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48 M San Francisco, CA

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Because I grew up in the Bay Area, and because my high school experience was eerily similar to what went down in "Dazed & Confused," and because I basically had no parental supervision whatsoever, I'm still inclined to use the phrase "just cold kickin' it"—but almost always ironically.

I'm an editor/journalist who covers consumer technology. (You know those "techies" who all original San Franciscans hate? Yeah, I write about them.) So that's my job, but I often think I'd rather be one of those political pundits who appears on Lawrence O'Donnell or Rachel Maddow and riffs about "McCain-Feingold" or "Simpson-Bowles." Just one problem, though: I know these are bipartisan reform acts, but I have no idea what they really mean.

If you meet me in person, and if we really click and let all that ultra-polite small talk evaporate away, I trust you'll find me skeptical, opinionated, and even slightly misanthropic—but also demonstrably, emphatically warm and engaging. I'm an INTJ.

I am practiced in looking askance. I do not approve of mustaches. When I think of the TheOnion website, I proclaim silently, in my head, "L'onion!" in a thick French accent. I dislike various words, but will nonetheless use them when proper context and/or specificity is required. These include foodie, ointment, panties, moist, and crumpet.

Romance is tough. It often feels almost unlikely. But who knows. If we can cut through the unseemly over-sharing of OKCupid (and I'm as guilty as anyone), something might just happen. Please mail me if you think I might make you laugh, and vice versa.

Oh, and my pictures are up-to-date and I really am 6-feet-tall. But not an inch taller.
What I’m doing with my life
I would like to say I'm on a path of self-discovery, but I think that might be the tagline for "Rochelle, Rochelle." So let me just share the following. I've got a lot of my shit in order: Career, home, canine companion. I have my hobby boxes ticked off too (racing, home improvement projects, design, playing with my dog). I'd like to learn how to snowboard and travel more, which leads to the nagging "lack of a girlfriend" dilemma.

I'm looking for someone who's just as much my best friend as girlfriend (sorry, the term "partner" also belongs on my annoying word list). I thrive in being in that space where I adore someone, and I know she adores me, and we're each other's strongest advocate, supporter, defender, and so on. On the grand continuum of human behavior, I'm an independent person, and I find that trait attractive in others as well. Still, when you really, magically* click with someone, those two independent streaks can thrive together, just as much as alone.

(*Yes, I just used the word "magically" and I do feel bad about it.)
I’m really good at
Hmmm. Here's some stuff I do, and often do well:
(1) Writing.
(2) Being a leader of men and women--at least at work.
(3) Heel-toe downshifting. Look it up. It's a thing.
(4) Playing bass guitar.
(5) Cooking Italian food, and entertaining friends.
(6) Being really, really sweet to all dogs and cats.
(7) Building planter boxes for vegetable gardens, digging ditches and holes, and helping you out with rudimentary electrical work and simple car maintenance (oil changes, brake pads, that sort of thing).

Bonus answer: Things I'm BAD at: Getting a good night's sleep; controlling the amount of dog hair that sticks to my clothes; maintaining a good haircut schedule; and a whole host of fundamental "human things," because anyone who thinks he or she is even close to perfect is delusional. This is the most instructive thing about online dating and romance in general.
The first things people usually notice about me
One time a co-worker told me I "speak like a lawyer" because I say phrases like "with respect to" and "post facto." Beyond that... physically? I'm definitely not short, but also not towering tall. Full head of non-gray hair, somehow, miraculously, at my advanced age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books and magazines: I read mostly non-fiction. Love all the Malcolm Gladwell stuff. I read the New Yorker and The Atlantic religiously. Oh, and almost daily I see what's new on SFGate and Daily Mail.

Movies: Once a year I re-watch Magnolia, Gangs of New York, Glengarry Glen Ross, Wages of Fear, and American Buffalo. I also love anything with Will Ferrell and Kristen Wiig.

TV: OK, I will not try to run away from this one. I do watch TV. Boardwalk Empire, Game of Thrones, Girls, Bill Maher. Loved True Detective. My hands-down favorite TV show of all time is Deadwood.

Music: Popular British Invasion (Beatles, Stones, Kinks); more obscure British Invasion (The Creation, The Action, Small Faces, Pretty Things); 60s ye-ye and freakbeat; certain strains of metal; jazz (Miles, Eddie Jefferson, Mingus Big Band); old punk/new wave (Elvis Costello, Patti Smith, Talking Heads, Clash... favorite band of all time: The Jam); hip-hop (Jurassic, De La Soul).

Good god. I just listed my musical tastes. Please join me in throwing up.

Art/Design: Pantone swatch books, Lichtenstein, Mondrian, Calder, SF and NYC MOMA, perforated metal, industrial salvage items, Eichler houses and mid-century furniture. I'm a writer/editor by trade, but I have a design background too.

Yep, I actually just wrote that.

Food: White burgandy. The pizza at Gialina and Pizzeria Mozza. The octopus at La Ciccia. The salad at House of Prime Rib. My own crazy-insane asparagus appetizer. Oh, and I've been doing a lot of interesting things with brussels sprouts lately.

How pretentious is THAT?!
The six things I could never do without
(1) Reading material.
(2) Close friends.
(3) Dogs.
(4) Poop bags (see dogs).
(5) Regular exercise, if only for the endorphins.
(6) Numbered lists. OKC thinks it's got the market cornered on numbered lists? No. Wrong. This website offends me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I don't really spend much time thinking about this, but I have noticed that yoga has become a rather popular form of exercise. Yet, strangely, you wouldn't know it from the near complete lack of yoga-related photography and references on OKC. Bizarre, I know.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday has never been a big night for me, as the work week takes its toll. If I'm in a relationship, it might involve going out to eat with my GF, or cooking at home together, and just looking forward to the weekend. If I'm single--like I am now--it might involve grabbing a quick drink after work with friends, or having dinner with a friend or friends, but more likely me picking Whiskey** up from daycare, working out, then chilling for the night (and probably watching Bill Maher).

**Whiskey is a dog. But wouldn't it be awesome if I named a kid Whiskey?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I feel comfortable with someone, I'm not private at all. I relish reaching that point in a relationship where my GF and I can both share our innermost secrets, our demons, our fears, everything. It's liberating. And it builds deeper bonds. But, no, upon second thought, I'm not going to share truly private or intimate information in my OKC profile. The site is sort of sketchy, and who knows where my information will end up (we already know that people post other people's OKC profiles on Tumblr). San Francisco can be a small town, and I really don't want former co-workers, current co-workers or future co-workers knowing all my business. Speaking of which, hello co-workers! Let's grab coffee some time to share stories :)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You should message me if you're funny, warm, and creative, and you think I will make you laugh, and vice versa.