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27 M San Francisco, CA

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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and very serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
More than $1,000,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a misanthrope and misandrist who is looking forward to Armageddon. I've been known to curse bros on the bus, probably due to having watched the Craft a few too many times. My patron god(dess) is Baphomet nowadays. Sometimes Eris/Discordia. I'm pretty bored with the radical queer scene because it's usually not very radical (owing to the racism, transmisogyny, misogyny, fatphobia, and ableism), and saying you disapprove of "cissexism" on your profile is only so much lip service in my mind. I tend to avoid radical queer things because you can pretty much take it for granted that it'll be transmisogynist with pretentious music. That being said, the thing that sustains me right now is Drop Dead Diva, Ugly Betty, and Xena: Warrior Princess (which stands the test of time better than Buffy). Maybe my patron goddess is Lucy Flawless. I'm also slowly falling in love with Divas, just because I think there are more opportunities for trans lady sisterhood and collective organizing there. I try to agitate against homonormativity (homofascism!), homonationalism, and multiple transnormativites whenever I can, often to the tune of the Xena: Warrior Princess theme. I'm also not a fan of nation-states or capitalism.

All of that being said, I'm a gigantic sci fi/fantasy nerd with a Dark Phoenix tattoo, too many books, and an unhealthy love of seasonal ice creams (Safeway Selects <3 <3 <3!!!). If you can teach me how to play Magic: The Gathering, I can overlook being a "radical" queer.

Quotes I live by:

"Love's a spell created by mortals to give females something to play with instead of power."

Though Xena-style Sapphic lovin' is a rather large exception.

"Feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice."

That being said, I tend to date man shaped creatures. So, ideally, please be a little self-hating (at least feel super guilty for patriarchy) and I'll be a little hypocritical.
What I’m doing with my life
I just finished an MSW and I work in community mental health. I'm really passionate about supporting consumers of mental health services, and I'm growing into a queer, trans, lady-spectrum, witch, therapist.

I only date crazy or drama queens or both. Hard limit.

For the love of Goddess, please don't be "down-to-earth" or "laid back."
I’m really good at
Summoning the Dark Princess
Eviscerating misogynists
Eye shadow contouring
Antagonizing fatphobes on the Internet
Antagonizing self-identified "radicals" (you're not that radical, I promise, but you are that narcissistic)
Gargamel-style cackling
Critical theory commentary on pop media
Taylor Swift fandom
X-men swag
The first things people usually notice about me
Side eye. Lots of side eye.

Then the glaring.

Then the side eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books!!!!!!!! My book love can be broken down into:

1) Science Fiction and Fantasy, including: Ursula Le Guin, Octavia Butler, Samuel Delany, Margaret Atwood, Suzanne Collins, Kristen Cashore, K. A. Applegate, Madeleine L'Engle, Tad Williams, Lloyd Alexander, the works! Parable of the Talents and The Word for World is Forest, in particular.

2) Queer Theory, Critical Theory, and Anarchism, including: David Valentine, Emma Goldman, Angela Davis, Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, Jasbir Puar, bell hooks, Judith Butler, Andrea Smith, Dean Spade, Audre Lorde, lots of things about the non-profit industrial complex

3) Gay fiction: Jeanette Winterson, T. Cooper (though I'm a bit impatient with his trans bro-ing lately), Felicia Luna Lemus, Christopher Isherwood, Alison Bechdel

4) Tragic lady fiction: Thomas Hardy, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Gregory Maguire

As for Movies & TV! My movies and TV can be boiled down into super girly funtimes that transcend genre. Mainly, though, we have:

1) Kick-Ass Ladies: Ugly Betty, Xena: Warrior Princess, Drop Dead Diva, Switched at Birth, Buffy, Avatar: The Last Airbender, etc.

2) (Gay) (Teen) Camp: Mean Girls, Easy A, DEBS, But I'm a Cheerleader, Trick, Priscilla: Queen of the Desert, She's the Man, Legally Blonde, Miss Congeniality, Sister Act

And Music! Which can be boiled down to:

1) Top 40: Britney, T. Swift, Ke$ha, Christina, I love it all!!!!

2) Divas: Mariah, Whitney, Celine (!!!!), Cher, Bette, Tina, yes!!!

3) Folk & Country: Johnny Cash, Alison Krauss, Girlyman, Dar Williams, Dolly Parton, <3 <3 <3

4) Kelly Clarkson

5) Kate Bush
The six things I could never do without
How about 6 things I COULD do without:

1) Bros on my bus every day
2) Gentrifiers
3) Homonormativity (yes, that includes you, radical faeries and hipster homos)
4) Transnormativity
5) Allergies
6) Pastels (I just don't like pastels that much even though they totally complement my skin tone)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If homonormative identities (i.e. gay and lesbian) emerged in roughly the 1950's as ways of assimilating into the white middle class such that we currently live in a homonormative and homonationalist world, is it just nostalgia to claim identities that try to build collective power or to reject those identities and their synonyms (i.e. queer, pansexual, etc.)? Is identifying as "trans" complicit in homonormativity because it legitimizes gender normativity for teh gayzzz?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix! Working! Working and Netflix!

By which I mean to say radical queer, insurrectionist, unicorn, rad, anti-oppression, rebel, glitter, babe, orgies, of course. So radical. So fierce. So babe! Such radical! Wow!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit

Ok Cupid has seen fit to ruin my rickroll. Curse you, white, straight, dudes who invented this website!!!!
I’m looking for
  • Bi guys only
  • Ages 19–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
I only date crazies and drama queens. Hard limit.

Exceptions can be made for Ugly Betty fans or for Xena fans.