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22 F Urbana, IL

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:42pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am a person with XX chromosomes.
Maybe that's the best way to start.

I have identified as many different things. I was assigned female at birth and when I was 17, I came out fully as trans*, and started using masculine pronouns after high school, and started hormone therapy when I was 19, and had a double mastectomy/top surgery procedure. After a while, living as a boy, when I was so sure of it being the right thing, started to not feel right anymore, and I stopped therapy, and I have gradually been using 'he' less and less. I use 'they' or 'she' now, and most certainly have more of a feminine-of-center. I identify with my birth assignment, but not necessarily with the word 'woman' as much. A lot of people believe me to be intersex! I feel safe with other queer, genderqueer, gender fluid people.

That was a mouthful. If you can get past that.

I am in a relationship and in love! She is my sunshine, a talented poet, a writer, a fellow burlesque dancer and one of the most beautiful people I have met. We are in an open relationship and are not interested in having other 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriend,' but are allowed to have occasionally other sexual partners. She is my primary, and I will not let anything get in the way of that. Communication is key! I am cool to play around ;)

I'm thinking about grad school, leaving the area, going to Australia or Maine or France or Canada or California to maybe join the circus. I spend a lot of time performing and training in trapeze, fire arts, aerial silks, stilts, and some more things to come. Do yoga, like to go to the gym. I am a burlesque performer, fire breather and eater, tiny acrobat, and clown in a local burlesque troupe called Carnivale Debauche.

Green-friendly but can't handle smoke. Booze-friendly but can't handle the drink. I'm usually the one too anxious to go to college parties and would rather spend time with a glass of wine with someone, elsewhere.

I spent some time training at Dell'Arte International School of Physical Theatre in June/July of 2014, and I am going back to study with the grad students of the school's program, in Bali, in January 2015.

I like to sing and dance a lot, but sometimes I'm shy about it. Also, kind of a sapiosexual. I have a funny diet and like decorating. Creating art or some sort. I have a thing for tattoos and septum piercings. I think Rooney Mara, Sam Rockwell, Jason Gordon-Levitt, Edward Norton, Lily Cole, Dita Von Teese, and Joe Pug are attractive. I am of the theatre/performance art breed. I am fascinated with commedia dell'arte. I want to be a poly-glot. Speak German to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
1) training for the circus
2) working a couple of jobs, making coffee and making safe places
3) in the serious process of figuring out what is best career path -- finding meaning!
4) re-learning French
5) making art and writing
6) plotting places for graffiti
7) being a total clown
8) managing mental illness
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
losing the key to my apartment, for starters...I can be pretty absent-minded sometimes.

I'm...also pretty good at origami and cooking. Good at climbing things like trees and buildings, ropes and fabrics. Good at fitting into small spaces. Good at speaking in front of large groups of people, as well as working well with animals and kids.

And last, but certainly not least, I'm really good at letting my imagination get out of control.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably.... What I am wearing - people tell me I dress very well.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: this list always changes...but currently!

The Good Faeries of New York by Martin Miller
poetry works by William Blake
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity, by Matt Bernstein Sycamore
Women's Comedic Art as Social Revolution by Domnica Radulescu
Children of Men by PD James
works of Christopher Marlowe
Cunt (an enlightening book)
works of Shel Silverstein
Kitty Kitty Kitty and Mr. Marmalade by Noah Haidle
The Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket
works by Edgar Allan Poe and Lewis Carroll
Original Plumbing and Bitch Magazines
An Evening at the Garden of Allah: A Gay Cabaret, by Don Paulson and Roger Simpson
Anything by Kate Bornstein


Amelie, The City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, and Mic Mac, by Jean Pierre-Jeunet
Girl with the Dragon Tattoo films
Nosferatu, The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari, The Golem, The Hands of Orlac
Metropolis, both the German expressionist and anime versions
Pulp Fiction, Inglourious Basterds, From Dusk Til Dawn
Mommy Dearest, The Wizard of Oz, V/H/S
Sid and Nancy, The Fifth Element, or anything else with Gary Oldman in it
Moon (with Sam Rockwell) and Seven Psycopaths, as well as The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus

I am partial to a lot of documentaries, foreign films, things that have to do with the circus, as well as a lot of film from the early 20th century, grindhouse and/or independent film. Have a couple of guilty pleasures, and I like to try to find horror films that scare me!


Against Me!
Agent Ribbons, Amanda Palmer/Dresden Dolls/ Evelyn Evelyn/The Grand Theft Orchestra
Amy Winehouse
Arcade Fire
Artie Shaw
Balkan Beat Box
Bessie Smith
Blackbird Raum
Boards of Canada
Boys Noize
Crystal Castles
Daft Punk
Davina and the Vagabonds
The Dead Weather (Jack White in everything besides The Racounteurs)
Death Cab for Cutie
The Do
Duke Ellington
Edith Piaf
Elliot Smith
Erevan Tusk
Gogol Bordello
The Gossip
(some) Green Day
The Japanese Popstars
Jeff Buckley
Joe Pug
Jose Gonzalez
Josephine Baker
Kap Bambino
Laura Mvula
Laura Veirs
Lou Reed (RIP)
The Misfits
Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds
Nina Simone
Screamin' Jay Hawkins
Sex Pistols
Smokey Robinson
St. Vincent
Tegan and Sara
The Tiger Lillies
Tom Waits
Ute Lemper
The Velvet Underground
Vermillion Lies
The Who
Xiu Xiu
Yann Tiersen


all vegetables and fruits!
quinoa and quinoa tabbouleh, all things hail quinoa
all different teas
spicy and non-spicy thai food
tempeh, rice
soups are delicious
things with peanut butter/almond butter in them
i LOVE to cook!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A small book planner/organizer
Bones, lest I be a bowl full of jelly
Skeletal Frames of buildings/Pipes -- things I can climb on
Licorice Tea
Para-Theatrics (the circus)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
privilege, intersectionalities, psychological stages of development, poetry, animals, traveling, the future, when I am going to eat or sleep next
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm either at work, in rehearsal, but lately, I've been trying to go out to spend time with friends. You may occasionally see me at Quality. If I'm not out doing something, I'm at home watching a movie and cooking, or creating something. If I'm tired, I'm sleeping. Trying to find adventure -- either outside or in my dream-land. Spending time with my partner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Interest in kink/BDSM
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Honestly, I don't fully know what my needs are from this site -- they change around. Overall, what I'm looking for is more opportunities to meet cool people, either online or eventually in person. While I listed "casual sex," I'm not looking for someone to just message me asking for that up front. Never know what will happen after getting to know someone in person.

Maybe though, I am secretly interested in a couple who might want a third to play around with. For kicks.

Looking for cool folks to exchange informations with -- foods and movies and ideas and worldviews and languages -- Looking for new friends to bring with me to trapeze class -- looking for someone to get dinner or lunch with -- and then maybe more. Not looking for people who are going to be insensitive to my complex gender history. Not interested in sleeping with people who are younger than me - sorry.

Also, message me if you just...want to make a new friend. I like people :) Penpals and such. Sometimes I'm old-fashioned.

Message me if you want to make art and need people to help!

Or... If you need a good, home-cooked vegan or vegetarian or gluten-free meal.