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29 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:15am
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Not at all
Judaism, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am an intellectual dilettante. I mostly live in Oakland, but I spend a few days a week in Santa Cruz with my primary partner TreetopBrigade.

I'm an INTP, an enneagram type 5, and a recovering sociopath. I am not good relationship material, but I am always looking for new friends.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am currently trying to get it together enough to find a grown up job by honing a quixotic fondness for low-level programming, despite years of evidence that I don't really have a head for it. Sometimes I pitch in with Flux Foundation's interactive sculpture projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am made of knives.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Comics: Craig Thompson, Allison Bechdel, Daniel Clowes, Adrian Tomine, Kazu Kabuishi, Grant Morrison, Kieron Gillen.

Slow-paced movies with sumptuous cinematography that aren't about what they're about. Wong Kar Wai. Terrence Malick. The crisp, syncopated violence of Takeshi Kitano. German Expressionism, Italian Neoralism, French New Wave. Tarkovsky, not Kubrick. P.T. Anderson, the Coen Brothers, Gilliam. Early Disney. Termite Terrace. Pixar. Scorsese for a good time.

Azure Ray. Explosions in the Sky. Beats Antique. Amon Tobin. Lesbians with guitars. Canadian indie pop. Neutral Milk Hotel. Flogging Molly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The presentation of information: Graphic design, color theory, proportion, typefaces. Robert Bringhurst. Donald Knuth. Edward Tufte. Swiss modernism. Graphical User Interface design.

The uses and abuses of language.

Religion, why some people believe in it and why I don't. The Gospel of John, Ecclesiastes, Rumi. Ridiculous theological debates in early Christianity, Sumerian literature, the difference between stories and myths, Advaita Vedanta.

Net neutrality and copyright reform. Civil liberties, term limits, instant runnoff voting, initiative and referendum. Why our government is fucked and what to do about it.

The development of the RNA world, Archaea, the evolution of Eukaryotes, and multicellularity. Photosynthesis and the Oxygen Catastrophe. Evolutionary dead-ends. Slime molds. Trilobites. The Vendian Biota. Diatoms. Biofuels. Stem Cells.

Marcel Duchamp, Jorge Louis Borges, and jokes nobody gets tired of telling.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've actually dropped out of two Ph.D. programs.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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You are an experienced dominant — preferably, taller, older, and maler — who already has a primary and is looking for a low-stakes side dish. You have a firm grip. You know what you want in a physical relationship and you aren't scared to take it. You appreciate unconventional anatomies. You are available on Sunday evenings. It would be pretty fun if you were good with a camera, too.