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45 Pretoria, South Africa Man


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  • Ages 33-40
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Nov 25
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Buddhism and laughing about it
Post grad
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Afrikaans (Fluently), French (Fluently), Italian (Fluently), Latin (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am a solitary person, but my life is filled with students and with the people and characters I have met in real life, in books - and in my imagination. I am seeking my Dark Lady, my muse, the place I will call home - the starting point of our many travels, both literal and imaginative.

I am a deconstructor, an artist and a reader. I love beautiful and difficult things.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I teach English lit. at a university, and my passion is reading and being with people who are 'Mental Travellers' like me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being myself, being alone, dreaming, teaching things that I love... reading. And my especial delight ... listening to people and understanding them on their own terms.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My silence, most probably!!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love the classics - from Old English to Chaucer and Dante, to Shakespeare - and then a big leap across the centuries (via Sterne and Blake) to the Victorians (Dickens especially), and the Moderns. I am particulalry fond of Yeats, Wallace Stevens, and other Modernist poets and novelists. I don't really like reading stuff written after WWII except Sci-Fi and Fantasy literature (espcially Phillip K. Dick). So much contemporary fiction is simply reinventing the wheel, saying the same thing in ways that I do not find challenging or enlightening. I love Haldor Laxness, Dostoievsky, Jaroslav Hasek - so many - too many. One of my favourite books is the Oxford English Dictionary - the full version, with all the etymologies. Also read a lot of history - especially biography. Am tending more towards non-fiction as I grow up - though I always go back to story at the end of the day.

The movie that haunts me is Tarkovsky's 'Stalker'.

I listen to 'classical' music (Bach, Mozart, etc., though I dislike opera - except in very forgiving moods!). I am into piano concertos - especially the Russians (Rachmaninov, Shostakovitch...). As for pop music, I like mostly Indy and folk music, anything from Dylan onwards. Also groove to bluegrass, heavy metal, some New Age, and electronica, in certain moods. Jazz is also cool - but in managed doses.

I love simple, whole food - especially if it comes from my own garden - a la Jamie Oliver. I go for Indian, Mediterranean, and Thai food, and am not really into 'sophisticated' dining. I love wine, but am not consciously 'connoisseurish' about it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Going on the assumption that ideas have concrete effects - result in THINGS:

The kindness of strangers;
The forbearance of friends;
The understanding of close ones;
The knowledge that I can change;
The clear-sightedness of enlightened beings;
The joy of knowing that the future and past contain infinite possibility; AND
My Macbook (that's seven things, or one!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
History, why things are as they are now, where they come from - and how long they have been in our collective consciousness. I also think about nature, about simplicity, about what makes people happy - and what makes them unhappy. Finally - these are my dark, despairing thoughts - I think a lot about what this planet will be like when we have destroyed it: what it will be like when the sun is our enemy, and not the source of our life and our energy - the time when the dark, cold places of the earth will be the new heaven.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Unwinding after a hectic week, generally home alone.
You should message me if
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You are a traveller and a reader. You are filled with a gentle darkness, a silence resonant with voices of other worlds, and other possibilites for life and living (the imagination relies on quietness, on darkness). You are interested in nature - and human nature. You want to explore, but you also want to create a paradise to go home to, a place where you and yours can live in peace with themselves and others, fulfilling their whole potential.

Or not! Surprise me and make me delete this by being your delightful self!