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58 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:00am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Has kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Summary: open, honest, secure and understanding. Pretty good qualities, don't you think? I'm looking for the same in a partner.

A conversation is worth 10 times a profile. And there's no substitute for spending time together. Nevertheless...

I read in one profile that men like lists. Ooh, good idea.

** Things I find attractive in a partner

great people skills
intelligent and articulate
open communicator
secure and understanding
financially successful
high honesty
healthy eater
appreciates the simple things in life

* STD free
* not prone to addictions
* you had a reasonably healthy childhood

** My love languages (from the Book, The Five Love Languages) in order are:

Physical touch
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Acts of service

I think it's important that we share the same top 3, and preferably the same top 1.

** I see myself as

honest and open. Honesty and openness are what help keep us where we should be in our relationships.

outgoing - I enjoy getting to know people, including striking up a conversation with a stranger in a public place. I also enjoy public speaking.

secure in a lot of ways

looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together. I do want a long term relationship, but it has to be really right for both of us. It's not easy to find that right person. I'll be open and honest along the way.

understanding. For me, understanding is easy. Patience is really the key. We all have things we're more and less patient about. I'm not big on victim thinking, nor low communication. I'm especially patient with occasional irritability. When having a disagreement I try to stand outside of it and understand. I do like to discuss differences and appreciate someone who's secure enough to do the same.

likes cuddling. Some people are wired for touch and some people aren't. I am.

watches maybe 2 spectator sports games per year, and then only socially. An occasional live amateur game can be fun.

tends to make people feel comfortable. Women would say they feel comfortable with me right away. (References available upon request.)

likes occasional road trips to a getaway. Doesn't need to travel much abroad.

enjoys the simpler things in life.

simple, healthy eater, leaning vegetarian. I do like my starch. High brown rice, grain, vegi. Low pastry, pizza, etc. Neither whole foods nor organic are that important to me, so far.

very light social drinker. Usually prefers a non-alcoholic beverage. Will drink a little beer or wine at an outing or with a friend.

financially successful.

not interested in politics.

achiever/adventurer. Formerly, in rough chronological order: running; backpacking; tour cycling; reading (some of) the classics including Russian classics, the Bible and Quran; study of Christian theology; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; Chinese style cooking; sail boat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; sea kayaking, rough water paddling, kayak surfing, roll instruction; chess; dancing, social ballroom, swing, blues.

profession - software development operations (DevOps) engineer for 5 yrs. Chemical engineer, project manager, and people manager in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs before that.

** Cautionary notes. You may not notice these right away, so it's good that I mention them.

I snore like crazy.

I'm kidding. I don't snore. (references available upon request)

I have pattern baldness in the back.

I think life involves too much work.

I like pets, but I would never own one now.

I'm toned down lately on the adventures. There's a tremendous opportunity to get paid to learn in my software field right now. That's my main adventure. I do enjoy walks, short hikes, and social and intellectual activities.

That's enough for now. Winks.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Studying the latest software technologies.
Dating a little
Dancing a little
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people.

Strong in both left brain and right brain (especially in people skills.) Not your stereotypical engineer personality.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My voice. Past comment, "I don't care if you read from the phone book, but keep talking."

That I'm comfortable to talk with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anything with great English usage. Formerly Russian and other classics in English, Terry Pratchett's Disc World series for its humor. Stories with a strong human side. Mostly software study now.

Music: Pretty flexible. I enjoy seeing what you like. As for my own taste, lately, for everyday around the house and working; Everlast, Plush, Alice in Chains, Nirvana, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Santana. For romantic, easy listening; Carla Bruni is great (I feel like I'm in a French Villa when I listen to her,) and lots of other possibilities. For reading, or deep relaxing; classical crossover vocals, classical guitar, some opera with emphasis on female vocals. Country, folk, oldies, offbeat stuff, all ok. Not into metal nor the nastier hiphop. Not that into classic rock any more.

Fav Movies: Forest Gump, Good Will Hunting, Rounders. Movies based on true stories. Dramas. Intrigue.

TV: I have a smart TV with internet only; Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, TED talks. Watch sporadically. Favorites are some of the epic series; The Badge, Breaking Bad, Orange is the new black. Social/competition shows; Survivor, Master Chef.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The female gender
Computers, internet, smart phone
Hiking boots
Physical exercise
Human interaction
Human touch
Intellectual activity
Outdoors and nature
Leeway to break the rules (, as mildly illustrated here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- The type of woman that would be right for me in a relationship, whether I'd be right for her, and whether I attract that type of person.
- Professional development.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes to help fall asleep I imagine holding a woman. Blushing.

Can I share two? I was once kicked out of private pre-school. It wasn't my fault! The kid wouldn't let my twin sister play in the sand box.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You posses these qualities.
* honesty
* secure and understanding
* open communicator
* fit
* healthy eater
* appreciates the simple things in life
* likes touch
* 5'5" - 5'11"

Bonus for
* great people skills
* intelligent and articulate
* financially successful
* a sense of humor, measured entirely by whether you laugh at my jokes. Seriously, banter back and forth is good.

* STD free
* Not prone to addictions
* You had a reasonably healthy childhood