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  • Ages 48–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Has kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm in Vancouver, WA, and thinking about moving to Bend. I work mostly remote so can easily live within 200 miles of Portland.

** my love languages in order are (from the Book, The Five Love Languages):

physical touch
words of affirmation
quality time
acts of service

I think it's important that we share the same top 3, and preferably the same top 1.

** I see myself as

secure and understanding, open and honest. Women consistently say that I'm a nice guy. Sometimes it surprises me a little.

strong in both left brain and right brain (especially in people skills.) Not your stereotypical engineer personality.

cerebral. Enjoys deep thinking and deep conversations. Balance of course.

romantic and passionate

healthy eater, leaning vegetarian. I do like my carbs.

very low addictive personality. Maybe a little compulsive, especially about self improvement, and food.

very light social drinker. Often prefers a non-alcoholic beverage.

likes occasional road trips to a getaway.

appreciates the simple things in life.

doesn't follow spectator sports. Might enjoy a few games/year socially.

not interested in politics.

likes the outdoors but not a sun worshipper. Prefers to be outdoors in overcast or rain, or in the late afternoon and evening in the summer.

likes to pick up new activities for the adventure and learning curve. Examples included, in roughly chronological order: running; tour cycling; study of English literature and writing; Chinese-style cooking; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; sail boat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; rough water sea kayaking and Greenland-style rolling; steel tip darts; chess; social ballroom and blues dancing, guitar. Most of these are in the past. Walking, hiking, dancing, social/intellectual activities, still good. I'm a natural distance swimmer and deeply enjoy a swim along the shoreline of a lake in the fall, and some relaxation on shore. Makes for a wonderful day.

was married for 33 years. Separated then divorced, since December, 2012. Low baggage.

I'm looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together, holding hands, occasional road trips. I'm flexible on dating style, and want you to be comfortable. Interim dating until we find the right person. Friends first, or move quickly. I've done both. I crave that last, long term relationship. Don't most of us? It's not easy though to find that right person, in both directions, and we shouldn't settle. I'll be open and honest along the way.

profession - software development operations (DevOps) engineer for 6 yrs. Chemical engineer and management in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs before that.

** Fun facts

I was once kicked out of private daycare. It wasn't my fault! The kid wouldn't let my twin sister play in the sandbox.

I can almost juggle.

I passed the Navy Seals swim and run entrance test in Navy boot camp. I failed the push-ups though. (grumpy face)

I snore like crazy.

I'm kidding. I don't snore.

I have pattern baldness in the back.

My first name is Paul

I lied. I can't almost juggle.

** Things I'm looking for in a long term partner.

roughly matched financially
physical chemistry
emotional chemistry
high integrity
we share some of the same interests

- STD free
- not prone to addictions

I'm flexible for interim dating. We'd just need to have fun together, or be able to learn or grow from our time together. And that first thing under "Musts."

** That's all for now.

Let the real getting to know each other begin.
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying the latest software technologies.
Dating a little
Dancing a little
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people.

Strong in both left brain and right brain (especially in people skills.) Not your stereotypical engineer personality.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My voice. That I'm comfortable to talk with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything with great English usage. Formerly Russian and other classics in English, Terry Pratchett's Disc World series for its humor. Stories with a strong human side. Mostly software study now.

Music: Pretty flexible. I enjoy seeing what you like. As for my own taste, lately, for everyday around the house and working; Everlast, Plush, Alice in Chains, Nirvana, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Santana. For romantic, easy listening; Carla Bruni is great (I feel like I'm in a French Villa when I listen to her,) and lots of other possibilities. For reading, or deep relaxing; classical crossover vocals, classical guitar, some opera with emphasis on female vocals. Country, folk, oldies, offbeat stuff, all ok. Not into metal nor the nastier hiphop. Not that into classic rock any more.

Fav Movies: Good Will Hunting, Rounders. Movies based on true stories. Dramas. Intrigue.

TV: I have a TV with internet only; Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, TED talks. Watch sporadically. Favorites are some of the epic series; The Badge, Breaking Bad, The Newsroom. Social/competition shows; Survivor, Master Chef.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The female gender
Computers, internet, smart phone
Hiking boots
Dance shoes
Physical exercise
Human touch
Intellectual activity
Outdoors and nature
Leeway to break the rules (as mildly illustrated here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Hmm, should I date that person or not?
- If I could live anywhere in the US, where would I want to live?
- If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I want to live?
- Professional development.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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