A conversation is worth 10 times a profile. And there's no substitute for spending time together. Nevertheless...
I read in one profile that men like lists. Ooh, good idea.
** Things I find attractive in a partner
great people skills
intelligent and articulate
secure and understanding
appreciates the simple things in life
* STD free
* not prone to addictions
* you had a reasonably healthy childhood
** My love languages (from the Book, The Five Love Languages) in order are:
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
I think it's important that we share the same top 3, and preferably the same top 1.
** I see myself as
honest and open. Honesty and openness are what help keep us where we should be in our relationships.
outgoing - I enjoy getting to know people, including striking up a conversation with a stranger in a public place. I also enjoy public speaking.
secure in a lot of ways
looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together. I do want a long term relationship, but it has to be really right for both of us. It's not easy to find that right person. I'll be open and honest along the way.
understanding. For me, understanding is easy. Patience is really the key. We all have things we're more and less patient about. I'm not big on victim thinking, nor low communication. I'm especially patient with occasional irritability. When having a disagreement I try to stand outside of it and understand. I do like to discuss differences and appreciate someone who's secure enough to do the same.
likes cuddling. Some people are wired for touch and some people aren't. I am.
watches maybe 2 spectator sports games per year, and then only socially. An occasional live amateur game can be fun.
tends to make people feel comfortable. Women would say they feel comfortable with me right away. (References available upon request.)
likes occasional road trips to a getaway. Doesn't need to travel much abroad.
enjoys the simpler things in life.
simple, healthy eater, leaning vegetarian. I do like my starch. High brown rice, grain, vegi. Low pastry, pizza, etc. Neither whole foods nor organic are that important to me, so far.
very light social drinker. Usually prefers a non-alcoholic beverage. Will drink a little beer or wine at an outing or with a friend.
not interested in politics.
achiever/adventurer. Formerly, in rough chronological order: running; backpacking; tour cycling; reading (some of) the classics including Russian classics, the Bible and Quran; study of Christian theology; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; Chinese style cooking; sail boat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; sea kayaking, rough water paddling, kayak surfing, roll instruction; chess; dancing, social ballroom, swing, blues.
profession - software development operations (DevOps) engineer for 5 yrs. Chemical engineer, project manager, and people manager in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs before that.
** Cautionary notes. You may not notice these right away, so it's good that I mention them.
I snore like crazy.
I'm kidding. I don't snore. (references available upon request)
I have pattern baldness in the back.
I'm an optimizer.
I think life involves too much work.
I like pets, but I would never own one now.
I'm toned down lately on the adventures. There's a tremendous opportunity to get paid to learn in my software field right now. That's my main adventure. I do enjoy walks, short hikes, and social and intellectual activities.
That's enough for now. Winks.