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49 M Alameda, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:40pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Powerful, masculine "guy's guy" who's very comfortable in his skin: relaxed, open, and convinced there's nothing you can do that's more important than being fulfilled in life.

"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain."

Present & honest, balanced with a healthy dose of Alpha -- my 4 older sisters taught little bro well re: how to treat a woman. Done serious & long-term internal work, am fairly well-read & -traveled. As comfortable at Ecstatic Dance as the boardroom. And I love my mom b/c here's her advice on relationships (to anyone who asks how my parents have remained together lovingly for 67 years):

We didn't leave ourselves a way out.

(Not the most romantic answer, Mom, but thanks for modeling commitment. And for never taking yourself or life too seriously. Now stop telling every Republican you meet that they're mean.)
What I’m doing with my life
Building a dream business slowly and deliberately, maybe 30 hours a week, keeping a schedule filled with connecting with friends, daily Daddy-daughter time, traveling, intimacy and adventure.
I’m really good at
being gratefully masculine while still communicating deeply & openly -- w/o dominating or withdrawing into self-pity. Run rings around most men in this arena, able to articulate what's going on inside easily and powerfully w/o a need to be taken care of. I'm on a quasi-mission of shame-free and fun/magical self-expression where my partner & I create a safe and fabulous space to explore, connect, grow and most importantly, enjoy. It's one thing doing this with friends, but it's time now to add pleasure & intimacy -- with all the risk & rewards with the Goddess.
The first things people usually notice about me
My warm smile -- I'm open and kind, & comfortably put people at ease
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: East of Eden, Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas, Catch-22
flix: 2001, The Station Agent, Wings of Desire, Raising Arizona
music: African & jazz -- currently on a Mechelle Ndegeocello jag
food: Thai (OK, Italian -- wait, Mexican!)
The six things I could never do without
exercise (hoops & hiking)
my daughter's smiling face
I spend a lot of time thinking about
ways to live in the tropics part of each year while fulfilling a mission to create a very cool business -- and remain sanely detached

while so many seemingly lose sight of real priorities (health, family, connection, love, joy), I feel gratitude for the gift of being alive and won't be shortchanged by fear or others' projections or judgments
On a typical Friday night I am
Having dinner then seeing a film or ballgame with friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My guilty pleasure: Hall & Oates
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–48
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are:

-VERY kind
-know a little about gratitude
-you've done some work on yourself & know how to honor a man
-you're still wondering if there really is a handsome guy who can be both masculine and understanding/compassionate at the same time
-ready for connecting in a way you maybe never have before

BONUS points if you can figure which one of these is untrue:
1) I have the honorary title of Liboni to a Massai tribe after being "married" in a mock ceremony to 3 Tanzanian women
2) I had 3 tryouts with the Cincinnati Reds
3) was shot at 5x by a crackhead while jump-starting my car at 3am in Oakland circa 1992.