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58 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:56am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Summary: open, honest, secure and understanding. Pretty good qualities, don't you think? I'm looking for the same in a partner.

A conversation is worth 10 times a profile. And there's no substitute for spending time together. Nevertheless...

** My love languages, in order (from the Book, The Five Love Languages) are:

Physical touch
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Acts of service

I think of these as the top 3 and the bottom 2. I think it's important that these are pretty closely aligned between partners.

** I see myself as

honest - Honesty helps ensure a good outcome when navigating through difficult situations.

open, outgoing - I enjoy getting to know people, whether it's striking up a conversation in a public place, or walking into a mosque and introducing myself. I also find public speaking to be very rewarding.

secure in a lot of ways

looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together. I do want a long term relationship, but it has to be really right for both of us. It's not easy to find that right person. I'll be open and honest along the way. Are you OK with starting a relationship that might not last?

understanding. For me, understanding is easy. Patience is really the key. We all have things we're more and less patient about. I'm not big on victim thinking, nor low communication. I'm especially patient with occasional irritability. When having a disagreement I try to stand outside of it and understand. I do like to discuss differences and appreciate someone who's secure enough to do the same.

likes cuddling. Some people are wired for touch and some people aren't. I am.

watches maybe 2 spectator sports games per year, and then only socially. An occasional live amateur game can be fun.

tends to make people feel comfortable. Women would say they feel comfortable with me right away. (References available upon request.)

likes occasional road trips to a getaway. Doesn't need to travel much abroad. Been there. One trip to Europe would be nice.

enjoys the simpler things in life.

simple, healthy eater, leaning vegetarian. I do like my starch. Neither whole foods nor organic are that important to me. I get it though.

very light social drinker. Enjoys an occasional (once every few weeks-ish) microbrew. Will drink a little wine with a close friend. Other than that, usually prefers a non-alcoholic beverage.

financially successful. Would like the same in a partner.

not interested in politics.

achiever/adventurer. Formerly, in rough chronological order: running; backpacking; tour cycling; reading (some of) the classics including the entire Bible and Quran; study of Christian theology; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; Chinese style cooking; sail boat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; sea kayaking, rough water paddling, kayak surfing, roll instruction; chess. Avid walker/hiker. Interested in social and intellectual activities. Latest activity is dancing; social ballroom, swing, blues.

profession - software development operations (devOps) engineer for 4 yrs. Before that, chemical engineer, project manager, and people manager in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs.

** Cautionary notes. You may not notice these right away, so it's good that I mention them.

I snore like crazy.

I'm kidding. I don't snore. (references available upon request)

I have pattern baldness in the back.

I'm an optimizer.

I think life involves too much work.

I like dogs, but I would never own one now. Time is a limiter as it is.

That's enough for now. Winks.
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying the latest software technologies.
Dating a little
Dancing a little
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people.

Strong in both left brain and right brain (especially in people skills.) Not your stereotypical engineer personality.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My voice. That I'm comfortable to talk with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything with great English usage. Formerly Russian and other classics in English, Terry Pratchett's Disc World series for its humor. Stories with a strong human side.

Favorite book (if there is one): War and Peace.
Mostly software study now.

Music: Pretty flexible. I enjoy seeing what you like. As for my own taste, lately, for everyday around the house and working; Everlast, Plush, Alice in Chains, Nirvana, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Santana. For romantic, easy listening; Carla Bruni is great (I feel like I'm in a French Villa when I listen to her,) and lots of other possibilities. For reading, or deep relaxing; classical crossover vocals, classical guitar, some opera with emphasis on female vocals. Country, folk, oldies, offbeat stuff, all ok. Not into metal nor the nastier hiphop. Not that into classic rock any more.

Fav Movies: Forest Gump, Good Will Hunting, Rounders. Movies based on true stories. Dramas. Intrigue.

TV: I have a smart TV with internet only; Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, TED talks. Watch sporadically. Favorites are some of the epic series; The Badge, Breaking Bad, Orange is the new black. Social/competition shows; Survivor, Master Chef.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The female gender
Computers, internet, smart phone
Hiking boots
Physical exercise
Human interaction
Human touch
Intellectual activity
Outdoors and nature
Leeway to break the rules. (As mildly illustrated here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- The type of woman that would be right for me in a relationship, whether I'd be right for her, and whether I attract that type of person.
- Professional development.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes to fall asleep I imagine holding a woman. I have a second pillow that acts as a surrogate. Blushing.

Can I share two? I was once kicked out of private pre-school. It wasn't my fault! The kid wouldn't let my twin sister play in the sand box.
You should message me if
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You posses these qualities.
* honesty
* secure and understanding
* open communicator
* fit
* healthy eater
* appreciates the simple things in life
* likes touch
* 5'5" - 5'11"

Bonus for
* great people skills
* intelligent and articulate
* financially successful
* a sense of humor, measured entirely by whether you laugh at my jokes. Seriously, banter back and forth is good.

* STD free
* Not prone to addictions
* You had a reasonably healthy childhood