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Arathea

35 / F / Bisexual / Married

Grand Prairie, Texas

Her Details

Last Online
Apr 28
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 0″ (1.52m).
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Clerical / Administrative
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
First off, please, I'm married. I don't want to be rude, but I'm happily married. I'm not going to "hook up". I am not looking for nor will I respond to men (or women) who ask for that or want that. You're wasting your (and my) time. Please. I hate to be rude, but no. I put up a bad picture of me just to go "NO!"

Now... for the rest of the profile.

I'm a short, round-ish, bouncy, poly geekette redneck.

I am a lover of life, new experiences, and learning. I have dozens of hobbies ranging from wilderness survival, camping, hiking, kayaking, nanotech, physics (quantum physics hurts my brain but it hurts so good!), cooking, archaeology, sewing, fishing, and many many more.

I believe in living by the Golden Rule. Treat others as you want to be treated.
What I’m doing with my life
The obvious answer to this is working and playing... but what does that mean?

What I'm doing with my life? Being a great friend to my friends.. both old and new. Learning everything I can. Getting out there and experiencing this lifetime. Believing that everybody has good and bad in them, and that they choose what kind of person they are and what kind of life they are going to have. I choose to spend this life happy.
I’m really good at
Honestly, just about anything I touch... although sports are simply beyond me.... oh, and head games. I never learned that supposedly female thing. I can draw up some really great designs for gardens... as long as you give me graph paper and don't expect art ;)

I'll feed you some of the best alfredo you've ever had in your life, debate the merits of sunshine and fresh air versus prescriptions for treatment of depression. I'll go fishing and catch a ton of crappie, or go swing dancing and get blisters on the soles of my feet cause I didn't sit down all night long. I may not be the best ever at whatever I attempt, nor may I be the fastest, but I love to give it a try.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am very shy when I first meet you. I don't do well in crowd type situations at all. I'm overweight, and while I am constantly working on it and almost never sitting still, I do have a real medical condition that does not make losing weight very doable no matter how active I am. Once you do draw me out of my shell, I will talk your ear off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I don't even know where to start on this one! I love Science Fiction and Fantasy for my fiction. I tend to collect antique books, and my latest find was a 1918 edition canning and food preservation bible. I love this book. Or a book from 1824 about the history of the United States.

When I'm in the library, its kind of like a buffet. I tend to go through just about every section and dig for treasures. I am picky about what I read though. It can't be misinformation, it must be up to date information (unless I'm specifically going over old stuff) about whatever it is I'm studying, and my fiction writers must be good. I really do like Bujold.

Absolutely favorite author of all time and an all around great guy is a local wordsmith by the name of Daniel Meyer. I strongly suggest checking out his site if you have a touch of wanderlust or love motorcycles or both! His web page address is http://lifeisaroad.com/ and he has a few sample stories up for you to read... but that's just the tip of the iceberg!

Movies - I have a hard time sitting through movies. I get bored really easily and while I don't mean to wander off, it just happens. What tends to get my attention is good action flicks, cheezy kung fu, and historical stuff.

Music - Again, I'm all over the place here. Anything from bouncy techno and j-pop, to bluegrass, renaissance hymnals, and country. I LOVE old fiddle music from the turn of the century, and have played the violin and piano since I was 3.

My main requirements with music is that
#1 it must take talent to play. Strumming one dang key over and over and over, or singing no more than three notes can turn me off. .... ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE OFF KEY!
#2 Please don't depress me. Hey, your girlfriend left you, your dog died, your grammaw got run over by a train, it sucks, but I want to hear things that make me happy! Not crap that depresses me or worse, pisses me off.
#3 Don't just be offensive to be offensive. I understand shock value in making a point, but there's rap lyrics out there that just make me want to strangle people. Don't you have any self respect whatsoever?????

Food - At one fell swoop, I'm a picky eater, and I'm not. I'll TRY just about anything, but I detest food that is prepared improperly. I want to try balut someday. I'll try dog if I ever go to china or wherever. I adore sushi and have to be really careful thinking about it or I will start craving it. I love turnip greens and chicken gizzards and cornbread and a good pot of pinto beans.

I don't like foods that have been cooked to death. Bad tex-mex. Other various and sundry items that people manage to mess up so badly you're going "What did that poor animal ever do to you?"
The six things I could never do without
Well, I already mentioned one of these from the very beginning - New information. I NEED to be learning something new sometime during the week. Preferably every day.

I need my cuddles. I was married for 10 years, and for the last few, we didn't sleep together. I would take a pillow to bed every night to cuddle around. I can't sleep without it. I just need to feel someone there.

Adventures! Something to get the problem solving lady to the fore! Whether its hiking a difficult rocky canyon, driving a twisty rutted dirt road in the middle of nowhere, canoeing down a tree clogged river, or just a nice leisurely walk through the neighborhood listening to the coyotes.

Someone to bounce ideas off of. Debate with, argue with, tell me I'm right or I'm wrong. Someone to set me galloping off in some fun new direction by feeding my creative side. Someone to share my adventures, trials, and victories with... and to kiss my nose when I fall flat on my face.

Simply taking the moment to feel the warm sunshine, to listen to the wind, to enjoy being alive.

As much as I hate to admit it, and tend to forget, I do need sleep. It is fairly important to the enjoyment of life. So, as much as I tend to forget that I need it, then get smacked upside the head by my body going SLEEP! NOW! it does have a place in this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever little project I've got going on. Late winter and early spring and I'm going nuts wanting to get out there and plant something. My green thumb gets all kinds of twitchy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing something. Exactly what that is varies depending on the funding and weather. If its nice, I'm wanting to drive somewhere, go fishing, or something like that. If its nasty, well... Come game with me!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a pretty low bullsh*t tolerance. The universe must make sense to me. Politics, religion, spirituality, how we relate to other people, all gets examined the same way. I'm a devout libertarian, but I don't follow any rules of thinking. You'll find similar beliefs to my own from Ronald Reagan and Milton Friedman. Personal wealth comes from hard work. I don't believe anybody has any claim to what somebody else worked hard for. I'm a forever questioning agnostic... I don't KNOW, but I have a good idea. I hate labeling myself as Christian, even though I do believe in the power of prayer and of the human mind to overcome many obstacles. I believe in science, in man's ability to shape the universe, and in our own ingenuity and hard work.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 30–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
I am looking for somebody to game with! Guys or gals. Old D&D or Gurps or shadowrun folks. We are looking to put together a gaming group! There's got to be some gamers out there somewhere.

**EDIT** We just started gaming with a new group this past Friday 8/17. Don't know how long this is going to last... but I'm going to leave this up here for now.

Here is the general outline of the game we're wanting to play.
Random RPG scenario concept -- have the players look up some retired or killed characters from any "historical" campaign (or make a new one from some point in the past....then imagine that some of the Y2K predictions happened -- computers failed, the collapse of civilization...oh, and let's not forget the Second Coming....what if the dead rose, including your player's characters into this panic-fueled modern world with every electronic thing unreliable and religion proven true (they'd be susceptible to Turn Undead by true believing priests, for example) -- randomize a bit what kind of undead they return as (maybe hale and hearty, maybe just a ghost, incorporeal but retaining their intellect)...and they need to learn to work together, perhaps with one player who's from the modern world and survived the initial cataclysm....

Please message me if you're interested! We're wanting to game.

Realize I am very much taken. I am one of a triad - two girls and one very lucky guy. If you want to see my other two, look at happycouplearl. I am not interested in any relationships other than my own.