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47 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 34–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
...goes like this:
Smart, kind, warm, thoughtful, a good listener.
Cynical and idealistic, earnest and sarcastic, depending on the day and company.
A romantic.
In a recent conversation with a friend, she suggested "sensitive and tender-hearted".
Physically fit and enjoy being active (the gym, hiking, riding my bike, tennis).
Believe in the importance of balance—taking care of mind, body, and spirit.
Politically liberal on most issues.
Serious and ambitious about my work, but try to have balance and not be a workaholic.
An environmentalist and lover of the outdoors.
Learning to express myself a bit through music—singing and guitar.
A lover of good books and movies.
An enthusiastic cook and trier of new recipes.
A transplanted Midwesterner, with stops on the East Coast and the Rocky Mountains in between.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day. be a better architect; more about cooking, baking, painting, art; to play tennis and my guitar better; to trust my instincts; to be vulnerable and take risks; to be a better friend; to just be.
Lately I've started to explore Buddhist ideas--just the simple things like taking a bit of time to meditate every day, and being as present and kind as I can be, to myself and others.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
expressing myself; drawing; keeping promises; being on time; making smoothies; thinking (sometimes to a fault)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"wow, he's tall for an Asian guy" (I'm 6'-2")
he's got a nice smile
he's quiet
he's got thick hair (although not as thick in the last year or two :( )
my friend says, "he's an open and gentle guy, doesn't have hard edges, he's tender-hearted"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
ahh, here's where i could go on and on. but in short:
Books: The Corrections, Plainsong, Eventide, Watership Down, The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay
Movies: Ordinary People, The Sixth Sense, It's a Wonderful Life, The Sound of Music, The Verdict, Sense and Sensibility, Shadowlands, The Remains of the Day, Children of Men, many more...
Music: Wilco, Neil Finn, Elliott Smith, Dan Bern, Greg Brown, Springsteen, Aimee Mann, Keane, lots of other Americana, folk-rock, and bluegrass...
Food: good bread; deep-dish pizza (the Chicagoan in me); the double-corn muffin at Arizmendi; stone fruit in the summer, kale and celery in my smoothie; Mexico-city style tacos; Thai basil chicken; granola; ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
besides the necessities like contact lenses:
orange juice
good bread/butter/marmalade
good books (i know this is cheating, but don't make me pick one book)
my bike (maybe)
pens and paper
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the environment and "living lightly"
my work, design, how to always be growing as an architect
friendship and (i have to confess) finding HER
food, cooking, eating in a healthy way (with the occasional lapse in the form of a good burger and fries or a cake donut)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having dinner with friends, at the movies, or at home de-stressing from the week. Or, maybe on the way to the mountains for a backpacking trip.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're kind and open-hearted, and ready for a relationship that's real, honest, vulnerable, and attitude-free...
You long for that feeling of looking into someone's eyes and feeling safe, known, and accepted.
You know that relationships aren't always easy or fun and you're willing to ride through the rough patches, because the good parts are that good.
You're aware of your own issues, are accepting of them and feel good about who you are in spite of them.
...and you're willing to take a chance!