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  • Ages 24–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 10:02am
Queer, Pansexual, Bisexual
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
My self-summary
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For years I've said that I am a Californian expat living in Maryland, but I just tried to move back to California last autumn, and it didn't really feel right, so I came back. I don't know what that means about what I call myself.

I live in Baltimore now, which is so great, and not at all DC, which is great.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working on a curriculum vitae that reads like one of those dotted-line Family Circus comics. I used to work for an LGBT nonprofit. Before that, I worked for a monster. I recently wrapped up teaching creative writing at UCSC, and that was a pretty rad experience. Some other stuff -- you're not here to hear my whole CV.

Things that I don't know how to do, but I'd like to learn in the coming year or so:

Reading music
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I think I am good at avoiding or containing knee-jerk reactions to new or challenging ideas until I can give them an appropriate amount of reflection.

I'm also pretty proud of the writing I do; I have a few stories and poems published, and I'm hoping that my book-length manuscript gets picked up soon. (But then, aren't we all?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I used to have something sort of snarky here about books, but I deleted it and replaced it with something sincere. I read a lot, because I enjoy knowing and feeling new things. Here are some books I really like, both classic and contemporary:

A Room of One's Own
The Handmaid's Tale
Prelude to Bruise by Saeed Jones
The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison
About a Mountain by John D'Agata
The Captain Asks for a Show of Hands by Nick Flynn
Woman, Native, Other by Trinh Mihn-ha

Music: I can't really tell any more. I grew up on skate- and polisci- punk, but nowadays my taste is pretty broad. Lately I've been on a Roots/Folk/Alt-Country kick. Before that, it was Doo Wop.

TV: I want to tell you that I don't watch television, but that would be a lie. I watch Doctor Who, Orange is the New Black and Orphan Black. Related: I think that it is okay to have problematic favorites, but one has a responsibility to be critical when it is due.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Narrative identity
Status anxiety
Social justice
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really into NPR.
You should message me if
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You want to chat, flirt or connect.

I am Queer (I date and flirt with people of all genders), and I am in a long-term, polyamorous relationship; it would make the most sense if you were comfortable with those traits before messaging me.

Don't message me if you're sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic or generally an unwelcoming person.