated enough to go get some. I don't think that counts as "sometimes" or "never", but as usual I've spent way too much time thinking about it. If you want a good story ask me about the third/last time I smoked.

I am dry, sensitive, and normalized.

I have a blog. Here's me on Facebook.

NB: I've had this account for upwards of six years, and I've changed a lot in that time. As a result, my questions are currently under review. Don't read too much into individual questions, and ask if you're not sure.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a second year grad student in the School of Information at the University of Michigan. I'm majored in Human-Computer Interaction and Library & Information Services. Before starting in SI I got a Master's in Physics at UM, so I'm actually in my fourth year. I will graduate at the end of 2011, and in all likelihood I'll be leaving Michigan for wherever I can get a job.

I moved to Michigan from California in 2007, at the start of grad school. I'm surprised to find that I like the snow.

I play a lot of games. Dungeons and Dragons, Carcassonne, Small World, Puerto Rico, World of Warcraft, and Dungeon Crawl top the list at the moment. Update: I don't play Warcraft any more. I'm the only person I know personally who has quit WoW without having a life-ruining problem with it first. I had a problem with someone else's problem (I was a WoW-widower? Is that a thing?), and that severely put me off it.
I’m really good at
I'm pretty good with computers. To the experienced eye I imagine my code limps along like an old Sicilian man with a snoot of grappa and an imaginary cane. On the other hand, I'm getting to the point where the skeleton of a perl script will sometimes spring unbidden to mind when I run across a data-processing problem. This is entertaining if nothing else.

I like to cook. I don't actually cook for myself that often, but when other people are around I like to put a nice meal together. I recently rediscovered that souffles aren't that hard to make, although it takes me more than an hour.

Despite what I feel is evidence to the contrary I'm told I'm a pretty good Dungeon Master.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair. It is extra-curly and I usually have one big curl above my right eye. The last things people usually notice about me are my earrings, covered as they are by my hair. In between those two things, I'm not sure; maybe my ideas or my over-reliance on semicolons?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I love fantasy and scifi, both old and new. My current favorite authors, in order, are Roger Zelazny, Michael Moorcock, Neil Gaiman, and Philip K. Dick. My favorite series are The Amber Series, His Dark Materials, and the Elric and Corum stories. I also like Fritz Leiber, Jack Vance, Terry Pratchett, and Neal Stephenson. Right now I'm rereading The Lord of the Rings, and I think I appreciate it a lot more than the last time. Also, it's fun to think about the stuff that wouldn't translate well to a movie but is great in a book.

I'm also fascinated by medieval Germanic poetry and sagas. This doesn't go along with a lot of my other interests (I'm not into poetry generally), but for reasons that are hard to explain I really enjoy the Icelandic sagas, the eddas, Beowolf, and all that sort of thing. After reading Tolkien's The Legend of Sigurd and Gudrun I even wrote a small amount of fornyrðislag myself, of a thoroughly nerdy nature. I'm not sure why, but I literally teared up a bit while reading, not the text, but the translator's introduction to Sir Gawain and the Green Knight. I guess I really like alliterative verse.

Movies: Old kung fu movies are great. Also the work of Kevin Smith. I have an appreciation for silent films as well. I went to the San Francisco Silent Film Festival one summer and my head nearly exploded during Cecille DeMille's The Godless Girl. I've watched The Big Lebowski and Monty Python and the Holy Grail more than is entirely reasonable. I'm not into horror movies, although thrillers are fine.

TV: I don't have cable, which is fine, but at the moment I love House MD, The Office, and The Dog Whisperer. When I have the time I watch The Daily Show and The Colbert Report. I've been a Star Trek fan since I was 10.

Music: I'm currently into The Cure, Depeche Mode, Joy Division/New Order, Pet Shop Boys, and related synth-pop. Also Richard Wagner. I'm not sure how that works but I'm definitely not a Nazi. Also Daft Punk, Led Zeppelin, Kid Koala, MC Frontalot In the past I listened to They Might Be Giants, The Beatles, David Bowie, The Doors, Gorillaz, The Prodigy, The Ramones, The Sex Pistols, The Smiths, and Weezer more than I do now, but I still appreciate them. And indeed, those lists are in alphabetical order because of iTunes.

I don't really listen to music on the radio because I prefer NPR. This American Life, Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me, Car Talk, and Radio Lab are filling my podcast feed.

Food: I love wine and stinky cheese. I swear that my very favorite wine is Charles Shaw Sauvignon Blanc (aka Two-Buck Chuck); it's so good that it caused me to seriously reconsider my career choices on the eve of my college graduation. Beer goes great with pizza. So does wine. Liquor complements anything. I make quiche semi-regularly and souffle semi-irregularly.
The six things I could never do without
-- Large numbers of books, preferably gently used
-- Gin with moderation, olives without
-- Semi-regular loving
-- My shampoo, conditioner, hair dryer, and electric razor. Going without two or more of these for more than a day makes me feel like a hobo!
-- Stinky cheese
-- My glasses. I could probably fake my way through a day or two without them, but I can't see as far as the computer screen, which could become a problem. I've thought about getting contacts or laser surgery, but I've decided I actually like my glasses anyway. So there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-- Various programming projects I have sitting around. I really wish they'd get to work on themselves.
-- The universe
-- How best to construct my next sentence(s)
-- Politics
-- How few kids I want to be responsible for (zero)
-- Language and semantics
-- Any philosophical issues that come up. One recent head exploder: Is information a thing in itself? This resulted in strong feelings on both sides.
-- How to write the longest profile EVAR
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing games, trying not to think about schoolwork.

So for a long time I took this question way to literally, but it turns out it's secret code for "what do you do for fun?". This was a breakthrough.

Sometimes when I'm bored I like to get myself lost in weird extradimensional spaces. The stacks in the Hatcher Graduate Library are rife with these. The other day I found the oldest elevator ever (it was a terrifying ride) and a dude either sleeping or dead in one of the aisles.

I love reading, and people around me are often impressed by how quickly I go through books. I mostly read on the bus, and on the way to and from the bus, and in bed, but I guess that adds up?

I have several personal programming projects (like my ugly website!) that I sometimes forget to neglect and actually put some work into, but most of the time that feels too much like work. Nonetheless, I would definitely say that I program for fun.

I don't go out on the town much, but when I do my favorite places to go are where it's possible to have a lively, excellent conversation. Once I get there, my favorite thing to do is have a lively, excellent conversation. Restaurants get bonus points for having food.

Aside from normal conversation, I also like playing with language, partly because it's fun and partly because I sometimes have overly specific ideas that are hard to convey without saying/writing something weird. My big thing lately is I'd like to be able to use grouping parentheses in writing; so instead of writing "word correlation/semantic meaning", which looks to me like "word (correlation/semantic) meaning", I want to be able to do "(word correlation) / (semantic meaning)" to make it clear which phrases are being alternated. Someday I will stop caring what anyone thinks and just do that crazy stuff, but in the mean time a guy can dream.

I love to eat good food, either at home or in a restaurant, and cooking it is an adventure too. Because I'm from Napa I often get the wine list pushed toward me, despite my protestations. 90% of the time this results in either a Sauvignon Blanc or a Pinot Noir, which is just fine.

I am somewhat of a video gamer, although I barely keep up with new games. I know of them, but I don't have the time anymore. I also love, and don't keep up with, board games, but I'm into Carcassone, Puerto Rico, and Settlers of Catan, and games like that.

I was much more outdoorsy before college (shockingly, I'm an Eagle Scout! This has come as a surprise to a lot of my friends), and while I haven't done anything resembling camping in a while, I would love to get back into sleeping in the woods. It should be more interesting now that I can drink. I also like day hikes, and I know a few good places in the Ann Arbor area.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like vanilla sex of all kinds, and also pegging/strapon sex. Also, I clearly don't beat around the bush.

OK, this is basically the sex question, isn't it? So I'll also say that I enjoy learning new skills and exercising mastery, and I'm dynamite at taking directions. In bed!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–31
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
NB again: As you should know from reading the first part, I am currently seeing someone. Yay me! I've left my profile alone otherwise, but yeah, I'm off the market. HOWEVER I would still love to make some new friends, have some good conversations, and play some board games.

You are fun, 25-33 years old, and want to chat about any of the above, or meet for coffee in a charming place.

The closer to Ann Arbor, the better, but I have a car and I'm not afraid to use it.

Long-term, I'm into monogamy; I'm willing to try being flexible on that, but it would be a long road.