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22 Urbana, IL Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

I am a person with XX chromosomes.
Maybe that's the best way to start.

For straight-identifying cis-boys: You have to be a very special straight-identifying cis-boy for me to be interested in you.


I have identified as many different things. I was assigned female at birth and when I was 17, I came out fully as trans*, and started using masculine pronouns after high school, and started hormone therapy when I was 19, and had a double mastectomy/top surgery procedure.

After a while, living as a boy, when I was so sure of it being the right thing, it started to not feel right anymore, and I stopped therapy, and I have gradually been using 'he' less and less.

I prefer 'they/them/their' pronouns, but I'm currently also accepting 'she,' if you can't wrap your brain around it quite yet....and I most certainly have more of a feminine-of-center. I identify with my birth assignment a bit more, but not necessarily with the word 'woman' as much. I feel safe with other queer, genderqueer, gender fluid people.

That was a mouthful. If you can get past that.

I am still in love. Likely with more than one person. I am also a proud slut. I like people. A lot. Non-monogamous.

I'm thinking about grad school, leaving the area, going to Australia or Maine or France or Canada or California to maybe join the circus. I spend a lot of time performing and training in trapeze, fire arts, aerial silks, stilts, and some more things to come. Do yoga, like to go to the gym. I am a burlesque performer, fire breather and eater, tiny acrobat, and clown in a local burlesque troupe called Carnivale Debauche.

Green-friendly but can't handle smoke. Booze-friendly but can't handle the drink. I'm usually the one too anxious to go to college parties and would rather spend time with a glass of wine with someone, elsewhere.

I like to sing and dance a lot, but sometimes I'm shy about it. Also, kind of a sapiosexual. I have a funny diet and like decorating. Creating art of some sort. I have a thing for tattoos and septum piercings. I think Rooney Mara, Sam Rockwell, Jason Gordon-Levitt, Edward Norton, Lily Cole, Dita Von Teese, and Joe Pug are attractive. I am of the theatre/performance art breed. I am fascinated with commedia dell'arte. I want to be a poly-glot. Speak German to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
1) training for the circus
2) unpacking and coming to under my privilege in this country, and divesting from white supremacy
3) in the serious process of figuring out what is best career path -- finding meaning!
4) re-learning French
5) making art and writing
6) plotting places for graffiti
7) being a total clown
8) managing mental illness
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
losing the key to my apartment, for starters...I can be pretty absent-minded sometimes.

I'm...also pretty good at origami and cooking. Good at climbing things like trees and buildings, ropes and fabrics. Good at fitting into small spaces. Good at speaking in front of large groups of people, as well as working well with animals and kids.

And last, but certainly not least, I'm really good at letting my imagination get out of control.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hm. Not sure anymore.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: this list always changes...but currently!

The Good Faeries of New York by Martin Miller
poetry works by William Blake
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity, by Matt Bernstein Sycamore
Women's Comedic Art as Social Revolution by Domnica Radulescu
Children of Men by PD James
works of Christopher Marlowe
Cunt (an enlightening book)
works of Shel Silverstein
Kitty Kitty Kitty and Mr. Marmalade by Noah Haidle
The Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket
works by Edgar Allan Poe and Lewis Carroll
Original Plumbing and Bitch Magazines
An Evening at the Garden of Allah: A Gay Cabaret, by Don Paulson and Roger Simpson
Anything by Kate Bornstein


Amelie, The City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, and Mic Mac, by Jean Pierre-Jeunet
Girl with the Dragon Tattoo films
Nosferatu, The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari, The Golem, The Hands of Orlac
Metropolis, both the German expressionist and anime versions
Pulp Fiction, Inglourious Basterds, From Dusk Til Dawn
The Legend of the Drunken Master, Fruitvale Station,
Mommy Dearest, The Wizard of Oz, V/H/S
Sid and Nancy, The Fifth Element, or anything else with Gary Oldman in it
Moon (with Sam Rockwell) and Seven Psycopaths, as well as The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus

I am partial to a lot of documentaries, foreign films, things that have to do with the circus, as well as a lot of film from the early 20th century, grindhouse and/or independent film. Have a couple of guilty pleasures, and I like to try to find horror films that scare me!


Against Me!
Agent Ribbons, Amanda Palmer/Dresden Dolls/ Evelyn Evelyn/The Grand Theft Orchestra
Amy Winehouse
Arcade Fire
Artie Shaw
Balkan Beat Box
Bessie Smith
Blackbird Raum
Boards of Canada
Boys Noize
Crystal Castles
Daft Punk
Davina and the Vagabonds
The Dead Weather (Jack White in everything besides The Racounteurs)
Death Cab for Cutie
The Do
Duke Ellington
Edith Piaf
Elliot Smith
Erevan Tusk
FKA Twigs
Gogol Bordello
The Gossip
(some) Green Day
J Alvarez
The Japanese Popstars
Jeff Buckley
Joe Pug
Jose Gonzalez
Josephine Baker
Kap Bambino
Laura Mvula
Laura Veirs
Lou Reed (RIP)
The Misfits
Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds
Nina Simone
Screamin' Jay Hawkins
Sex Pistols
Smokey Robinson
St. Vincent
Tegan and Sara
The Tiger Lillies
Tom Waits
Ute Lemper
Vashti Bunyan
The Velvet Underground
Vermillion Lies
The Who
Xiu Xiu
Yann Tiersen


all vegetables and fruits!
quinoa and quinoa tabbouleh, all things hail quinoa
all different teas
spicy and non-spicy thai food
tempeh, rice
soups are delicious
things with peanut butter/almond butter in them
i LOVE to cook!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A small book planner/organizer
Bones, lest I be a bowl full of jelly
Skeletal Frames of buildings/Pipes -- things I can climb on
Licorice Tea
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The myriad ways in which european/white colonialism has actually fucked almost everything up -- including the way we relate to our very bodies
Privilege -- unpacking my own intersectionality as a white person who is also trans* and mentally ill
Intersectionalities, in general
Psychological stages of development
Poetry, animals, traveling, the future, when I am going to eat or sleep next
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I typically do something different… every Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have BPD and unless the diagnosis changes, Bipolar Disorder. Deal.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Don't fucking message me if you are going to say something transphobic - as in, tell me what I am or am not, ask me what my junk looks like, or anything of that sort. You're on the internet if you're reading this. You can easily hop over to google or bing or whatever the fuck and Trans* 101 yourself. If you do message me with inappropriate things, I will educate you, then block you.

Don't message me if you can't handle my gender fluidity. Or my butt. Or my emotional rollercoasters.

Now the nice part:

Looking for cool folks to exchange informations with -- foods and movies and ideas and worldviews and languages -- Looking for new friends to bring with me to trapeze class -- looking for someone to get dinner or lunch with -- and then maybe more.

Also, message me if you just...want to make a new friend. I like people :) Penpals and such. Sometimes I'm old-fashioned.

Message me if you want to make art and need people to help!

Or... If you need a good, home-cooked vegan or vegetarian or gluten-free meal.